10 Questions About Being Cool Ending With Are You Cool?

Discovering what is cool can be a difficult task when there are so many factors in place…

Such as the generation perceiving it, social status, peer pressure, illegal issues, advertisement claims, and any current media device attempting to create a cool trend.  I have recently posted a small survey on the high status value of a cool person. As I said on my being cool page I believe cool is a state of mind. It is how we think and how we react to what is around us regardless of outside thought of how other view us. Also believing yourself to be cool, may not be enough. Looking in the mirror affirming everyday that you are a cool man or woman might help but in the end it has to develop inside of you and become an unconscious trait which resides in your personality.

Is being cool all in your head?

1.) Can dressing in style make you cool, if nothing else about you is?

Of course not. But the other is true. Being cool will usually mean you can wear whatever you want and people will somehow still think your attire is in style. Whether it is or not. Cool people generally will start the trends and fashion because they seem have more respect from those around them.

2.)Can driving a certain car give you instant cool status?

I suppose when you think about it, yes. Only because your personality doesn’t show inside a car. Generally speaking. If you spin your tires a lot, blast the large boomed bass, you personality might show through then. But let’s assume someone is driving along obeying the rules and appears quite comfortable in his cool car. Now since he or she looks cool in that car what happens when that same person opens the doors and presents who they really are?

3.)Can having lots of money make you instantly cool?

Instantly cool. Highly doubt it and most people with lots of cash may not ever really know how cool they are, at least through someone else’s eyes. People with money are constantly being told things that they may not ever believe, or trust as sincere.

4.)Can being cool make an average looking guy more attractive?

Definitely if you believe my definition of a cool person. Because I’m pretty cool. It’s the attitude of that average looking guy that makes him attractive to women. Read my definition, it went like this:

“Being cool I believe is a state of mind.  It is the ability for anyone individual to deal with a situation in a calm yet strong manner.A cool man or woman does not bend easily to outside interference. Cool people  do not give in to peer pressure or create that same pressure to the individuals around them. Cool people have a way of handling certain problems in their lives which make it seem effortless. They rarely “Fly off the handle”. They rarely get upset or show strong negative emotions towards others.”

5.)Does a nice average looking guy have to be cool, to be considered attractive?

I wouldn’t consider it a definite but there should be those personality traits in that man if he wishes to be seen as an attractive man.

6.)Does the media decide what is cool?

I guess it does play its role in things. After all media is a form of communication. It’s a way for one person to get their ideas out into the public world. It a means to convey creative art in it’s many forms, It’s a way to advertise a product and sometimes cool guys can make a lot of money that way. sometime unfortunately not cool people make the money too.

7.)Do you find anything cool that a previous generation has also?

We are all guilty of this. The seventies had some fifties, the eighties had some sixties, the ninety had some seventies, the )zero zeros?( had some seventies in it. The tens will have some seventies in it. Wait! am I noticing a pattern here? Were the seventies really that great? Are we all just looking for our next Brady Bunch experience? Come to think of it. Is the Brady Bunch cool these day. It wasn’t for at least three years in the eighties.

8.)How would you define cool?

Not too hot. Not too cold. It’s the third bed in that three bears story. The third porridge. It’s the state in between being angry and being sad. When you are completely at ease with yourself.  When you’re totally comfortable in your own skin. I once heard Doctor Paul state it like this.

“The ability to step outside yourself, look back, make judgments, coach yourself and tweak your behavior in real time.make conscious real time decisions. “

9.)Why do cool people seem to get more out of life?

The statement above says it all. Cool people get more out of life because they live thier lives more in the moment and yet manage to make sound choices. Those choices may not always be the best ones, and sometimes they re wrong but their “coolness” means they will handle the results in a strong confident manner by which to learn by.

10. Do you think you are cool?

Honestly me, of course, how else could I write these pages on being cool. Seriously I still have some issues at certain locations in which I need to overcome. So I am confidently up to 92%.But I constantly work on them My biggest issues are my job and I do something everyday, a little or a lot, to change them. Each day I give a little extra to overcoming any of my issues. Today for an example I worked on a project with an co-worker of mine that I just met. At the end of the project the new boss came up and said to the other guy, “ Great Job.” Now since I struggle with complete coolness at work, and I know because I have to look back at the experience to realize what I did wrong. Which is a clear sign you are not being cool. Instead of demanding the new boss acknowledge me by saying something like, “Excuse me. This was a joint effort and this is my area.” Yet for all I know that might have worked out worse than what I did after. I walked up the other worker and said to him, “Larry(fake name) did I NOT help you out today?” Of course he was dumbfounded and said back , “Well at least we got it done.“, then buried his head in his chest and looked to the floor. I then said, “Well I was under the impression that we worked together. I guess you weren’t.”

I’ve included this page to make a point to the nice guys or perhaps some women that might be reading this. I believe being cool can make you a more attractive person. Just don’t get caught in the idea that being cool is actually a trend or fashion that must be followed. In the end your attitude and how you handle yourself in your life make you cool. If you focus on the inner part of it you should never have to declare your coolness to others. They will sense it in you. They will also sense one important issue when dealing with the dilemma nice people sometimes have, particularly the guys, it’s that’s the ability to be confident in how you approach any problem which may arise in your life. Any person that handles life in a cool manner can not help but to attract the opposite sex. It’s a side effect of a complete inner game.

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