4 Negative, 3 Positive, and 1 Video on Body Language to Increase Attraction.

I can not emphasize enough how understanding body language is a great skill to learn if you want to attract women. Most advice I see out there, or what men seem to be searching for,  is on how to tell if she likes you. Granted it can be important. Most nice guys fail to see a woman’s non-verbal communication is giving you a green light.

But I feel it is more important that you learn to control you own body language first.

Looking back and thinking about my own body language I wasn’t aware of how my nice guy qualities would be seen only as friendship status, because that’s what my body was communicating.

To help you out on this short course on body language I’ve included a link to a video with still pictures and no sound., Only text so you can really get a glimpse of what is going on.

(I know, I laughed my ass off too when I first saw this on Utube. I mean look at Bob in a few of the examples. The maker claims he is doing one thing but I’m willing to bet Bob wasn’t feeling very well that day at all. Poor Bob!)

Please keep in mind men and women will usually exhibit so much body language at any given moment it can be very hard to detect what is actually going on inside their heads unless you become an expert at reading it. Another great reason focusing on yourself is so much more important.

4 Negative body language mistakes to avoid:

Let’s take a look a some of the big mistakes I see men make everyday when it comes to how they present themselves to a woman.

Hiding Something (0:49)

If you see someone like this it appears they are hiding something. Most of the time they are hiding who they are. They are afraid of showing who they are for fear they will not be liked.

You may tell yourself that you don’t care what others think but these habits began long ago dating back to your childhood. In other words just because you say it, doesn’t mean your body putting out that message.

You will hear that 90% to 95% of what you say is communicated through your body so be aware. Try to catch yourself in the hiding something stance and if you do, stop it! Find another pose to present yourself confidently to others.  Just because a women may not believe outwardly that you are actually hiding something, her inner mind is thinking you are afraid, you don’t feel competent, and so on. It’s real hard to feel attraction for someone who is telegraphing this body language.

Threatened or Rejection (1:10)

I see this type of posture way too much from men. The video suggests it is rejection. And it can look like that at the moment of rejection but I’ve found when one man has been turned down many times his posture actually becomes similar without him even knowing it.

Rejection can be used as a good thing when you learn from it. When you don’t learn from it your body, over time, will exhibit this kind of energy. That is why you must catch it, eliminate it, fix it, learn from the experience you were just rejected and allow your body to take the shape of someone who has a great outlook.

Hiding Anxiety (2:04)

Notice the way poor Bob has decreased the space he has taken up with his body.

His hands are stuck together and it appears again, that he is hiding something.

You may not be actually hiding something as if you were lying but hiding away causes a woman to not trust your sincerity. Do you think if I were to say to a woman,

“I really like your eyes.“,

but my body was displaying anxiety, that she would believe me?  Of course not!  She would assume I have every intention of just wanting to getting in her pants.  This is why how you communicate with your body is so important. Removing these negative signals opens up a whole world of possibilities and you may even find that something you said over and over again for years, suddenly now works. It wasn’t the words. It’s how you said them and the way you present your body.

More Concealment (3:47)

Disregard the crossing of her legs because it’s feminine. Most men do not cross their legs in this way but they do tuck their legs in, and slightly clench their hands on something when they are concealing a trait in their personality.

Maybe you’re afraid she won’t like you so you subconsciously attempt to hide your true self.  No matter who you are, or at what point in your life you are at, if you’re a nice guy with good intentions, don’t try to hide it.

3 Positive Ways to Communicate with Women through your Body Language:

Let’s take a look at what you can work on to allow a woman to instantly assume you are worth talking to.

Confidence (0:15)

This is a strong posture for any confident person. This is a woman doing this and I’m assuming you’re  a guy so you should open your legs and take up as much space as possible. It’s a strong position to take and women probably will not just jump your bones but it will open her up to you more easily. Which will allow you to use your flirty personality without coming off as creepy. Both of these used together, flirting and confidence, is a great mix which creates attraction. Women are drawn towards men like this.

Engaging (1:44)

Betty again. I think she likes you man! Hahaha!

This is about you, not her. So please don’t let your legs appear that way to most people if you are a man. Unless you want to engage another man I suppose.

But using a strong confident posture above and then occasionally leaning in, getting to the edge of the chair to listen to a few sentences from a woman lets her know you are genuinely interested in hearing what she has to say. Just don’t do it too much because it will appear needy.

Lightly add it to your repertoire.

If you are getting closer to her and she is responding openly to you. Grab her hand for a second and then as you lean back let the back of her hand feel your fingertips roll off of her. Then go back to taking up space in your confident posture.

This sends so many flirting signals to a woman. It says,

“I hear what you are saying. I understand you are feeling attracted to me. I’m not afraid to touch you casually. And now I’m going to lean back and make you wonder if I’m really that much into you.”

I find it so amazing how all this is connected and how getting just one piece right at the proper moment can open up so many more opportunities. Yet getting one thing wrong can shut the door quickly and you’re left there wondering what the hell just happened?

Posing (2:47)

Posing shows confidence in your looks. It shows the world around you have high self-esteem regardless of your looks. You don’t have to be a drop dead gorgeous man to pose. In the video the hips are mentioned. Don’t confuse this thinking because she is a woman you shouldn’t focus on your hips.

Your pelvis region is a sign of your fertility as a man. It is where you thrust towards a woman and it is deeply rooted in her subconscious that a strong midsection is the sign of a masculine man. Relaxed open hips in a posing manner says to women that there’s a great possibility you are great in bed. They must remain free and easy.

If you are struggling with this you might want to look into Rob Brinded’s material on natural movement. He can do wonders for freeing up your body and allowing it to more naturally function in a strong sexual way. He also has program designed specifically on attracting women through your body language.

It’s called the Code Of the Natural. I highly recommend it myself because I use it everyday. Please look below for more information.

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