Ask yourself the question about how bad you want or need sex and the answer might surprise you. Why is this?

I asked myself that very question almost twenty years ago and the answer was not good enough. It was not good enough for me to get that part of my life handled. It was not good enough to force myself to find and develop the parts of me women find irresistibly attractive, despite the fact that I wasn’t a rich gorgeous man. I fully admit and saw who I was when I looked in the mirror as being an average looking, below average height, skinny but muscular man. As each year passed in my life the beliefs I had about who I was changed or rearranged itself to fit the current dry spell of getting laid. So each failure with a girl led me to a new belief and I wasn’t even aware that they were piling up in my head.

When a tall woman turned me down it was because I was too short. When a

How bad do you want attractive women in your life?

How bad do you want attractive women in your life?

highly attractive woman turned me down it was because I wasn’t good looking enough. When a sexually open woman turned me down it was because I didn’t have enough sex with other girls.

There came a tipping point in my life when I ran out of excuses, or really ran out of different types of women that turned me down. At which time I began looking at the other side. I would then think like…. this  extremely overweight woman wants me so only big women are attracted to me. Or this divorced woman with three kids at age twenty three wanted me so I would believe she just must be settling with me.

All those excuses came from a man that obviously did not want to get laid bad enough. How could he if he settled for no sex for long periods of time without doing the real work involved. How badly could he really want woman in his life sexually if he wasn’t willing to repair his bruised ego and lowered confidence. His beliefs now fully encapsulated in,

“How could I have confidence with women if I have no successes with them?”

Seems strange to think my self esteem could be high enough when I’ve been turned down so many times I might as well been road kill that was laying on the hot pavement for weeks, before finally decaying and blending into the scenery.

Again now, honestly ask yourself that question, how bad do you want to get laid? How bad do you want women in your life that find you sexually attractive and they turn you on too. Ask yourself is it really worth your time or investment to become that person you find it even to difficult dreaming of. I say it is worth it. It was for me and I can’t tell you how good it feels to not have the branded not getting laid logo on my forehead. I can tell you it wasn’t as hard as I once thought. I did not have to spend tons of money. I didn’t have to become a jerk. I didn’t have to add height to my legs and I didn’t have to stop being a nice guy.

It went like this:

  • Small makeover of my looks.
  • Learned a little about fashion do’s and don’ts.
  • I became more selfish about who I was.
  • I drifted apart from some important people in my life that were negative influences.
  • Each day I would read a little and research from the  experts listed on the right. Some of which included:
  • getting myself to cold approach more,
  • meeting new influences and making friends with guys that were good with women,
  • I studied my body language and enhanced the good parts while filtering out the bad,
  • I got online starting chatting with women from everywhere that I was attracted to,
  • Each day I would practice what I learned and wrote down some results.
  • Every now and then I would take the time to write down new goals, old failures, and reframe old beliefs.
  • When I developed a snag I would discover what I could learn from it and them allowed myself to move on.

It didn’t happen to me all at once, it came in spurts. Some days were tougher than others but I found the stronger I became, the less time it took to get over those hurdles that seemed to appear randomly. I look back now and I am amazed by how far I have gone. I am amazed by how a simple question I posed to myself years ago is totally irrelevant in my life today. I’m amazed that that same old question has been slowly replaced by a new question posed with a sexual smirk,

“How bad does she want me?

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