How Bad Do You Want To Get Laid?

Ask yourself the question about how bad you want or need sex, and the answer might surprise you. I asked myself almost twenty years ago and apparently, the answer was just not good enough.

It wasn’t enough for me to get that part of my life handled.

It wasn’t enough to force myself finding or developing the parts of me women find irresistibly attractive.

It wasn’t enough to drive me to get off my ass and do something about getting laid.

I say getting laid because that was really the ultimate goal. I could rationalize not having a having girlfriend. Those feelings

of loneliness by extreme goals I set out to achieve my own unique greatness in the world. Not having a girlfriend took some time, by after a while I got use to living completely independent. Sure it hurt during holidays or when I would see couples enjoying themselves but I got through it again, by driving other parts of my life besides I always had the excuse, “I just can’t find anyone I feel is good enough for me to settle down with.”

But the sex….

Oh that dry feeling between my legs seeped into every part of my life. It made me angry. It made me short-tempered. It made me put so much emphasis on just getting some, I found it difficult just looking at a woman without undressing her and imagining doing it with her.

I couldn’t rationalize away my sexual desires. No matter how times we masturbate it just can never feel as good as it is when you are with a partner who’s wants to share that experience with you,

And the huge mistake on my part was exactly this,

The frustrated feeling of not getting any fueled my anger. I would then add more fuel everyday by adding pressure on myself to achieve that goal. When I couldn’t, that just made me more angry and frustrated. I lost sight very easily that my goal should be, to become a man women would want to sleep with.

You see, women sense this urgency in a man. She could sense my lack of experience was lowering my confidence. And this lack of experience was driving my actions towards her. In the end it meant being disqualified for so many reasons there was no way out, and I just wasn’t going to get laid until I learned to allow that anger to not control me and get to the real issues of myself, first. Then, and only then did I notice a shift in the way woman saw me.

To put it bluntly,

If you go out each night thinking I have to get laid tonight, and that’s your only game plan. You will most likely go home alone and frustrated. If you go out to have a good time and allow women to see you as a real masculine you are developing or have developed, then perhaps allow those same women to experience you, there’s a great chance you might not just get laid, but you will notice more women and more relationships seem appearing in your life.

And then you can notice and avoid the same pitfalls I went through…

I fully admit and saw who I was when I looked in the mirror. An average looking, below average height, skinny but muscular man. As each year passed in my life the beliefs I had about who I was, changed or rearranged itself to fit the current dry spell of getting laid. So each failure with a girl led me to a new belief and I wasn’t even aware that they were piling up in my head.

When a tall woman turned me down it was because I was too short.

When a highly attractive woman turned me down it was because I wasn’t good-looking enough.

When a sexually open woman turned me down it was because I didn’t have enough sex with other girls.

There came a tipping point in my life when I ran out of excuses, or really ran out of different types of women that turned me down. So I began looking at the other side. I would then think….

This extremely overweight woman wants me so only big women want me.

Or this divorced woman with three kids at age twenty-three wanted me, she is settling with me.

All those excuses came from a man who obviously did not want to get laid bad enough. How could he if he settled for no sex for long periods of time without doing the real work involved. How badly could he really want woman in his life sexually if he wasn’t willing to repair his bruised ego and lowered confidence. His beliefs now fully encapsulated in,

“How could I have confidence with women if I have no successes with them?”

“Seems strange to think my self-esteem could be high enough when I’ve been turned down so many times I might as well been road kill that was laying on the hot pavement for weeks, before finally decaying and blending into the scenery.”

Again now, honestly ask yourself that question, how bad do you want to get laid?

How bad do you want women in your life that find you sexually attractive?

Ask yourself is it really worth your time or investment to become that person you find it difficult dreaming of.

I say it is worth it. It was for me and I can’t tell you how good it feels to not have the “Not Getting Any” logo on my forehead. I can tell you it is not as hard as I once thought.

I did not have to spend tons of money.

I didn’t have to become a jerk.

I didn’t have to add height to my legs. and,

I didn’t have to stop being a nice guy.

The series of events:

• Small makeover of my looks.

• Learned a little about fashion do’s and don’ts.

• I became more selfish about who I was.

• I drifted apart from some important people in my life that were negative influences.

• Each day I would read a little and research from experts who had been there themselves. Some of which included:

• Learned how to flirt,

• Brought myself to cold approach more women,

• I met new influences and made friends with guys that were good with women,

• I studied my body language and enhanced the good parts while filtering out the bad,

• I got online. Starting chatting with women from everywhere that I found extremely attractive,

• Each day I would practice what I learned and wrote down some results, good or bad.

• Every now and then I would take the time to write new goals, old failures, and reframe old beliefs.

• When I developed a snag I would discover what I could learn from it, and them allowed myself to move on quickly.

It didn’t happen to me all at once, it came in spurts. Some days were tougher than others. But I found the stronger I became, the less time it took me to get over those hurdles. I look back now and,

I am amazed by how far I have gone.

I am amazed by how a simple question I posed to myself years ago, is totally irrelevant in my life today.

I’m amazed that same old question has been slowly replaced by a new question posed with a sexual smirk,

“How bad does she want me?

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I hope this has helped you realize that you just don’t want to get laid bad enough, if you’re not willing to do something about it,

Pete

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