Bart Simpson is a cartoon boy who just learned a valuable real life lesson about women. And in the end it only created more confusion and a deeper misunderstanding about what women really want. I don’t want you to leave with that same confusion. So keep reading.
An episode of The Simpson’s aired the other night and when the final few seconds rolled up the credits, I was impelled to write about it. This is the first part and I will get into a woman’s tests and your indifference. The second part will be what women want, and the third will be understanding women.
(The legal stuff..I am not affiliated in any way with Bart Simpson, The Simpsons, or Fox. This is to be considered merely a review of what I saw and how I reacted to it. The episode can be viewed http://www.hulu.com/watch/133207/the-simpsons-stealing-first-base. Season 21. Episode 15 The Simpsons is Copyright Fox)
Bart has sort of dated some crazy girls in his long cartoon life. This one was no different. She managed to confuse him, break his heart several times, give him a little, almost kill him, brought him back to life, killed him again, broke his heart once more, give in a little more, and with the fade out rolling he professes his love to her in a very confused tone.
Bart is not the typical bad boy. He’s actually a nice guy. But you never really see this except in those episodes that deal with his mother, his sister, or a girlfriend.
Is it just a coincidence mostly women bring out this nice side of him?
Definitely no!
Is it just a coincidence that Bart manages to attract a girl with one trait, then immediately ruins it by changing?
Again, can’t be. This stuff is written, remember, it’s not real. Or is it?
Put yourself in this situation. You meet this girl. She’s kind of bitchy to you. But you’re in such a good mood you just don’t seem to care. You then go about doing what you were doing. Suddenly, as if you’re mind isn’t even paying attention, you again try to talk to her. She pulls away getting even more angry with you.
And again, it just does not seem to bother you. You’re indifferent to her attitude. You couldn’t care less that she is in a bad mood ans most importantly, you will not allow her to affect your mood. The secret here being you’re not rude to her. You’re not calling her a bitch,. In fact you’re not even thinking about it because you’re just so wrapped up in your wonderful world.
Then the connection happens. Out of the blue she see things between you that are common and this peaks her interest in you. The interaction begins.
And with this innocent move on her part, showing interest in you that is, suddenly a little haze grows around her, and part of you is less focused on your mood, and more focused on her.
Woman are great at sensing this shit guys and trust me, that first move in the wrong direction of indifference, will make a woman feel she has to do something about it. Which is either back away gracefully, run, start the nice guy friends zone routine (disqualification), or TEST YOU MORE!
You pass the test, she comes closer. So to speak.
You fail the test. She either backs away gracefully….well you get it.
Can you feel where I am going with this?
What Bart does, because obviously he doesn’t understand women, is when his this girl shows interest he immediately flicked the switch to the total opposite of the trait that attracted her in the first place.
His indifference attracted her. He shows he does care. She runs. And that is her real test. To see how he reacts.
I believe to pass those little tests women give. You first need to understand it is not the grade you get. In other words, how well you passed the test. It s more of how you respond to the test. This is not school and there is no government mandated grading system in dating.
Using this concept of not being concerned with passing the test, but responding properly, can make it much simpler and the best part about it is she will actually feel like you understand her.
In the case listed above, about pulling back, I will show you the difference.
When she pulls back, do you chase?
What was your gut answer?
I believe for most men it is, don’t chase. Tell me if I’m wrong here. (On a side note men who struggle with women seem to know the answers to simple questions on how to react, they just never seem to know how to act with their answer).
But you see if you know the answers and you either fail to put them in practice and always try to logically discover the answer. You’re just putting yourself further away from understanding women.
What if when she pulls back, you step back yourself. That is what David DeAngelo taught me. You can visit his Newsletter subscription page here,Double Your Dating by David DeAngelo©.
So you pull back, and she pulls back even further. Does this mean you lose. Not a chance? That’s her test. She wants to see how you react. You can either chase, which we already went over, won’t work, or you can be willing to walk away and see if she comes to you. Which is a dangerous move for the much hotter girls. They have choices.
I have learned that the women with the most choices when it comes to men and dating will respond well to a guy willing to walk away from her but…
And this is a big but…
If you didn’t create enough attraction in the first place and got her to invest in you enough, you will most likely never see her again. She’s not going tot chase some dude she just met.
That is exactly what happened to Bart. She spent some time with him before she was willing to chase a little.
Let’s get quickly back to the difference between knowing how to react and knowing how to act.
I’m assuming you know how to react, it’s instinctual whether you’re dealing with women or any social settings. But knowing how to act is completely different.
Think about reaction…when you react, something else is leading you. Like chasing a football and catching a baseball. You react to the situation. But if you didn’t know how to catch either one, you will fail to catch either one. It’s no different when you are out trying to find women to enter your life.
If you are reacting to her, she is leading. She throws up her test, and you try to catch it.
We have already come to the conclusion that you know how to react to her tests. Trust me. It’s a part of you already. But don’t you see that same inborn trait we have, actually causes our logical reasoning mind to fail with women. Why is that?
Because we are not born leaders. Sure some guys have natural traits that will push them into leadership but it’s the men that learn how to be leaders through their strong distinct personalities that learn to override this inborn ability to react.
Learn how to act everywhere, anytime, in any situation, and screw her tests. They will mean nothing. That is what leaders do and that is why is we want to follow them. That is why women are drawn towards social leaders. They seem to know how to act no matter what.
Check this out, Power of Social Skills, and if you feel like he has your personality down, you should try it out. But only take a look if you’re serious about learning the in and outs of leadership, social dynamics, tests, and basically everything lightly covered in this post. I have only touched the surface here. If this kind of material makes you want to know more than the Power of Social Skills and a commitment on your part, will certainly give you the opportunity be that leader. Let me know how it works out for you.
Have a great weekend,
Pete
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