Nice Guys escape the Friend's Zone.
Can Nice Guys Be Sexually Attractive to Women?
I am going to write several generalized categories of men.
They are:
- Good looking or above -Nice -Sexy
- Average or Below looks -Nice -Not Sexy
- Good Looking or above -Abusive – Sexy
- Average or Below looks -Abusive -Not Sexy
- Good looking or above -Nice -Not Sexy
- Average or Below looks -Nice -Sexy
- Good looking or above -Abusive -Not Sexy
- Average or Below looks -Abusive -Sexy
I believe that most people in this world are good, hard-working people which leads me to state that the most common category above, would number 2. Average, nice, but not sexy. ,
So why is it that you rarely ever hear a woman say?
” I know! I can’t believe I met him too. Honestly…he’s not that attractive; but he’s so nice, and you’ll never believe how much he turns me on.”
We are all accustomed to hearing phrases like…
“He’s so nice but he just doesn’t turn me on.”, or,
“He’s such a jerk and I can’t understand why I always fall for guys like that.”, and
“Why are all the hot men I meet, such jerks?”
…that we play into the roles created above so easily. The nice guy sits at home complaining to his nice guy friends how women only like jerks. They feel being is beyond them so end up alone and frustrated. This complaining only compounds the problem and puts the man into a terrible, seemingly unbeatable cycle of either bad relationships or failed attempts to successfully date several women at once. It has also occurred to them that if they took that wasted energy used to complain, and directed it towards the real issues of their problems, a solution just might come to them. “But they don’t, claiming it’s “. Here is a good point to remember…
JUST MAKING THE DECISION ALONE TO NOT ALLOW YOURSELF TO COMPLAIN ABOUT WHERE YOU ARE IN LIFE, WILL MAKE YOU SO MUCH MORE ATTRACTIVE IN A WOMAN’S EYES, THAN THE WHINY JERK WHO HAPPENS TO BE A GOOD LOOKING GUY!
Now let’s now ask ourselves a simple question. If it all it takes for a nice guy to be slightly more attractive or sexy to a woman is to stop complaining, how deep does this issue go? What other simple everyday actions can a nice guy do to become more appealing? How about a second example…
You’re a decent man who enjoys doing things for others. This attitude also makes you want to give out many compliments. What’s the least amount of work you can do everyday to get the most rewarding results from this example. You might have guessed it….
GIVE OUT LESS COMPLIMENTS TO THOSE AROUND YOU, MAN OR WOMAN .
People in general don’t trust compliments. They will lower your sexuality when not used properly. If you’re not clear of how and when to use them, don’t, it’s as simple as that.
Less work, more reward!
More reward because when you do give out a rare compliment, it will be viewed as much more sincere. And when another person trusts your sincerity you can build a better bond between you.
Think about what a woman is feeling when two different types of men approach her in one evening. One is good-looking and appears nice because he showers her with compliments and feeds her ego. The other is average looking, and appears nice because he is genuinely interested in finding out who she is, before he decides to give her a compliment . I will never guarantee all results in every situation but the second man will be so much intriguing than the first. Which, if you didn’t know,
Intrigue is a trait of a sexy man.
Nice guys can be sexually attractive men with even just a little effort. Imagine what you could accomplish if you begin to explore all the possibilities. Remember no emotionally healthy and stable women want a jerk as a boyfriend. She wants a a decent man but she wants to be attracted to him.
Keep reading my pages and you just might find out how to be that man,
Pete
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