“What pickup line would you use against her that wouldn’t fail?”
I received a call from a girlfriend of mine. She began telling me about what had happened at the market while she was shopping for hair color. I was just about to finish my my recent post here and right before I did, I got sidetracked reading a blog about about why men struggle so much when cold approaching a woman.
They just don’t know what to say.
As a weird coincidence she began telling me about this older guy who walked up to her and insisted that he knew her from somewhere. He mentioned a few places he might have seen her even though she pleasantly said,
“No, I don’t think so.”
He then went right into,
“I’m a psychiatrist and I’m new to the area, maybe I can get your number or email and we can do something sometime. I don’t know many people here yet so maybe we can be friends.”
She politely says,
“No, I don’t just give out my number and I really don’t use email.”
At this point she is highly annoyed and a little creeped out by this much older man’s insistence. She is now willing to get his number just to get him to leave and as she reaches for her phone he asks,
“Do you have a boyfriend?”
She replies with,
“Yes I do.”
He apologizes and says his goodbyes.
Lets talk about what he did wrong. I give him credit for trying but his tactics were awful. Then I’ll tell you about a man who is an expert on starting real conversation with women, conversations that can be simple and short but will lead to better interactions with any woman you meet. Don’t want to wait…click here.
His failed opener:
“Don’t I know you from somewhere?”
Not only overused will but will most likely only get a simple uneasy conversation from a nice girl who doesn’t want to be rude. She is suspecting his sincerity of his canned opener and it will undoubtedly lead to failure.
Here is how I would have approached her:
(This is my style. It may not work for everyone. Find your own please.)
I like to take from something she is thinking about. I also like to be a little cocky,ballsy, and funny. This works best for me. I notice she is grabbing the hair dye so I have found an opener.
I know nothing about hair dye so I would reach for any light color and with a dead pan serious face say,
“I really need to dye my pubic hairs for an upcoming film, which color do you think would look better on me?”
I would then enjoy the dead silence as it sinks in her mind of what I had just said. A young woman with a sense of humor will eventually assume I wasn’t really serious and she will most likely laugh.
If I was feeling complimentary I might have approached with this:
“Are you thinking about changing your hair color? If you do I’ll never speak to you again. The color of your hair is perfect.”
Again I am taking something that is on her mind, and this can not possibly be canned. Unless you can memorize thousands of pickup lines.
Here is his next mistake.
He attempts to mask his intention:
“I’m a psychiatrist and I’m new to the area, maybe I can get your number or email and we can do something sometime. I don’t know many people here yet so maybe we can be friends.”
You shouldn’t imply friendship if you are interested in more. It’s dishonest and inconsistent with your approach. If you want to “Neg” a hot woman, you should only state a friendship with a sarcastic or flirtatious tone. As in…
“You know we can never be goods friends, we’d fight over whose hair color is better constantly.”
He then reveals his true intention by asking,
“Do you have a boyfriend?”
First of all, never ask a woman if she has a boyfriend unless it’s done sarcastically and in context. In this case he asked to perhaps be friends, then quickly asks if she has a boyfriend. That screams creepy to most women and she will sense your dishonesty. Even if you’re just asking with the best intention. you’ll be wasting your time with a flawed pickup routine and that precious time might serve you better to come up with a humorous approach like this:
You see her in the detergent aisle near the fabric softener. Grab the most feminine smelling liquid softener you can find, open it and smell it deeply in front. Pretend to enjoy the smell entirely way too much. Then say,
“Mmmmm….Would you date a guy who smelled like this all the time?”
Then hand her the bottle you just opened so she can smell it.
Remember guys to avoid the mistakes this guy made and you’ll find it easier to start that conversation with any woman you see. Don’t let a canner opener lead to failure. Take from your surrounding use them to your advantage. Show some humor, make her laugh with you a little, and just enjoy the conversation. If you approached her hoping to get a phone number you may be misleading her without even knowing it.
The best approach is often having the mindset of trying to figure out as quickly as you can, if she is someone you might want to talk to again. You can gain great insight in less than a few minutes from anyone so use your instinct. If she’s seems cool and you want to see her again, end the conversation by asking,
“Wow, it was great meeting you. Let’s exchange phone numbers and we can get in touch later to pickup where we left off… in the produce section. Haha!”
If you’re one of those guys struggling to meet women and you refuse to resort to picking up you’re in the right place.
I have never resorted to using cheap tactics or canned openers and I can meet women everywhere I go. I also have learned to create and build attraction through my conversations alone. After all, isn’t that what every nice guy wants. We’re often heard saying,
“I just want a woman to like me for who I am.”
Unfortunately if who you are does not create this attraction and build on it, meeting more women just gets you more, friends. Right? I know because I can name tons of women off the top of my head I was hoping for more with, but just ended up as a friend. And it all starts with your approach, your understanding of what women really want, and your ability to create and amplify attraction.
There are many factors at play when you approach a woman:
- Your confidence.
- Where you are.
- Your ability to communicate effectively. (Which is different from just a having a conversation)
- Storytelling.
- Body language and more…
There are also many factors that come into play when she is approached:
- Where she is at in her life.
- If she’s single.
- Her confidence.
- Her self-esteem.
- Her sense of humor.
- What she is doing.
- Who she is with.
It’s clear that just learning a canned opener with all those circumstances in play will often lead to failure. But you know what?
That is great news!
Because if you are that guy who refuses to pickup women, and you just want to meet more women or perhaps open more dating options, you can learn it all without having to resort to cheap tactics.
You don’t have to feel empty inside or be manipulative.
But the bad news is…
If you don’t have a clear understanding off all the elements listed above your chances of a successful approach with a possible date, go down quickly. In fact you might as well just guess your way through it. Your odds of success will be just about the same anyways.
I don’t want you to feel overwhelmed this is not trigonometry or quantum physics. This is not school. You get to go at your own pace. You get to set your own goals. And there’s no specific path every must take. And by creating your own unique path of learning you will create your own unique attractive self.
You know there are tons of programs you can buy to help you out in this area but I’ve found one of the best. How do I know this? Because it’s written by David Wygant, who is a master at conversations and meeting women. The name he has chosen says it all. 20 Ways To Meet Hotter Women Without Pickup Lines. You can read a ton more about it by just clicking here.
Here are my thoughts about how you got here…
- You searched the web looking canned openers or pickup routines that have failed for many men.
- Perhaps you were wondering why yours have failed so far. And you wanted to see if you were not alone in this area.
- There’s even a small chance you came here hoping to find pickup tactics that work.
- There’s a bigger chance and you came here, as a nice guy, struggling to meet and attract more women, and you’re so tired of failing you felt today would be the day to start learning.
You also were hoping somebody out there knew something about achieving your goals, without having to change your inner self. Without having to rid yourself of these nice guy qualities you have clinged to for years.
In any of those cases above there is one thing clear right now, You Are Here this very minute and a little indecisive about what path should you take.
Buy an expensive product now.
Keep searching for something better or cheaper.
Keep hoping things will change all by themselves.
Should I listen to this guy, Peter White and throw my money at the first thing that comes along.
Should I just keep searching and hoping I will eventually gather enough free advice.
I’m sorry to tell you I went through exactly everything I have written. It comes from years of experience failing, and years of experience succeeding. So I know what it feels like to be sitting around hoping. I know what it feels like to go so long without even getting laid that our minds becomes mush. I know what it feels like to be desensitized in order to cope without having great women in your life, as a girlfriend, a wife, or just something more than a friend.
And I did not start to get a complete, concrete handle in my dating life until I invested in solid advice.
If it sounds like I’m begging or pleading, it is because I am. Please guys don’t wait any longer. The longer you wait the more opportunities you miss and the worse the feelings get. You’re a nice guy and you do not deserve to be pushed aside by women any more. And trust me, if you don’t know this stuff naturally, women want you to learn it. They don’t care how you do it. They don’t care who you were in the past. They only care about who you are at that first moment of meeting her.
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