That means about 29% of all searches made to my page are from curious women, asking, what in essence the title of this post. “So… You Like This Guy…and He’s Just Your Friend.”
I recently wrote an article for women, Ten Secrets to Break a Guys Heart, and I feel you will find, contained with the absurdity of the list, is a stripped down version of what men are attracted to.
Ten Secrets on How to Break a Guy’s Heart.
1.) Shower him with attention and then suddenly take it away.
2.) Let him know how much you enjoy listening to him speak about his life, and then stop asking about it.
3.) Be his lover. Be his friend. Pull back sexually and then… just be his friend.
4.) Agree to being in a committed relationship with him but then get scared and act fearfully.
5.) Shower him with affection and gifts the last day you plan on seeing him as a lover.
6.) Tell him you don’t believe that he will miss you or you can not understand why he even would.
7.) Always widen your eyes and give him a big smile when it has been some time since you last saw each other. Then turn that smile to a frown and a look of being unsure about where the relationship is going.
8.) Tell him how much you care about him but that you don’t believe in love.
9.) Enjoy wild nights of sexual gratification and be open in bed to exploration of each others desires. But then let him believe you are not good enough for him.
10.) Be sweet. Be fun. Be caring. Be sexy…
Be loving. Be supportive. Be daring. Be “sexty”….
And then one day, just stop being there.
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She may not be ready for a relationship. Women who put their career ahead of everything else in their life often put men in the friend’s zone because they don’t have time for a relationship. She puts men in the friend’s zone that are strictly relationship type while enjoying casual sex with partners who may not be relationship material.
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I still can not believe how many women come to my pages being stuck in the friend’s zone. But then again when I think back to all the women that were obviously interested in me and yet I felt nothing for them, I suppose it’s possible.
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I was a prisoner doing a life sentence. The jury that handed me the verdict consisted of only women.
“Guilty,” They read aloud.
“On all counts.”
The judge peered at me with a disgusted look on his face. The reading glasses he wore were sliding off the tip of his nose reflecting a blinding light on me. I squinted back up at him hoping for compassion but I never got it. He demanded I make reparations and that I, Peter White, be deemed to live out my life as number 674893123. A prisoner of the friend’s zone.
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I know when I was in the friend’s zone constantly I never felt attractive. Women called me cute, and nice. Far from attractive. The clear reason for them choosing these adjectives was the lack of deep feelings associated with me. Granted cute is emotional when you’re pinching a kid’s cheek, but calling a full-grown adult, cute or nice, is far from an attractive compliment.
It goes like this:
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MAN:
(leans in for a kiss and she pulls back)
What’s the matter? Don’t you find me attractive?
WOMAN:
(trying to be nice)
No that’s not it all. I think you’re cute, and so nice. But I just don’t like you that way.
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WOMAN:
(trying to figure out if he like her)
Do you think I’m good looking?
MAN:
(trying to be nice)
Of course I do. I’m just not ready to start a relationship with someone right now.
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This question is classic. You start thinking to yourself. I’m better than him. Or what does she have that I don’t. He kisses her ass and I can not see why. I don’t get it.
This sort of thinking often leads us down a road of negativity. It is very unhealthy and cause us to shut ourselves off from the rest of the world. It becomes obvious to those around us and will certainly land you in the friend’s zone frequently because no one enjoys dating someone whose confidence is false. True confident people don’t use others to boost themselves up. In fact they often do the opposite. They use their abilities to help others. They use their confidence to offer leadership. And good leaders rarely find it hard to attract someone sexually.
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This question is also about determining where you think you are on that indifference scale. The odd part of this scale is when you are on one extreme side, it’s easy to tell where you are. But most of us are not there. We lie somewhere along the scale and just one small step to the left or right, can make all the difference on the world.
Here is the scale.
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I use to know this feeling all too well. The longer we go without a date, the longer we go without a relationship, the longer we go without experiencing deep intimacy or a great sexual experience…
Seems to take that goal of companionship further away from us.
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I would meet her, become friends with her, and slowly over time try to win her affection through my nice guy ways. And it never worked!
It wasn’t a matter of me wanting to become friends first to enter a relationship or was more of an excuse I would use. The excuse rationalized my thinking I could get women to like me over time.
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Women and men both have needs and desires. We need to find the love of our life to feel like our we can fulfill our desires. Women want a man to captivate her. Men want a woman to satisfy him.
I find it hard to believe that any one person man out there has not once found themselves falling for a friend. It only stands to reason. We often share so much with close friends. We confide in them. We rely on them. We share interests and sometimes even goals.
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I finished my interview with my good friend DeAnna we ended up getting into a discussion about cuddling. It’s no secret that women love to cuddle and she is no exception. But what about friends cuddling? I know me, as a man. I don’t hang out with a guy friend of mine and end up [...]
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“Pete, Does she like me?”
And anytime I hear those words it not only reminds me of a typical elementary school dance, but it screams of neediness.
So, anytime you find yourself asking the question,
“Am I in the friend’s zone?”
You most likely are.
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With so much material on how a guy can get out of the friends zone with a woman. I thought it was about time for tips on helping a woman get out of the “Let’s just be friends.” category with a man.
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