The nice guys that finish first in dating and attracting women, have learned to transform the qualities of a jerk and integrate them into who they are.
They have developed their personalities by not altering what makes them a nice guy…but by changing their attitudes about what women do see in a bad boy.
“Women must not think I’m attractive enough to even notice me. They are afraid to approach me for fear I would get the wrong impression. I don’t have what he has. I don’t drive a fancy car or have hot women draped all over me. Yeah that must be it.”
It was around dusk and me and two friends were walking the strip scoping out the chic of course. Nothing seemed to out of the ordinary until this woman screamed over at us,
“Nice Ass!!!”
I ran the back of the tips of my fingers along the sides of her face and slowly moved my lips closer to hers. My eyes were gently locked on hers as she eagerly glanced back at me. As I moved closer my head began to turn slowly, counterclockwise . I looked down to her lips, then back up to her now sultry eyes.
My right hand began trailing up her soft neck slightly nudging her head to the left, clockwise. My fingertips glanced under her ears and then to the back of her neck. I tugged gently on her hair as my lips now lay less than an inch from awaiting pursed lips.
How many times have we let a woman we were attracted to pass us by because our minds drew a blank? We just stood there with this dumbfounded look on our face?
How many potential girlfriends do you think passed us up because we were left speechless?
This means each and every opportunity we did not take advantage of, can be considered a failure. And ouch, that fucking hurts hard when I think about it!
Women, even the strongest women like myself, LOVES a take charge type of guy. Oh sure alot of us are capable of taking care of ourselves, but the one thing every women needs, wants, and desires is to feel secure. Yes we love you to fight for our honor and protect us from harms way and all that bullshit. But what’s more important and really makes our thighs moist, is when we know we have a take the bull by the horns type of man.
A man who can speak for himself.
A man who is always 10 steps ahead of the game.
A man who shouldn’t have to ask you shit, cause he already knows.
A man who knows when shit is about to hit the fan, he is an act first ask questions later type of guy.
A man who will do it with or with out you, it don’t matter to him. He just gets the job done.
A man who will always tell us the truth about ourselves, not what they think we want to hear.
You hear everyone talk about approaching women. How to do it. What you should say. How you should say it. But really guys, wouldn’t it be easier just to get women to notice you first, and allow them to approach you? Wouldn’t it be simpler to have them open up eager to make your conversation start with a spark? Wouldn’t it just be smarter to have those women feel your energy from across the room so when you walk by you can catch them checking you out?
Of course!
Alright guys you know what that means. This guy is teaching women and he’s giving an example of what a woman feels. It can show us the steps needed to really turn her on.
1.) Let her feel more attracted to you.
2.) Raise the attraction each time you see her just a little and she will develop a deep emotional attachment.
On top of all his concerns, good looking women kind of scare them. He just does not seem to feel good enough for them. He calls them perfect. He says what if she has a boyfriend. He worries about what to say to them, and how to act around them. Honestly though…I’m not sure if he even cares how attractive she is. He wasn’t clear on that at all.
But I did “not so casually” mention to him one word. One word that can changes your entire dating life. One word that without you will never have consistent success with a beautiful women. In fact you will probably not have much long term success with any woman, no matter how attractive you or I might find her.
Get more women in your life.
But there’s a huge catch to this. There’s a steep cliff on the end of that statement just waiting to grab your emotional ass and dangle you off the edge. You must be careful enough not to get too close to it. You see when you lean over the edge and peer down into abyss of “we’re just friends.”, it can suck you in quickly. Before you even know it you’re looking back up at the sky falling and failing to her every whim.
The few women I used to let in my life were women that wanted to be just friends with , but I always wanted more. If you have one or more of those women in your life right now,
Get over her and get more women in your life.
It’s the single best thing you can do for yourself to break away from this nice guy label.
The word Super always seems to remind me of the man of steel and Christopher Reeves. Not at all, as I saw him at least, a super ladies man. He was stuck on one woman and she was just a friend. Clark was this nice guy who couldn’t be further in personality from his confident alter ego.
Natural. Organic. Straight from the earth. Natural Selection and the stronger survive. Each object, plant or animal has a success rate typically coinciding with the food chain. The higher up you are the easier to succeed. Otherwise it’s time to mass reproduce and hope for the best.
Here’s the situation. You’re talking to a woman when all of a sudden she mentions she has a boyfriend. You didn’t ask her if she was seeing someone. You didn’t ask her out on a date. You didn’t ask her for her phone number.
In fact, as far as you know, you didn’t even show any interest in dating at all.
But some reason she decided to throw out,
“Me and my boyfriend…”
“When my boyfriend does that…”
“My boyfriend loves that song…”
“My boyfriend has that same problem..”
Quick jump to a decade later…
I saw her profile thrown up online. She was looking for dates online. She was still single with no kids and still looked incredible!
So I wrote her with a funny story and updated her on the status of our mutual friend. She never wrote me back. I wasn’t surprised at all.
Flashback to our meeting ten years earlier…
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