A ll preferences aside, what turns you on? Men, literally, what gets you hard? Women, what gets you the wettest? I’m not talking about sexual fantasies, I’m talking about those instant reactions you feel when you see someone you are extremely attracted to.
I want your shallowest thoughts. Don’t hold back at all.
(pick your shallowest thought and leave it below in the comment area)
For me. It’s a woman butt. The shape of her body. The way she walks. Her lips. Her hair. Her attitude.
Honestly, I never thought this question would be so difficult but when I say it out loud,
“What do I find attractive?”
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All of a sudden it hit me how I was able to do that when it came to attracting women. I did allow myself to see that sexy guy, how I would act around women, how they would be drawn to me how I would flirt with them, how I could get and have better sex, how I could be with the women my high standards set so long ago.
This is why I believe that self-affirmations may not make you more attractive. Sure they can drive you along and anytime you are having a positive conversation with yourself you are doing good. And anytime you speak negatively about yourself you are doing bad for yourself.
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Get more women in your life.
But there’s a huge catch to this. There’s a steep cliff on the end of that statement just waiting to grab your emotional ass and dangle you off the edge. You must be careful enough not to get too close to it. You see when you lean over the edge and peer down into abyss of “we’re just friends.”, it can suck you in quickly. Before you even know it you’re looking back up at the sky falling and failing to her every whim.
The few women I used to let in my life were women that wanted to be just friends with , but I always wanted more. If you have one or more of those women in your life right now,
Get over her and get more women in your life.
It’s the single best thing you can do for yourself to break away from this nice guy label.
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Quick jump to a decade later…
I saw her profile thrown up online. She was looking for dates online. She was still single with no kids and still looked incredible!
So I wrote her with a funny story and updated her on the status of our mutual friend. She never wrote me back. I wasn’t surprised at all.
Flashback to our meeting ten years earlier…
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As you might have guessed it during part one of this. The woman I spoke of called me to fill me in on the details and I’m going to share them with you as we go along and my opinions, of course. Then I will tell you what actually happened between them. Onto to the question I left off with in part one:
Will she see him again?
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Good afternoon everyone!
I just wanted to get the word out there about my site and to encourage more comments from my readers.
So what is Dialteg™ and how did I come up with the name?
Believe it or not I was sitting around trying to think of a wonderful domain name to start my blog. I had written Get Laid on a page of my journal/notebook and it just happened to be upside down.
And then it hit me….
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Being single again is always tough.
Our relationships often encompass our lives and intertwine themselves into our everyday existence.
We begin to rely on that comfort.
We rely on that feelings of special phone calls and special moments. The ones we share with our partner that only are known to us.
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First dates! You have to love them. It’s the one time you will get to call it the first and we all know it. That alone causes the butterflies of nervousness to run through our bodies. And when we pile on the stress of being impressive or being impressed by our date it can send some people to the other part of their personality. That’s the persona. It’s not really who we are. It’s a front to protect ourselves. It also is the part of us that wants to be seen as attractive. No matter which side is winning that night we are rarely ourselves. Which is not good.
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We all make them. Some fewer than others and they are LIMITED BELIEFS
My biggest one was, being short!
Let me tell you a quick story. I was at a bar once that always featured live bands. Being a musician I would always bring myself up close to see what chords they were playing. Check out their equipment and meet the players after.
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This is how it went…
So there I was out in public. I felt a presence around me that drove my eyes to turn around quickly.
And there she was. An incredibly beautiful woman with a short skirt, leggings, and long gorgeous chestnut colored hair.
I turned to look and my eyes were frozen like a deer caught staring in a cars headlights. And unfortunately for the deer, and me, a giant Mack truck was barreling down the road.
She turned quickly, obviously sensing some man was checking her out. She was that truck and she smashed into me and left me as road kill.
It may not seem like a big deal to most men and women. Right?
Who cares? Men get caught staring at Chics all the time.
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Those fears often stem from our wants or needs to fulfill something in our lives that we are missing. Often I read how it is not good to be needy. Which is true but I rarely hear how our wanting something can be just as bad, or even worse….
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[WOMAN] You glance over at this seemingly decent looking guy. For some reason you find his face warm and inviting. You notice him smiling out of the corner of your eye so you give a soft glaze and he looks back. Your heart flutters a little and you start thinking,
“It’s so hard to find a great guy these days and who knows, he may the one. He really could be it. I wonder what he does. I wonder what his name is. Shit! He looked away. Is there something on my face. Is he with someone? Damn! Why did I leave the house tonight with my hair looking like this. What was I to do? I was in a hurry and it is only a baseball game. ” (Incidentally a woman thinking like this is already feeling curious and wondering. The mystery of him increases her feeling of attraction.)
[some time passes]
“Oh wow. Let me take another look at him. I just can’t help myself. Who is he? Wow, he’s looking back again. Damn! He looked away again. What is with this guy? Doesn’t he see me? Is he looking at someone else? Is there a scoreboard or some beer vendor behind me I’m missing?”
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