The nice guys that finish first in dating and attracting women, have learned to transform the qualities of a jerk and integrate them into who they are.
They have developed their personalities by not altering what makes them a nice guy…but by changing their attitudes about what women do see in a bad boy.
10. Always give in to her demands because of how she looks on the outside.
This is what used to go on inside my mind. Rotting it with the disease of needy thinking or approval seeking.
“Holy shit this chic is hot. I would love to fuck her. I would do anything for her. If I could just prove to her I’m not like any other guy she has met.”
That means about 29% of all searches made to my page are from curious women, asking, what in essence the title of this post. “So… You Like This Guy…and He’s Just Your Friend.”
I recently wrote an article for women, Ten Secrets to Break a Guys Heart, and I feel you will find, contained with the absurdity of the list, is a stripped down version of what men are attracted to.
Ten Secrets on How to Break a Guy’s Heart.
1.) Shower him with attention and then suddenly take it away.
2.) Let him know how much you enjoy listening to him speak about his life, and then stop asking about it.
3.) Be his lover. Be his friend. Pull back sexually and then… just be his friend.
4.) Agree to being in a committed relationship with him but then get scared and act fearfully.
5.) Shower him with affection and gifts the last day you plan on seeing him as a lover.
6.) Tell him you don’t believe that he will miss you or you can not understand why he even would.
7.) Always widen your eyes and give him a big smile when it has been some time since you last saw each other. Then turn that smile to a frown and a look of being unsure about where the relationship is going.
8.) Tell him how much you care about him but that you don’t believe in love.
9.) Enjoy wild nights of sexual gratification and be open in bed to exploration of each others desires. But then let him believe you are not good enough for him.
10.) Be sweet. Be fun. Be caring. Be sexy…
Be loving. Be supportive. Be daring. Be “sexty”….
And then one day, just stop being there.
Without fail every time I was given the opportunity to see her again and manged to speak with her I would gather to courage to ask her out. Granted sometimes this would take months of seeing her constantly. She of course would turn me down with those dreadful phrases,
“I’m sorry I’m just not interested.”
“I have a boyfriend.”
“You’re cute but just not my type.”
“I’m sorry. I only date taller guys.”
“You’re nice but I just don’t see you that way.”
“I’m sorry. I’m taking a break from dating for while.”
“I’m sorry. I don’t give out y number to strangers.”
Let’s take two guys and one woman. And no I’m not talking about a threesome. The first guy is nice, accommodating, and generally lacks any real potential girlfriends in his life. The second guy is also nice, but very busy, and has many potential girlfriends in his life. Who’s more of a challenge?
Obviously the second guy is. I’m sure it doesn’t take a genius to realize this. Look around and you see it all over but…
How can you be that challenge when you don’t have a black book filled of girlfriends to compete over you?
How can you be a challenge when you really like a girl and want to let her know, but everyone tells you that when a woman knows you like her too early on, she will lose interest?
When is it safe to let a woman know you like her without scaring her away?
When should you let a woman know you like her before she loses interest?
and finally…
How can you be that challenge without playing games?
“Pete, Does she like me?”
And anytime I hear those words it not only reminds me of a typical elementary school dance, but it screams of neediness.
So, anytime you find yourself asking the question,
“Am I in the friend’s zone?”
You most likely are.
I find it funny that I get called more names by women than I have ever have before. But you know what guys? I’m still a nice guy! I was asked a question by a guy friend of mine, “Pete. Is there a way to get a woman in bed quickly?” I replied with, “Actually, [...]
I failed to notice a giant neon sign above my head that was blinking,
“FRIEND zone! FRIEND zone! FRIEND zone!”. I will show 6 signs that you are already in the friend’s zone but it is your job to reverse the signs by exploring the opposite.
1. Being nice has little or nothing to do with Attraction.
2. Just because a woman is flirting with you doesn’t mean you’ve found your next girlfriend.
3. Don’t be afraid to make the first move when the situation arrives.
An average or good looking nice guy with a highly attractive personality has learned or naturally understands, how to react to a woman’s tests, actions, sexual advances, or her attitude during any event or interaction.
Understanding how a woman feels attraction or what turns her on is key for the nice guy to become more sexually attractive. See if you can relate the feelings associated with the ten traits listed.
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