“Are you checking her out or just staring at her cleavage?”
I was out at a bar the other night. There were about five attractive women hanging out. It was far from a classy place. No dance floor. Dirty. Smelled like wet basement. I call it “The Pube”.
It’s an average place, in an average town, where average people go to hang out. I find it amazingly fun and to watch the social dynamics and every so often something demands my writing attention.
That night it was, treating women like objects. Objectifying their bodies with little disregad for interaction on level.
You see this guy I met, well sort of interacted with, felt the need to inform me of the women hanging out.
“Those chics are hot.”
“She has great tits.”
“Look at that ass.”
When I didn’t respond favorable, or just gave him a look of disapproval, he felt it necessary to mention a woman’s legs. As if to prove to me he wasn’t just sizing up a particular slab of meat, he was eye-ing all parts of them.
Don’t get me wrong guys. I know what it feels like when an extremely attractive woman walks by. I understand we all seem to have this natural instinct to be attracted to her. But that does not mean we have to respond in a way which guarantees to destroy any attraction she may have felt for us.
Before I get to it, if you are one of those guys, I do understand there are some of you that do it because you just don’t know how else to act. It often is your reaction to not having options in your life with women. I know because I did it but in the opposite sense. Which was just as bed. I refused to objectify women but it was because I only wanted her to like me. So I too would often fall prey to my reactions, and mostly when they were not around. Because I was a nice guy.
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Here are four reasons checking her out in this way lowers your status:
1. Giving Up Your Power.
Power. Just saying the word power creates this sense of ultimate control. But I believe it says “Ultimate responsibility“. Long before the Spiderman movie mentioned those words, it was true. The power of your decisions affects those around you. When you fail with it, many others do too. And that means you must be responsible. You are ultimately responsible for those you have a power over.
And it’s up to you to decide if you want to give up that power. Giving up this power quickly displays to a woman you are not a leader. Leaders high have status.
And if you do decide to keep your power you must now choose how to use the responsibility that goes along with it.
Checking her out tells her, and me, you are giving up your power and allowing her to use her body, against you. And not in a good way. Great leaders don’t allow “smoke and mirrors” to deflect their attention. Great leaders succeed by seeing the whole picture but also understand how each part will play its role.
Looking at just one part, way too much, and in a checking her out creepy kind of way, is not the big picture.
2. Giving In To Your Emotions.
This is a tough one for me too guys. I’m just as passionate as you are. I’m still driven sexually just like you are. I still enjoy great sex, and oh how I love to cum. I will admit that. Yet when I allow those emotions to control my actions I lose. Still to this day. When it happens, I fail. I gave up my status by showing her I am not a man who is in control.
Sure this may work in your control powers are through jealousy. If she’s into drama.
Sure this may work if you like to fight and she is into the intense energy associated with mild violence.
And this will definitely work at the end of an incredible sexual experience. If she’s a genuinely nice girl she will be overwhelmed with the feelings of how she pleased you just as much as you pleased her. But that also means you controlled yourself to the very end. And that turns her on even more.
3. Giving in to her expectations.
If you want to ruin all unpredictability with a woman. Give in to her expectations. When she expects you do to something, then do it. A- ha! Thinking of this way it becomes so easy to see how being slightly unpredictable works so well. Women are driven by emotions. Some will even take it to the extreme and those are the ones that desire the most unpredictable action from their man. But most women just want a little. Enough to keep them guessing.
Checking her out is a predictable action performed everyday by men. Don’t fall into her expectations and be different. Don’t check her out.
Try this instead the next time.
Don’t notice any part of her body. Don’t pay attention to anything sexual about her. Yep. Ignore it all completely. See how long you can flirt and stimulate her with a conversation and then all of sudden say something like this,
“Oh wow.” She will most likely ask,
“What?”
“I just noticed something that’s all.”
She’ll respond with,
“What? What is it?”
“Oh it’s nothing, it was about your hair.”
She’ll respond with,
“What, tell me! How dare you do that?”
You laugh a little.
“How dare I do what?”
Can you see where this conversation is going?
Done right it works great. Yes it is flirting. But you are also adding an element to her thinking,
“Was it a compliment he was going to give me, or is there something in my hair?”
Don’t take this too far. Just frustrate her a little. My suggestion would be to know where you are with this girl before you decide which way to go with it.
For example if I just met her I wouldn’t give her the compliment. I would either bust her ass a little, or lead the conversation away from the subject fairly quickly. Then much later, while she was feeling comfortable with me, I would compliment her, uniquely on what I was talking about earlier.
Surprise her!
If I was already at that point when the conversation started to go that way, then I would lean in and slowly give her the unique compliment. Done too early sends the creep or player thoughts running up her body. Done at the right time and in the right way, can give her tingles through out her whole body.
4. Giving the situation predictability.
Falling in the direction of what every other guy does, is very predictable. Attractive women are more than used to seeing it. And if you appear like everyone else, everyone else that she predicted you would, then your status drops very quickly.
- Don’t be predictable and check out her when she expects you too.
- Don’t be predictable and stare at her cleavage when she puts it on a platter.
- Don’t be predictable and stare at her mouth when you are talking to her.
Checking her out will lower your status because you will blend into the scenery of every guy.
Be different.
Be unique.
Be creative.
Weave these things with unpredictably and she will not be able to resist your charm. Don’t try to just be unpredictable unless you have been dating for some time with regards to romance. What you want to do is let your personality show it to her by not giving the situation predictability.
Please, the next time you feel like giving up your status just for a more than quick glance, think of these four reasons, and don’t do it.
Keep that status and let her see someone different for a change. And let that guy be you.
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