Connections of Security, Confidence, and Masculinity with Women

My life is full of connections. I’m not sure exactly why. I think it’s perhaps I tend to notice them often. Whereas so many people I run into every day struggle to live in the here and now. They are always just trying to get something done for later instead of doing what they are doing and enjoying it as they go along.

My latest connection involves a review of shorter men. I went out and bought Secrets to Success for Shorter Men. I am a robust five foot five and I’ve noticed many readers coming to my site because they too are short. This also happened to be a major issue of mine in my younger years of failed dating experiences.

During my passing through the phase of reading and assimilating Scot’s work he brought up this important part of attracting with women and it was security. You see most shorter men feel as I did that it’s impossible for us to make a women feel more secure than a man who is much taller than him. Scot dispels this myth and he does a great job of it. But this is not about his work this is about connections, how I see them, how us nice guys can learn from these connections, and basically how to be a more attractive man, despite any shortcomings you feel you have.

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After finishing his work I sent out a newsletter related to a trait nice guys have that women find very unattractive. In short I mention how nice guys have this trait of not wanting to change themselves for fear they will become like everyone else. They don’t want to conform to society but in reality, by not changing, they make no effort to stand out. They in fact blend in and become part of a statistical norm.

In the end of the letter I added an article by Scot that was related to the nice guy attracting women. I really loved the article and I wanted to have my readers learn something from it too. It excited me and I wanted to excite others with it too.

So where was this connection?

Well no less than a few hours later I received a letter from a woman who subscribes here and she was very upset. And I don’t blame her at all. You see most women I run into that are single and struggling finding their great man, or are still dating around looking for something better, have a soft spot. This spot when touched feeds her emotional state and causes her to act or even lash out to get this emotional release . And let me tell you guys when it came to the issue of a nice guy’s inability to attract she lashed out with a force. I touched a nerve inside her which involved why so many guys have failed with her. I’m sure it touched a nerve inside her because of the sheer frustration of meeting this potentially awesome man and then finding out he lacked those traits she was looking for.

That is where this connection was made.

->I read and listened to man tell me about how women want to feel secure and how us short guys can easily do this.

->I wrote a letter explaining to men that just by learning this material you become part of the small percentile of men that do get this stuff.

->In the letter I included  ”The Big Four Factors That Attract Women To A Certain Man” from Scot McKay which included this:

It’s like this:  Women want SAFETY.

Unfortunately, the man women most need to be protected from is the ONE THEY’RE WITH.

If you drive like a maniac when she’s riding shotgun, openly flirt with other women in her presence, waffle over decisions, have absolutely zero ambition and have no clue what to do with her when you pick her up (let alone when it’s TIME TO KISS HER), guess what?  She’ll have no sense of stability around you.

…When you have successfully caused a woman to believe in you the way you believe in yourself-no matter what the situation-then you have succeeded at INSPIRING CONFIDENCE.  She can rest in your presence.

(Membership has it privileges. Subscribe to my letter for the full article. I’m not going to tell you it’s going to change your dating world just by reading it, but it is a good one. You can contact me for the original source.)

Then a woman subscriber, (yes women do subscribe to my letters guys because they are looking for a nice guy and want to find out the inner game of a nice guy that can attract them.)  well she sends me this…

Women, even the strongest women like myself, LOVES a take charge type of guy. Oh sure alot of us are capable of taking care of ourselves, but the one thing every women needs, wants, and desires is to feel secure. Yes we love you to fight for our honor and protect us from harms way and all that bullshit. But what’s more important and really makes our thighs moist, is when we know we have a take the bull by the horns type of man. A man who can speak for himself.  A man who is always 10 steps ahead of the game. A man who shouldn’t have to ask you shit, cause he  already knows. A man who knows when shit is about to hit the fan, he is an act first ask  questions later type of guy. A man who will do it with or with out you, it don’t matter to him. He just gets the job done, A man who will always tell us the truth about ourselves, not what they think we want to hear. Cause we know when you’re lying anyways and that just hurts us more. And when all is said and done, he should be rewarded and rewarded he shall be. That to me is a MAN!!!!

I’m bringing up these connections in this post not only so us nice guys can learn from all this advice, but also to show every man or woman coming to this site can benefit from seeing these coincidences at a much higher level.

You see if I wasn’t paying attention and staying in the moment of my dating life these lessons may never stick inside my mind. I may never be able to communicate them to others clearly and it would effectively slow down my own personal growth. Thus not accelerating my growth as an attraction expert. And worse of all I would have nothing unique to all of you visiting my pages.

Now that I’ve shown you how I see these connections or notice the deeper meanings between what I’ve learned from a dating expert and how directly it can affect a woman’s emotional state, in other word’s how well these products I recommend work…

What can us nice guys learn from them to become a more attractive man, despite of this shortcomings we believe we have?

First of all let me release the traits Scot Shared with us. They are Masculinity, Confidence, Inspiring Confidence, Character. There may not be a clear separation between those four traits but notice how the woman’s letter to me involved a little of each one.

• Inspiring Confidence – the one thing every women needs, wants, and desires is to feel secure
• Character - A man who will always tell us the truth.
• Masculinity – But what’s more important and really makes our thighs moist, is when we know we have a take the bull by the horns type of man. A man who can speak for himself.  A man who is always 10 steps ahead of the game.
• Confidence - A man who shouldn’t have to ask you shit, cause he already knows.

I don’t know about you guys but if that shit doesn’t kick ass and really hit hard. It’s the exact truth about what emotions a nice guy needs to invoke in a woman to have her feel attracted to him. And notice how none of it even mention heights looks, or your wealth. And not one of those traits involve you becoming the jerk.

As a nice guy there are no shortcuts. None of those traits involved any lessening your positive effect on the world. You can still be the nice guy but you better have those traits handled in one or another. You can not be the nice guy that wants her to make your decisions. You can not be the nice guy who feels powerless to give her the security she desires because you yourself are not secure in your own masculinity.

As the nice guy you must embrace your masculinity and women will feel it. They will respond to you in a positive attractive manner and by invoking these strong emotions inside her she will have no choice but to be attracted to you.. The next step becomes your choice at that point.

And yes to keep her and maintain a successful dating life or relationship maintain those traits and constantly work on improving them. You must not allow yourself to fall back too far without picking yourself back up and use your inspiring confidence as your strength in doing so.

Remember it wasn’t being nice that caused that woman to lash out. It was because the nice guys she experienced did not possess those four extremely important traits. They were guys she most definitely wanted to feel attracted to, because they were nice, but they lacked the masculinity on top of their pleasing personalities.

I must do a ton of thanking for this post because without Scot McKay, a not so anonymous woman ,and everyone I’ve experienced in my journeys I could have not uttered one word on this subject. Thanks to all of you.

I must also recommend to you nice guys some powerful material I feel you should invest in to gain those four traits. For some of you it will come easy and for some of you it won’t. I can not determine that for you. But I know it’s worth it. Your dating and relationship life is a major piece of your overall complete happiness. It must be handled maturely and maintained. I can guarantee it does get easier with proper education and coaching. Please have a look around here and check out which one might directly apply to you. Contact me of you have questions on any of them.

Since Scot has been such a wonderful inspiration for me you must check out his new product, A Man’s Approach – It’s a complete system for meeting high quality women, start conversations, and for making plans to see them again. It was just released last week. Remember Scot has produced great product for years now and this is as up to date as you can get. Take the time to look into Virtuosity also. I wrote a little on it a while back. That link will take you there first.

I’m pulling for all your success and remember to keep your mind open to see more connections between your dating life and the women around you.

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