How To Handle Those Not So Cool Friends

Let’s face it. We all have friends that we don’t consider to be cool. Underneath their unsociable persona they are good people. They just don’t seem to get, or care, to take part on the cool level of social interaction.

How does this affect your dating life?

Do these casual friends get in the way when you’re trying to so-called get laid?

Do they hover real close when you’re talking to a girl, which ruins your chances with her?

I believe how you handle these not so cool friends can affect your dating life positively or negatively.

Let’s take one situation with two different outcomes.

You approach this woman and things are going great. She’s definitely into you and just as you’re about to get her phone number and that so-called friend of your jumps in and interrupts the energy negatively. He hounds the girl, eyeing her, gives her the compliments that make you sick…

And all the while she is looking over his shoulder at YOU. Giving you the “Help me!” look.

When he turns to talk to you and she realizes you know him and the look on her face suddenly  turns skeptical. You can tell she is disappointed that you know this guy and she is definitely wondering if this is the type of guys you hang out with. Suddenly you get a little nervous because you just don’t know how to deal with the situation. Yeah great, eventually he goes away but with the moment passed you hurriedly ask for her number but she denies. She tells you say she doesn’t give her number out to people she meets at a bar.

The second outcome is much different.

As he approaches her and cuts you two off just at the peak of your interaction, you interject into the conversation immediately. With your body language and positioning you skillfully position yourself between you and her. You don’t allow him to get real close. You confidently introduce him with a small smirk,

“Hey. This is John.  I think he likes you.”

He of course laughs back at you and attempts to play into it when you  lead her somewhere else. You can suggest with your eyes moving to a more personal area of the bar.

You  can even suggest leaving to go to a place more exciting like another bar, or even a place to get a cup of coffee to continue your conversation,

“Hey John. We really should get going…”

When a situation like this arises…

Use them to your advantage by acting as a true masculine man which increases how attracted she will feel towards you, and use the apparent bad luck to suggest and lead her to a more comfortable or personal space.

If you’re reading this and this little annoying voice keeps rattling in your head saying,

Shit that’s me! I’m that annoying guy” Then you need to consider picking up,  Guide to Being Cooler – Scot McKay. Do it for yourself. If you want to read more about Scot’s program I’ve written a little about here. Just click here for information on being cooler

Back to the post without further interruption…

You see when she begins to feel attracted to you and shows interest, you should hint back that you are feeling a spark of chemistry, and lead her to a more comfortable state of being with you. She will love it! She will feel like it’s all just happening which I know to be very important to women.

Believe it or not being cool around those not so cool friends is actually just using your ability to act in the moment, and make solid conscious decisions to change the situation to your advantage. This ability or skill is a highly attractive trait and if you want to succeed with women and dating it’s a must skill to learn.

Thanks again for stopping by and I really hope this short post helped you see how just because that not so cool friend seems to be ruining your chances with women, it does mean you have to act in a way that makes it worse. Remember that friend is just another guy trying to act in his own reality. If he’s a decent person who just lacks in social skills, try to keep that in mind and never let him upset you, or dictate your mood negatively. It’s not worth it and it will make you less attractive to any and all the women around you. Stay positive and react in a positive masculine manner, and there’s a good, no, a great chance you will see her again, and not just as a friend….

Because women “dig” men who can handle those situations maturely.

Enjoy your Saturday everyone,

Pete

Watch Doctor Paul Dobransky M.D. explaining his idea on Being Cool. It’s one of the best explanation I have ever found. The sound sucks and it’s short but you’ll get the picture.

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