First Date Advice. Who’s More Nervous, you or Him? Part 2. Will She See Him Again?

As you might have guessed it during part one of this. The woman I spoke of called me to fill me in on the details and I’m going to share them with you as we go along and my opinions, of course. Then I will tell you what actually happened between them. Onto to the question I left off with in part one:

Will she see him again?

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I bet she does. Because he avoided making mistakes she could instantly rule him out. He also made a point to say when the evening ended that he enjoyed it, and how they should do it again some time. She thought that was a plus because he left her guessing.

Here is what she told me.

• He was nice.
• He paid for the meal.
• He mentioned he enjoyed the evening.
• He kept the topics moving along so there would be no uncomfortable silences.
• He seemed nervous.

Okay guys I’m still betting she will see him again but really what did he do?

• He made a typical evening, typical.
• He didn’t stand out.
• He didn’t make her call me up and say how amazing he was.

Remember this is an attractive woman who can go on dates all the time. There’s a good chance before he sees her again she will go out several times. And what if that next guy goes that extra step to make it an amazing evening. Will she go back to that nice guy hoping for the same or will she just turn him down knowing that yeah, it went well, but in comparison, it was too typical!

How could he have done things differently?

Obviously I was not sitting at the next table so it’s hard for me figure things exactly, but I do know this. What she told me about the evening is what she remembered about it. And from that alone it’s easy to tell what he probably should have done to make it a more memorable experience.

She told me He was nervous.

She did understand why. She did realize most people are nervous meeting others they have only talked to on the internet, but there are ways to combat this. Such as slowing down your breathing and stretching before you leave you house. You can also:

• Have complete unwavering confidence.
• Be indifferent.
• Know that you are the selector and not her.
• Practice NLP.

She told me he was definitely trying to avoid those uncomfortable silences.

You know I use to hate those silences but now I enjoy them. You see when you allow those silences to make you more nervous, she will sense it. Those silences will become uncomfortable. It is best to not search or reach for topics just to keep things going. It appears you are trying too hard. When a woman is with a man she wants to feel that he is comfortable in any situation and it is your job to do that. It’s a tough skill for a nice guy, I know it is. But I do know it you can learn it just the same as riding a bike. Sure you may fall and hurt yourself but get back up and keep trying because it’s a skill that will not only help you with women, it’s a skill that will last your entire life and affect positively every part of your life.

Always remember this…

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Let her feel the tension coming from the silence just a little too much, and then tease her about it. Use it to your advantage.

If you want help on what to say to her, read this article completely. You won’t be disappointed. How To Act On The First Date.

And now…

Drum roll please…

Did she see him again?

YES! She did. Again because he didn’t do anything wrong.

BUT…

That was it. Eventually she met someone who, like I stated earlier, managed to make her feel amazed by him and not just try to make the evening nice and uneventful. She really wanted a fun flirty time A deep connection. But that is for another post.

Have a great week everyone, and I’ll talk again soon. I promise.

Pete

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