I LOVE questions like this. In fact a good friend of mine was just asking a similar one the other night.
“Should I call him tonight or tomorrow? Should I wait until he calls me? And what if he never bothers calling? How do I know if he likes me? It feels like I fucked up and got all “too nice” on him.”
Okay, so you think you’ve found someone you want to see again and you’re just not sure what to do about it…
Here’s what I would like you to do and lots of other great men too…
I’ll give you a few choices so based on your situation and needs you hopefully pick the perfect way to tell a guy you want to see him again without giving it all away so easily.
1. Be direct and honest and demand that he call you!
BUT… When you do use this wonderful technique make sure it’s confident, cocky and please add a touch of humor or you might come off a little too overbearing, a little strange, and some of the not-so-controlled men might get scared.
Here’s a great over-the-top example:
“Don’t miss me too much this week or you’ll be sorry. I have this strange effect on men. Once I leave them they can not get me out of their heads. I wouldn’t want you to end up like those poor fools with me stuck on their mind. Have your people contact mine, we’ll do lunch.”
There you have it.
Confident, cocky, and funny.
This technique can used in so many situations because it creates fun and flirty conversations which will make men want to see you again and it says to us… game on!
Confidence on a woman is sexy. Cocky tells us you’re actually aware there’s chemistry happening. Funny – well a great sense of humor on a woman is highly attractive.
“Neediness in an emotional and material sense is one of the biggest roadblocks to greater attractiveness. Sure, guys may get the occasional kick out of being your knight in shining armor, but for the most part you’ll need to let them know you can live without their brute strength.” Mirabelle Summers – The Approach. How To Be The Girl That Guys Want To Date
If at some point you begin to feel like you’re going to say something too needy or reveal just how you’re feeling, this technique works great to let him wonder a little while still letting him know – maybe – just maybe – let’s SEE what happens.
Turn it (the need you’re feeling) around with a positive, confident, and funny twist.
2. Be discreet and casually suggest something you ARE doing going to do. Preferably something you know he wants to do anyways.
It doesn’t even have to be pre-planned.
Just make sure you’re going to do it anyways, with or without him and then just make him aware of it.
As the evening goes on when you connect on something, take note, remember it, and then bring it up later to suggest you meet up again soon.
3. Use reversal tactics on very strong men.
You have to learn the stronger more sought out men have lots of choices and they know it.
For these men you’re busy busy busy!
Don’t give in too easy.
Tease him fully, flirt skillfully, and make him want to call you again.
You should not show you’re needy at all with men like this because they just won’t accept it and you’ll find yourself constantly trying to chase him down.
Don’t forget most important part of the equation…YOU!
“So, tell him… It would feel so great to see you Thursday, but I have my dance class that night, and I love it. I’m free Tuesday or Friday…” Rori Raye – The Approach. How To Show Him You’re A Great Catch, Who You Are & Put Yourself First“
You can not be overly concerned with the other person. This is really about you. It’s always about you. I know it sounds too simple but that’s because it really is.
Focus on doing the right things that make a man feel more and more attracted to you and he will more than likely want to get a hold of you again quickly.
Why focus on the parts you can not control. You can’t make him do anything. You can not control events outside your own existence. Doing so only wastes your energy and focus.
The stern advice I gave my friend that night was to stop worrying about the past and the future and focus on the now!
Focus on your wants, what you deserve, and what your desires are.
People who do that are attractive people in every sense of the word and by following its simple format, you’ll never have to worry about how to tell a guy you want to see him again.
Think of it this way…
Which phrase is more attractive?
“Would you please have sex with me?”, or
“I wonder if you’re as good in bed as I am.”
Obviously the second one and I know you can feel the difference?
You’re not asking for anything.
You’re merely contemplating the ability of another and using this kind of thinking sets yourself up as a challenge which can be used everywhere in life. It’s not inclusive to just dating.
Let’s bring the main question back again…
How Do You Tell A Man You Want To See Him Again?
“In order to secure a second date, you need to realize that you may need to go on 50 first dates before you have a second date.” David Wygant – The Approach. Stop Judging Your Dating Life and Start Getting Second Dates
The direct approach can be delightfully refreshing to a man when done in a confident cocky and funny way.
Avoid neediness by making sure you’re busy and ask him to meet you there. Remember you’re going to be there with or without him.
Tease and flirt with him. Make the evening fun and he will want to see you again.
Use a reversal technique.
Take that want of yours, narrow it down specifically, then rephrase it to offer him a challenge.
“Hey. Let’s do this. If you can beat me, I will let you take me out next week.”
That sentence alone works extremely well because it covers all two basics… Confidence and Humor.
Sure he may be smart enough to know what you’re doing but that’s okay. It’s still sets you up as a fun challenge and even then, just telling a guy you want to see him again after the challenge is highly more attractive.
This is one of the most effective ways to tell him you want to see him again, you don’t act like a challenge… BE that fun challenge because it a part of your personality.
For a little more insights or truth about guys – I suggest you check out my Why Do Guys…?. It ALL about guys just for women and written exclusively by me… Peter White.
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