I love questions like this. In fact a good friend of mine was just asking a similar question the other night.
“Should I call him tonight or tomorrow? Should I wait until he calls me? And what if he never bothers calling? How do I know if he likes me? It feels like I fucked up and got all “too nice” on him.”
Okay, so you think you’ve found someone you want to see again and you’re just not sure what to do about it.
- Be direct and honest and demand he call you. Just remember when you do this be confident, cocky and add a touch of humor.
“Don’t miss me too much this week or you’ll be sorry. I have this strange effect on men. Once I leave them they can not get me out of their heads. I wouldn’t want you to end up like those poor fools with me stuck on their mind. Have your people contact mine, we’ll do lunch.”
There you have it. Confident. Cocky. And funny. This technique can used in so many situations. It creates fun and flirty conversations that make men want to see you again.
If you begin to feel like you’re going to say something needy you might be letting him know too early on you’re interested, so use that technique instead.
- Turn it around with a positive confident and funny twist.
Be discreet and casually suggest something you are doing that week. Something you know he wants to do anyways. It doesn’t even have to be pre-planned. Just make sure you’re going to do it anyways, with or without him and make him aware of it. As the evening goes on take notice to what his passions are. If you find something you connect on, bring it up later and suggest you meet up.
- Use reversal tactics on very strong men.
You have to learn the stronger more sought out men have lots of choices and they know it. For these men you’re busy busy! Don’t give in too easy. Tease him fully, flirt skillfully, and make him want to call you again.You should not show you’re needy at all with men like this. They just won’t accept it.
Don’t forget most important part of the equation…YOU!
You can not be overly concerned with the other person. It’s about you. It’s always about you. I know it sounds too simple but that’s because it really is just that simple.
Focus on doing the right things that make a man feel more and more attracted to you and he more than likely want to get a hold of you.
Why focus on the part you can not control. You can’t make him do anything. You can not control events outside your own existence. Doing so only wastes your energy and focus.
The stern advice I gave my friend that night was to stop worrying about the past and the future and focus on the now. Focus on your wants, what you deserve, and what your desires are. People who do this are attractive people in every sense of the word.
Sure you can go off the deep end be a selfish pig but use your brain and never take advice like this as all inconclusive. You can also go off the other end and never think of yourself. Either way both are considered unattractive actions.
How do you do this?
How do you decide where to be on that scale of totally needy to totally selfish?
We want what we might not be able to get and asking for it can destroy a want. Often we get things when we don’t ask for them, that’s just the way it works. When we go out asking for things people will often avoid giving it to you or give it to you while taking their respect for you. Think of it this way. Which phrase below is more attractive:
“Would you please have sex with me?”, or
“I wonder if you’re as good in bed as I am.”
Obviously the second one. Can you feel the difference. You’re not asking for anything. You’re merely contemplating the ability of another. Using this kind of thinking sets yourself up as a challenge and it can used everywhere in life.
Let’s bring the main question back again.
How Do You Tell A Man You Want To See Him Again?
The direct approach can be delightfully refreshing to a man when one in a confident cocky and funny way.
Avoid neediness by making sure you’re busy and ask him to meet you there. Remember you’re going to be there with or without him.
Tease and flirt with him. Make the evening fun and he will want to see you again.
Use a reversal technique. Take that want of yours, narrow it down specifically, then rephrase it to offer him a challenge. Even a, “Hey. Let’s do this. If you can beat me, I will let you take me out next week.” works extremely well. Sure he may be smart enough to know what you’re doing but it’s okay. It’s still sets you up as challenge.
This is one of the most effective ways to tell him you want to see him again, don’t act like a challenge…but be a fun challenge, because it’s part of your personality.
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