Dating – Have You Ever Walked Out On A Date?

A friend of mine once told me a story about a date she walked out on and I think it makes it excellent point. It went like this.

They went for the typical dinner and a movie. Everything was going great. She found him at first to be quite the gentlemen and fun to talk to. He really seemed to have his shit together.

He ordered his steak one way and when the entrée arrived it was clearly too well done for his liking. He sneered at the meal and she instantly knew what was wrong.  She asked him why he doesn’t just send it back. He said it’s fine and he was okay with it. To him it was no big deal.

She knew he was lying and kept pestering him to call the waiter over. They fought for a while but he still refused to send it back so she gave up and went back to getting to know him although the thought of him not standing up for himself was ripping through her mind.

They arrived at the movie and decided to stop for soda and some snacks. They then found their seats and settled in. It didn’t take long for them to taste the fountain soda when they looked at each other in disgust. The soda was flat and awful tasting. She said told him he should go back and get some new ones. There was something clearly wrong with it and they deserved better.

Yes. You guessed it. He once again refused to go after what he really wanted. And this time she decide it was way too much for her to deal with. She grabbed the sodas and took off to the concession stand with mer mind running fifty words a second.

“If this man can not stand up for himself enough, or have the confidence to go after and get what he wants, over something so trivial and simple as a soda and a steak, there’s no way I could ever date him. I can’t imagine how he would be in bed. I would get stuck making every decision. Telling him what to do…”

She never really made it back to the concession stand. She tossed the sodas and left the date. For her it was over before it really even began. She called him from the cab ride home and told him where she was and that she would not continue the date because it was just not going to work out.

Was she wrong?

Part of me agrees with her for walking out but part of me still would have had her at least figure out was this the real sign of a guy who refused to go get what he wanted. Or maybe it was just he never let those little things bother him. We’ll never really know.

Should she have just finished the date?

I firmly believe time is so precious but I also believe sometimes a good night out does not have to lead to a relationship or more dates. Sometimes you might get along but not advance. And that’s okay. But at least you’ll get to know someone else’s perspective on life. You enjoy a mildly entertaining evening out.

Was he being too easy?

I trust this woman’s opinion and her assessment of men. So I would have to say there’s a huge chance he was being too easy. He also showed quickly how easily he will take comfort over confrontation. Which shows there may be some unjustified fears in his personality. Which, as she noted to me, would end up having her making all the decisions and ultimately someone who would not be demanding or open enough during intercourse.

Or did he just not let the smalls things get to him?

To me the so called small things are when you have no control over something, and/or it does affect you too drastically. Like someone cutting you off in traffic just to get on car ahead. Really it’s not going to make much of a difference in your life. You can act out of anger here and say it’s the respect the driver didn’t give you. Or the thinking that everybody should wait there turn. But in reality getting way too upset here is letting the small things get to you.

However we’re talking about paying for an expensive meal and knowing the cost of drinks in the theater, an even more expensive soda. When we pay for something we expect it to be of at least a reasonable quality. Both were not and it affected the date. Not coincidentally the date was affected even more because he refused to expect quality and settled for less causing the argument and taking away from the fun. If he had just politely asked for another in each case the date would have been so much more enjoyable for the both of them. Well at least she would have stuck around.

Okay guys remember this lesson. Remember how much women read into what you are doing. Those smallest details mean a lot to them. You see if he wasn’t so much refusing to stand up for himself but more of what it meant when a guy acts like this.

• Women are attracted to men who go after what they feel they deserve.
• Women want a man who is confident enough to take charge.

Feel free to let me know what you think about walking out on a date below. In fact I encourage it highly.