How To Ask A Woman Out
In the world of dating I feel this is the one of the biggest obstacles men have. Asking a woman out can literally turn some men into babbling fools. Most men in fact don’t go out on many dates at all because:
*Not getting enough phone numbers.
*Not socializing enough.
*Not knowing how to ask her out.
Every dating expert I have studied from taught me what you’re going to read and I still have found no better advice on the topic of asking women out.
And here it is…
“Don’t ever ask a woman out!”
Is it really that simple?
Yes it is.
Rather than give you all the reasons why it is bad to ask her out, I’ll let Carlos Xuma and David DeAngelo explain what you should do. When you’re done you can read the entire posts to find out all the reasons why asking her out doesn’t work or doesn’t work the way you want it to.
Trust me this technique works. I’ve used it myself many many times. It has never occurred why I didn’t figure this out own my own but I didn’t until I read it from these two men for the first time.
So if this is your very first experience in learning about asking women out you’re in the right place to get the answer to this most commonly asked question.
Instead of asking her for something predictable and scary like a date, try this:
“Hey, you know, you seem like you might be fun to hang out with. I’m going to Chalkers next week to do play some pool with some friends. Give me your home phone number, and I might invite you along for a game or two.”
Why does this work?
- You don’t say “date.“
- You don’t make it definite, which is less pressure.
- You make it a cheap, fun experience that she would want to participate in.
How To Ask A Woman Out On A Date – Carlos Xuma
AND…
3) Instead of asking a woman out, tell her what you’re doing, and then tell her she can come along if she wants.
Why is “asking a woman out” early on a bad idea? Because if you don’t have a world-class understanding of male/female dynamics, you’re going to come across as a guy who is trying to use food as date-bait.
In other words, if the first thing out of your mouth is “I’d like to take you out to dinner” it’s going to be interpreted as “I don’t think you’re probably going to accept an invitation to spend time with me unless I throw in something extra…“.
Weak.
And that’s how SHE sees it.
The alternative?
Tell her that you’re going to be doing something, and that she should join you.
“Hey, I’m going to go down to Starbucks and get a cup of tea. You should join me. I’m way more fun than whatever else you were going to do… and that’s a fact!”
How To Call A Woman To Ask Her Out – David DeAngelo
Now that you know what or how to ask for a date or more appropriately what not to do I will throw in a little of my own personal experience on the subject. I mentioned a few items in the beginning of this page. They were:
Not getting enough phone numbers.
Although getting lots of numbers won’t guarantee your success I feel it’s important if you want more women in your life to go out with you. I know this seems trivial or a “no-brainer” but you would be surprised how many men I know have a few numbers in their phone and still bitch and complain about not going on enough dates.
I’m not telling you to go phone farming but if you let every woman you meet slip by you without exchanging numbers you’re missing a ton of opportunities for more dates.
Not Socializing enough.
The more you socialize. The more women you will have the option to date. That is unless you’re socializing in a primarily all male environment. Which I hope you’re not if you want more dates.
Having social proof is important in dating. Being a social leader is even more important. Sure you can find women and attract them without being a social leader but you’re limiting yourself entirely too much.
Another great part of socializing is when you learn all this stuff you’ll begin to notice what other guys are doing and your mind will begin to see exactly what works and what doesn’t. This can speed up the learning process quickly.
Having a robust social life is also important to invite women to join you. That’s how all this works. If you’re not out doing things you will have no choice but to ask women on a date. Which, as we have covered, is not the smartest or even the easiest way to go about dating.
Which question would you be more likely to answer yes to:
“Would you like to go to a party with me?” or
“Hey I’m going to a party. It’s going to be fun. You should come along.”
The difference is one is an invitation to a good time and the other is a structured date which we all know can be a waste of time to really get to know someone better.
Does this approach work online too?
Of course it does just remember to avoid using the word “date.” and the rule still applies.
A SIDE NOTE:
Wouldn’t it be easier to get her to ask you out in the first place to avoid all this?
Well if you’re doing it to avoid something..NO.
If you’re doing it because you’re not a good leader…NO.
But if you already are a leader or perhaps you want to add this piece to increase your dating options…YES!!
Go for it.
I’ve been able to achieve a lot of success in this area. It’s just typically a harder area to achieve success in. I mean you’re really going to have to be the whole package to get this to work. It’s also dangerous work. You could get women obsessed with you more than you want or can handle. I know it sounds like I’m selling a dream to you.
Keeping strictly to this discussion on asking a woman out I can tell you if you want to get more women to ask you out first you’re going to need to learn a ton about creating, maintaining, and increasing attraction. And you ust be able to do it quickly.
Again I feel this topic would be better suited in my attraction category but if you insist…here are a few hints:
Backdoor Attraction – My Attractive Sexy Life – So far not a very popular article, (although I enjoyed writing it) but it does give clues on how you can get women to eventually ask you out.
Create Instant Attraction So She Calls You First - David Wygant reveals some great tips on talking to women which is designed to create attraction quickly. Keep the momentum up and she just may call you first. You’ll find examples of conversation and you’ll learn the difference between man-speak and woman-speak.
If you really want to learn it now these few programs will teach all you need to know. But be warned, having women obsess over you is not as fun as it sounds!!!
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