Do you always end up in the friend’s zone, but you’re a funny guy?

Making her laugh will not make her want you…

If you make her laugh all the time and it is not working it’s because you are failing to use humor properly. She sees you as the friend who can always make her laugh. Someone to call when she needs a laugh and not someone to call when she wants more.

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Women do seek men who can make them laugh but I have found using humor alone does not spark attraction. There’s just much more going on. I was talking to past girlfriend about this recently and sure she did say this,

“He has to make me laugh.”

…But I have time after time failed with women that I made laugh. I was even a goof ball at some point to get the ego attention boost and put me in the spotlight for her, but it still did not work. I’m not saying to never listen to a woman when she makes statements like that above but I can guarantee most women, just like men, are not in touch with their feelings deep enough to understand how their attraction actually does work.

It is not the feeling of making her laugh that she is attracted to. It is the feeling in which humor is derived from. It’s comfort. It’s the feeling of happiness. I’s the sensations that run through our body when we are having a great time. And again, these feelings alone does not create attraction. However…

Using humor in a cocky way can create attraction. David DeAngelo taught me all about this. If you don’t know who he is I explain him here at Dialteg ™

Using humor to make her feel comfortable being with you, and at the same time demonstrating your high social value can create attraction. Love Systems taught me so much about this.

Having the ability to use humor in storytelling to make others laugh,and then using this to be seen as a leader, can create attraction.

Those are the subtleties my past girlfriend never really thought about. There was more going on than just making her laugh. It’s not about just telling joke after joke. It’s about leading a good time. It’s about telling stories that are intriguing, funny, and proving to her your personality is worth getting to know as more than just a friend. It’s about using humor to make her feel good inside and comfortable being around you. This gives you the opportunity to further your relationship. This gives you the opportunity to build on attraction.

When you are that funny guy and you have the ability to make her laugh you have a great foundation for staying out of the friends zone, but you have to know how you use that humor to create attraction.

Friend’s Zone:

Defined as the area women will put men almost instantaneously upon meeting when she feels no personality attraction for him. It is considered a locked room where only she holds the key. Often the man will attempt to persuade the woman to unlock the door but very rarely will she comply. She will explain it in many ways to him if he chooses to ask her that dreaded question, “Why?” in response to her “I just want to be friends.”,  but to her close woman friends, no explanation is usually needed.

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