Written by Carlos Xuma – Attraction Strategies Audiobook Free with Signups to Attract Women Newsletter.
When I was a teenager growing up, I was always fascinated by this friend of mine, John, who was only 16, but he lived in an apartment with a friend – not with parents.
John was pretty darn good with women. He had one of the hottest girlfriends in our high school. Her name was Lisa, and she was this exotic looking Asian girl.
He had no money, and no car.
And he treated Lisa like dirt.
How in the world did this work? Why did she dig HIM?
I thought you were supposed to treat women “nice,” and give them things to show them you liked them.
(I’m gagging a little as I’m typing this…)
Was this really how to get a girl to like you?
Well, suffice to say, John was an extreme version of the Bad Boy. This “Bad Boy” knows the laws of attraction with women better than any other kind of player out there in many ways, because he understands the…
3 LAWS OF ATTRACTION.
Today I’m going to reveal to you the three most important laws of attracting women.
If you really learn how these 3 laws work, you’ll find that your understanding and ability with women will increase – BIG TIME. And you will understand the secret methods of how to get a girl to like you – which is just starting her attraction for you.
Just like the Bad Boys use.
It took me years to figure these out on my own, and really understand how they worked on a DEEP psychological level.
When you learn how to use them correctly, you’ll be almost hypnotic with women.
ATTRACTION LAW 1: “Gimme my game!”
There was this game for my X-box that I had been waiting for some time to get. The reviews were looking good, and the day before the release I saw that it got a really great review from some game site.
I was stoked!
So the next day I go to the Best Buy and… the release date was printed wrong! It wasn’t going to be in until the next day.
No big whoop. I just went home and came back the next day. (That night I had a dream about the game. Obviously I was really looking forward to it.)
So I go back at 9:00 AM – as the doors open – and I ask for the game. “Won’t be in until 2:00 PM,” the clerk says to me.
Okay, so now I’ve come here 2 times for the game, and I have to come back again????
Now I’m really starting to think the universe was trying to keep me from having this game.
I call over to another game store in the area. Same story –
“It won’t be in until later this afternoon…”
I go home, and get some more work done. I’m checking my watch every hour.
And then at 2:00, I go back to the Best Buy and head straight for the Xbox section.
And it’s STILL not there!
I ask a clerk for the game, and he sends me back up front where the games were being held in a “secure” location. (Seems to me that you can’t sell something that you’re hiding from your customers, but oh well.)
So how do you think when I finally had that game in my hand?
VICTORY! I had WON!
You bet I felt a sense of accomplishment at having finally found it and bought it. And I also clutched it in my tight little fist all the way to the car, just in case someone would try to pry it out of my hands…
Right about now you’re wondering what this has to do with how to get a girl to like you, but stay with me…
There IS an important lesson here – beyond learning about how to not get so hung up on a game.
This was the exact same thing that happened to me when I wanted a woman that I didn’t think I could get. I’d get fixated (“obsessed” is probably a better word) on her, and then I’d fall into the exact same pattern.
I’d call her, and if she didn’t answer, I couldn’t stop thinking about who she was with and what she was doing.
Or I’d ask her out, and if she couldn’t make the date, or she canceled, I’d get even MORE attracted to her.
I would raise my fist to the heavens and shout: “By the powers of Gromthar, I shall possess her!”
A bit melodramatic, but you get the idea, don’t you?
This is the FIRST rule of attraction:
- We want what we cannot have.
- The more we can’t have it, the more we become fixated on it.
This is the principle of CHALLENGE you must use to get a girl to like you on a level that she won’t even understand.
A woman will be driven to complete distraction by a man she feels is just outside her grasp. Of course, there has to be some element of HOPE in that mix, but humans are interesting in that we can create hope that doesn’t even exist.
Use this principle for YOU.
Be a little LESS available than a woman wants you to be early on.
And this doesn’t have to be something you do on purpose – as some kind of manipulative ploy. I don’t condone that. That’s not how to get a girl to like you in any honorable way.
It should be NATURAL.
You should just so damn busy meeting women that you don’t have the time to get back to every woman right away.
Or answer every phone call.
That’s REAL scarcity, not fake scarcity.
Trust me on this one: Scarcity only makes the heart grow fonder.
ATTRACTION LAW #2: “Just a little Memento…”
I was in a hotel killing some time one evening, flicking through channels on the television. From one channel to the next, it was all stuff I’d seen.
Then this movie came on that I hadn’t seen before called “Memento.” I was lucky to have caught it at the start of the movie, and I found myself completely absorbed by the story.
(If you haven’t seen this movie, run out and rent it RIGHT NOW. It’s that good.)
It wasn’t particularly suspenseful in the way that a movie with a woman walking down a dark corridor is suspenseful, but it held me fast in its grip.
If you don’t know how this movie goes, or you haven’t seen it in a while, basically the movie is about a guy who has no long-term memory due to a head injury. The story is told in 3 or 4 minute “flashbacks” of memory that mimics his disorder. So we learn things the way he does.
The whole time I’m watching, I’m wondering:
– Who’s the guy on the phone with him?
– Who is he looking for?
– How did he wind up with that car?
And each new flashback answers some of the questions of the previous scene, but then it creates ALL NEW ONES!
I don’t think my eyes left the screen until it was all over.
Even then, I wanted to watch it again just to make sure I figured everything out.
And then I spent the next week telling everyone in my social network to watch the movie.
What’s the lesson here?
- If we DON’T know what’s going to happen, we find it attractive.
- We want to find out what happens…
This is the law of UNPREDICTABILITY.
It is completely captivating to have an unpredictable story that you simply MUST find out what happens.
ATTRACTION LAW #3: “She will come around…”
Back when I was learning and experimenting with dating skills, I managed to get a really attractive girlfriend. Her name was Alicia.
And I think that she was the freakiest girl I’d ever had in bed up until that point.
(I’ll spare you the nasty details…)
I was really into Alicia, but I knew that if I tried to make her exclusive with me, I’d wreck it. So I played it cool.
Well, I was also out there on the prowl, too. We had an open dating relationship. We were each seeing other people.
But I was very consistent with her. I would meet her at least once a week for dinner or some kind of date, and then I’d force myself to leave before she wanted me to. (A little bit of scarcity mixed in there…)
I’d leave a message on her voicemail at home during the day when I knew she wouldn’t be there. Nothing needy, just a “question of the day,” like “Where would you live if you could live anywhere in the world…?”
It went on like this for about 2 months.
Then, one night, Alicia takes me to dinner in a nice restaurant where she proceeds to tell me that she wants to be exclusive with me. She’s tired of all the other losers she’s been meeting.
Inside I was smiling and yelling out “YESSSSS!“, but on the outside I was calm and collected. “I think we can give that a try,” I said to her, sipping my beer as I scanned the menu.
What’s the lesson?
- If it’s perceived as establishing safety and comfort – we are attracted to it.
This is the law of SAFETY & CONSISTENCY.
Yes, I realize that Law #2 and Law #3 seem to be contradictory, and that’s why you have to use them together for maximum effect.
That’s really what I did in the story for Law #3. I balanced just enough mystery about what I was doing when Alicia wasn’t there, with just enough BEING THERE for her to get that girl to like me more than any other guy she knew.
The standard Pickup logic may not support this, but I’m here to tell you that if a person is exposed to your presence regularly enough (but not to extremes), they will start to miss you when you’re not around, and they will feel a burning attraction begin to build for you.
Again, this has to be done with the right method and in the right intensity, otherwise it will fizzle out into “friendship” territory.
These 3 Laws of Attraction are POWERFUL.
If you want to know how to get a girl to like you, simply learn how to use these three laws to your advantage with every woman you meet.
Everything I teach is based in these 3 simple laws, and they WILL work for you as they have for me.
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