Nice Guys escape the Friend's Zone.
David Wygant
“By creating an amazing lifestyle and being passionate about the things you do, you will start attracting men instead of spending your life chasing them and hoping you’ll connect with them.”
David Wygant
In case you haven’t figured it out that by now…I’m a nice guy.
Years ago I thought this was holding me back from getting the girlfriend I wanted. I would project my nice guy ways on the world and hoped women would like for me it. And I was right. Women loved me, but only liked me as a friend. My dates were nice. The conversation was boring, and I always payed.
Bear with me a minute because I’m about to revel something to you I don’t like admitting…Women did like me and yes some, wanted me sexually even though I was small. I had long hair that forced me to carry a brush around with me, and my glasses covered half my face. But you know what, and this is the admitted part, I was considered to be a cool guy. I got along with everyone. Men and women both respected me, and I met some incredibly reliable friends just being myself. Like my mother taught me. She taught me respect. Demanded I always have great manners. Insisted that I just be myself and live my life.
This is not meant to be a page on what cool is or why I felt that way. And it’s not meant for me to describe my relationship with my mother. It’s about still being nice and “getting laid”, man or woman. It’s about experiencing more fun dates and having better relationships. Because I do believe it is possible and the first step for me was to finally realize…
Why being nice, was not the reason I never succeeded with the women I was most attracted to!
My greatest obstacle was fear. Too many times I walked away from a good thing for one of two reasons:
(Our false fears, as I call them, you know the ones which are in no way justified, are merely projections of a future event playing in our heads.)
1) I wanted better and I refused to settle.
2) I was scared to make a move. Fearful that I would fail sexually or not be a very good kisser.
“In fact, if you ask women what THEY want in bed – what turns them on the most, and what inspires them to want to turn guys on in unbelievable and amazing ways — you wouldn’t BELIEVE some of what they have to say (and after coaching women for more than eleven years, I have heard EVERYTHING from women about what really turns them on the most).”
David Wygant
I felt that way because I did not understand attraction and I typically thought it was something out of a romantic movie. I assumed women liked to be treated like shit by jerks, and the ones that did hook up with a great guy was because he had money, looks, or a higher status than me.
The only part of those excuses I was right on with, was the higher status.
As a nice guy, or even a nice woman, as soon as we give away our status to someone we are attracted to, we give up a good part of that attraction.
The status I am talking about is quoted at the start of this page and now includes,
If you walk around in life having fun, having casual conversations and enjoying every step of the journey – even if you’re just running an errand to the market – you are going to attract great people into your life.
People are attracted to people having a good time and who are enjoying their life. No one wants to hang out with a person who is pouting, folding their arms and looking miserable.
David Wygant
I just see the pointing, folding their arms, and looking miserable in a much broader sense. I feel it encapsulates everything from putting men and women you are attracted to above yourself, to his acting immature and blaming others.
Let’s recap a little…
- Living your life with passion, instills positive emotions in others, towards you.
- Often it is our fears which stop us from living passionately, and sharing that passion with others.
- Giving away our status to the people we are attracted towards actually causes them to not feel attracted towards us…
And why is that?
People who live amazing lifestyles and do things that they are passionate about, don’t give their status away. They project positive feelings towards others. Whether or not they attracted to them.
This is how I feel. This is what I firmly believe. It wasn’t my nice guy ways that held me back from creating attraction. It was a combination of things which always included me giving up something. It was my fears and my insecurities that held me back with women. It was because I did not fully understand how men and women experience attraction.
The reason I am telling you all this is because I wanted to relay to you a part of my beliefs and at the same time, let you understand that David and I share these beliefs.
Read my pages if this is your first one. I don’t rarely offer easy solutions or quick ways out. I offer suggestions to help you look inside yourself. I ask you to work hard on changing who you are to become more attractive.
Yet I can only give you so much. The pages that I have written are from me but a part of me has developed with the help of David Wygant. That is why he is listed here.
So I’m going to ask you this,
Is it worth it to you to do the work, and become the person you want to be?
I think it is. If you feel the same way you should go check out his material and I will let him take it from there. Subscribe to his newsletter or check out the articles below that you can relate to the best.
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I sincerely hope he guide in the right direction. I will let his pages speak for themselves. I am more than happy to be affiliated with him and all that he stands for.
And again if what I write is how you want to approach getting your dating life under control and become a more attractive man or woman, like I have, his products are for you.
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Thanks for stopping by and feel free to review or discuss anything on this page by leaving a comment below or writing to me personally,
Pete
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So… You Like This Guy…but He’s Just Your Friend.
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That means about 29% of all searches made to my page are from curious women, asking, what in essence the title of this post. “So… You Like This Guy…and He’s Just Your Friend.”
I recently wrote an article for women, Ten Secrets to Break a Guys Heart, and I feel you will find, contained with the absurdity of the list, is a stripped down version of what men are attracted to.
Ten Secrets on How to Break a Guy’s Heart.
1.) Shower him with attention and then suddenly take it away.
2.) Let him know how much you enjoy listening to him speak about his life, and then stop asking about it.
3.) Be his lover. Be his friend. Pull back sexually and then… just be his friend.
4.) Agree to being in a committed relationship with him but then get scared and act fearfully.
5.) Shower him with affection and gifts the last day you plan on seeing him as a lover.
6.) Tell him you don’t believe that he will miss you or you can not understand why he even would.
7.) Always widen your eyes and give him a big smile when it has been some time since you last saw each other. Then turn that smile to a frown and a look of being unsure about where the relationship is going.
8.) Tell him how much you care about him but that you don’t believe in love.
9.) Enjoy wild nights of sexual gratification and be open in bed to exploration of each others desires. But then let him believe you are not good enough for him.
10.) Be sweet. Be fun. Be caring. Be sexy…
Be loving. Be supportive. Be daring. Be “sexty”….
And then one day, just stop being there.
Understanding Why Nice Guys Fail With Women?
about 2 weeks ago - No comments
The nice guy that learns how to attract is far more successful than the typical jerk that does not understand why he gets laid.
Go ahead and ask any woman you see and she will agree with me. If she doesn’t, I want to hear about it and I want to hear the reasons why. If she does not agree and acts stubborn about it then you also have one less woman to concern yourself over building an attraction towards you. So stay away from her. her life probably centers around jealousy and mind games in a childish attempt to control men anyways.
Nice Guys Lie to Themselves, in Their Just Friends Relationships
about 3 weeks ago - No comments
Here is the feelings of a guy I once knew in his mid twenties. He was considered a man, but he really was just a boy. A good part of him was a nice guy but the other part, a liar. The part of him, who was nice was good friends with women he More >
My Thoughts on How Being Cool Makes you More Attractive
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Was I cool? Am I cool now? Am I one of those men that some most people just think, he’s such a cool person.
I’m really cracking myself up writing about this now. But who cares. What really matters to me is what I think is cool. Right? Sometimes I will stare at a gorgeous moon on a clear night and say to myself, that is so cool. Sometimes I will watch a friend screw something up and make a fool of herself. She will walk over to me and we both laugh, “That was so cool!”
Put in another context the word cool takes on a different meaning. There are groups of people in every generation that are deemed to not be cool. They can include parents, teachers, retired people, and yes, politicians. (remind me to never mention politicians on this site) We’re all most likely going to find ourselves not cool to another group at one point in our life. It’s inevitable.
No. We’re not Dating. I’m just her Friend.
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“Wow. (slight pause) You are beautiful. (pause) Listen… I don’t want to be your friend. I don’t want to be the guy you call up at three o’clock in the morning, complaining about all the jerks in your life. I don’t want to be the man who listens to you whine about all the creepy guys that hit on you that day. And I definitely don’t want to be the man who you blow off for some great sex with a loser. I just don’t want to be him. (big pause) I want to be the guy who lights up your eyes when I enter a room. I want to be the man who you wake up in the morning thinking about, and the last person on your mind before you go to sleep. I want to be the man who will hold your hand one minute, and wrestle you to the ground the next. I want to be the man who you’ll come up with every excuse to be next to. The man that makes your mind wonder, and your heart beat just a little quicker. That’s the man I want to be and if there is even a slightest doubt in your mind that I might not be that man, tell me now, and I’ll walk away.”
Nice Guy: I’m Tired of Being a Loser With Women
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Another evening goes by, The nice guy trudges his ass home, alone, tired, and frustrated. He watched yet another jerk steal the girl he had his eyes on. He talked to her for a little while but nothing came from it. He failed to ask her for her number. He failed to make her feel attracted towards him. He thought she must only like jerks. His thoughts centered around why she would put up with this guy’s shit when he could be there for her. He could show her what it felt like to be treated like a princess if she would have only give him a chance, but she didn’t!
He goes home alone again. feeling like a loser with women, feeling helpless, and clueless. He went out again feeling strong that this would be the night. This would be the night he would meet that special women that actually liked nice guys. He stood tall when he left but lost two inches and hunched over as he walked up the steps alone. Staring at the floor where he hoped a woman would soon walk. But the steps felt nothing but the weight of his despair. The steps heard nothing but his two feet and the echo rang through the hallway due to the silence. No laughter from a woman. No sweet conversation about what a good time she had. No smacking of the lips as he had hoped.
His imagination before he left had the evening finishing just the way he planned. He imagined rushing to get the keys in the door and have that magical evening of sex with a woman that finally fell for a nice guy. The beautiful girl locked in his eyes as they begin to kiss….
Women In The Friend’s Zone!
about 1 month ago - 1 comment
I still can not believe how many women come to my pages being stuck in the friend’s zone. But then again when I think back to all the women that were obviously interested in me and yet I felt nothing for them, I suppose it’s possible.
9 Questions to Ask Yourself if You Creep Women Out?
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Without fail every time I was given the opportunity to see her again and manged to speak with her I would gather to courage to ask her out. Granted sometimes this would take months of seeing her constantly. She of course would turn me down with those dreadful phrases,
“I’m sorry I’m just not interested.”
“I have a boyfriend.”
“You’re cute but just not my type.”
“I’m sorry. I only date taller guys.”
“You’re nice but I just don’t see you that way.”
“I’m sorry. I’m taking a break from dating for while.”
“I’m sorry. I don’t give out y number to strangers.”
Top Ten Ways to Challenge Women to be Attracted to You
about 2 months ago - No comments
Let’s take two guys and one woman. And no I’m not talking about a threesome. The first guy is nice, accommodating, and generally lacks any real potential girlfriends in his life. The second guy is also nice, but very busy, and has many potential girlfriends in his life. Who’s more of a challenge?
Obviously the second guy is. I’m sure it doesn’t take a genius to realize this. Look around and you see it all over but…
How can you be that challenge when you don’t have a black book filled of girlfriends to compete over you?
How can you be a challenge when you really like a girl and want to let her know, but everyone tells you that when a woman knows you like her too early on, she will lose interest?
When is it safe to let a woman know you like her without scaring her away?
When should you let a woman know you like her before she loses interest?
and finally…
How can you be that challenge without playing games?
What is Dialteg™ and Where are the Comments?
about 2 months ago - No comments
Good afternoon everyone!
I just wanted to get the word out there about my site and to encourage more comments from my readers.
So what is Dialteg™ and how did I come up with the name?
Believe it or not I was sitting around trying to think of a wonderful domain name to start my blog. I had written Get Laid on a page of my journal/notebook and it just happened to be upside down.
And then it hit me….

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