There’s a friend of mine who just happens to be an attractive bartender.
She’s approached by “nice guys” every night and there are lot of them. Her tests are varied and have been put through every type of guy you can imagine.
We talked a little about DiaLteG TM. She got a little excited and told me about a guy she met recently.
Here’s how it went.
They talked for a while and it went “well.” He was nice… She said he seemed like a good person and so when he eventually asked for her number, she gave it him.
Her eyes widen as she hits me with, “But….” He called her around ten the next morning and she didn’t answer. She said he called her too quickly and she let it go to voice mail.
Eventually she listened to it,
“I ‘m doing (whatever he was going to do) this afternoon but call me back if you’re interested in going to the movies tonight.”
She told me it was a big mistake and because of it, she waited a week to call him back. Of course he never answered so she hung up quickly.
About a week later he finally called her again but she didn’t or couldn’t answer. I’m not sure which it was.
After that she told me she will never call him back or even go out with him anyways.
Apparently he failed her first test… she claimed: “He called too quickly.”
But did he really fail her first call test? Was he supposed to wait a certain amount of time dictated by some stupid dating rule?
Well I believe and this is what I told her – Yes and No!
Okay first of all let’s get this out of the way. Bartenders in late night bars should NEVER be called before Noon. 🙂 They’re notoriously late sleepers. But that’s not important for now.
Yes. He failed one of her first tests but nope, it happened long before the phone call. The call was just her excuse or rationalization based on the fact he did nothing to get her excited about talking or seeing him again.
Being nice might get you some numbers but it won’t help you pass her early tests.
Listen again to how she described when the met,
“He was nice. The conversation went well. He seemed like a good guy.”
Fast forward to his morning phone call keeping their nice conversation in mind.
When the phone rang and she saw who it was something inside her put the clues together – Nice –> Well –> Kind Of Boring –> Calling her quickly –> Need, Urgency, Maybe he’s thinking, “She’s hot! I have to snatch her up before someone other dude does.” –> BOOM! NOT interested. No real attraction.
Her subconscious (or intuition on guys) detected all that from just a few interactions which is big reason why passing a woman’s early tests are so important.
I asked her, “What if this guy really excited you? What if right after you met him you couldn’t get him out of your mind? What if instead of having a nice conversation you had a heated fun argument full of banter and wit and he teased the hell out of you… And that same guy called you the next morning?”
Her eyes lit up as she smacked me on the arm, “YES!!! You’re right!”
What if after all that he left this message while she was sleeping,
“Great meeting you yesterday. I’m going to be busy for a while but I wanted to make sure you weren’t lost without my great conversation skills. I’ll call you back soon. We’ll do something.”
That guy didn’t have some pre-programmed message or wait time before he called her because to him, that’s where the conversation left off.
It became perfectly naturally to leave her a message the very next day and she wouldn’t even have considered that he called her too quick. Leave an amazing impression on a woman and she’ll want you to call her as quickly as you can.
She’ll want to know you remembered her. She’ll want to know you’re at least interested in getting to know her because you asked for her number.
Failing a woman’s early tests such as this is rarely about knowing or not knowing how long to wait before you call her – the test starts as soon as you interact with a woman and that’s the part I believe we need to first focus on if our “being too nice” seems to be getting in the way of attraction.
Whether you’ve read it before or not, if any part of this post today feels like you then please make sure you’re not making “MISTAKE #1: Being Too Much Of A Nice Guy” so you can pass her early tests. Please read carefully all ten major mistakes. This lists was an eye opener for me and I do hope it helps you just as much –> The Ten Most Dangerous Mistakes YOU Probably Make With Women, And What To Do About It…