Flirting is a part of the broader topic of sexual communication between men and women. You can flirt without any sexual result or intention, and you can sexually communicate without having to flirt. Flirting is also just one way to begin the human mating process which will can begin with these steps:
1.) A physical attraction
2.) Close Proximity.
3.) Approaching or engaging with a flirty chat.
4.) Building sexual tension and increasing attraction.
Your body language is always your first and most important weapon you have in being a charming flirt. You can learn how to flirt to across the room while not even using a word …never discount your body language.
If you feel you are a great flirt and you’re making the woman laugh. You’re also having a marvelous conversations but you seem to always get stuck there. Take a look at your body language. You may be giving her the wrong impression about who you are without even knowing it.
Sexual communication and sparking chemistry requires you to convey to a woman that you are a strong confident sexual man.
Your body must also convey comfort to her, which helps her to be relaxed and open. No crossing your legs or arms unless it is playful and flirty way. Your body language must also lead her in the right direction.
When I am dealing with a very attractive woman who experiences countless numbers of approaches every day,I will casually and naturally turn away as I begin to discuss a topic with her. I’m very open but slightly turning will not only allow you access to what is happening around you, but it will bring you two much closer physically without being a creepy man. The more she gets interested in you, and if you are standing close, she will actually begin to follow your move; trying to get back into your full view and keep your attention. Done properly it’s almost like you are slow dancing. If she is high-strung and starts to make you dizzy. Call her on it in a funny way. Say something like,
“Slow down…”, (lightly touch the side of her arm to stop the direction she is moving )
“I’m not into dancing to elevator version of My Poker Face.” By the way works great if you are stuck in line with her.
Building sexual tension and increasing attraction through the art of flirting can seem like a magical experience to both of you. Those around may also be enjoying your banter. It creates the natural and instinctual feelings we’ve experienced long before we could even utter a single word. That’s why it can lead to great sex, naturally. We tend to put so much emphasis on our words or trying to explain those feelings we lose sight of our natural ability to mate. Forced flirting is backwards. You can not begin to flirt with your words. You flirt with your body while your words merely compliment it. Check out my short review on Flirt Mastery if you’re interested in a full program on flirting. It can really help you in this area.
You would be surprised by some of the conversations I have had with women because my body language and tonality were absolutely congruent with the words my brain decided to spew out. For Example. There was this cute cashier in a supermarket. I noticed right away a curious look on her face about me. She carded me for alcohol and instead of watching my card while she grabbed it, I maintained soft eye contact (in other words not a creepy stare). She mentioned how I looked so familiar to her but she just couldn’t figure out who I was. I replied with,
“I don’t know”, raised eyebrow, “I do have naked pictures of me up all over the Internet. How much time do you spend looking at naked pictures of men on the web?”
That was not only a guaranteed blush but in ten seconds I made soft eye contact. There was physical touching while not acknowledging her touch when she grabbed my license. (Which by the way I covered it almost entirely when I gave it to her so she would have to touch my hand) I got a genuine laugh from her. And I’m sure a naked image of me appeared in her mind. This also caused her surroundings to disappear.
In case you don’t read much about how a woman can experiences romance but she usually writes something about how, “It felt like we were the only two in the room. ” I also noticed she became fidgety or nervous while not taking her eyes from me. All in roughly ten seconds.
It was a clear example of flirting sexually to increase attraction. Notice I said increase and not create.
Read this excerpt from a blog post I recently read,
As I said above about double entendres, when I am attracted to someone I stumble over my words and fidget.
Not at my peak of confidence so I get nervous.
10 Signs She’s Flirting by Marni from The Wing Girl Method
A beautiful woman with a profound statement. If you flirt well and learn to sexual communicate with her at the same time she will get a little nervous.
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Here are two helpful hints about flirting you can use.
- Do not let the tension you developed go away either. Her nervousness is good and it means that what you are doing, is working.
- Don’t let her nervousness make you nervous too. However you can make her feel more comfortable when lightly teasing her about it.
If you are flirting properly and using that flirty banter to enhance your body language women will be wanting more of your attention. If you ‘re not sure if she’s flirting back read Marni’s post, 10 Signs She’s Flirting. She can give you some insight about whether or not what you’re doing is working. Flirting to a woman is fun and it can make her feel sexy but beware nice guys, if she controls this energy and if you don’t lead or build on it, there’s a good chance she’s just having fun and is not really into you at all. Please take the time to look at What’s Inside a Woman’s Mind from Marni. Click here for a review and an explanation here at DialteG ™
The cashier I mentioned earlier was without a doubt starting to feel chemistry and attraction between us, and if it wasn’t for the eight upset people behind me in line, she would have not let me go.
But I did walk away and sure, guys at this point ask me, “Why didn’t you get her number?” So I’ll answer that. During our small interaction I noticed her name and when she handed me the receipt I was able to look back into her eyes and say,
“Don’t quit your job anytime soon Lisa, you might just see me again.”
Then I turned and confidently walked away. I did not wait for a response.
This post is about using flirting and sexual communication to increase attraction, it’s not about how to get laid in three easy steps. Yet imagine you are the woman for the moment. (Careful there, if you’re a guy I can’t have you falling for me!) She experienced me pulling away at the height of our interaction and left her wanting more. More tension. More sexual attraction. Even if you were to accomplish this only three times a week. That’s twelve different woman in a month you’re probably going to see again. And when you do, continue to do what worked. That is 144 different women in one year that will flirt with you every chance they get. It’s great practice and will also guarantee some dates. Exciting dates with a sexual overtone and not a casual friendship.
Flirting is just flirting which maybe fun, but does not necessarily lead anywhere at all. Yet flirting while incorporating sexual communication through your body language, voice tonality, and sexual humor increases attraction and sparks chemistry. Lead the flirting and lead her into wanting more and you will be that charming man she wants to tell her friends about.
Later guys,
Pete
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