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On Attraction, Being A Man, and Allowing Her To Feel Something For You

Creating attraction means allowing her to believe you are the right choice for her.

This is the Second Step in Getting Out of the Friends Zone – ATTRACTION.

Attraction can be a confusing concept so if you’re a little confused after reading this, don’t worry, it will all come together quickly.

NOTE:  Always keep practicing Distraction until it’s a part of you and your everyday life. It’s THAT important.

Think of your transformation as…

You are becoming the type of man women DO want as more than just a friend.

You’re becoming the type of guy they KNOW is the right choice for them.

You have been actually increasing your ability to attract women by practicing attraction.

Keep in mind this fact: “Attraction” is not her choice but she can and does choose who she feels is the right choice for her.

You must allow her to believe you are the best choice for her. She must understand the choice she is making is the right thing to do on her own terms and not yours.

Start thinking that you’re giving women, all women, the gift of YOU. 

And gifts always come with a price.

When you buy an expensive gift it costs you money.

When you give an expensive emotional gift it costs YOU time and energy.

It may even cost you stress because when you put so much thought into pleasing someone else with this “gift” you’re never entirely sure how it will be seen. 

You’re never completely sure how it will make someone feel and you’re never guaranteed the reaction from the gift is real or genuine because some people will fake liking it, just to spare your feelings.

The gift I’m asking you to give women is nothing more than just being best man you can be at any given time.

And it will cost you some work.

The real hard part is always going to be making the right choice when it comes to interacting with her.

Mof what you do from now on may not seem logical.

It may not feel right ALL the time but that’s because everything you’ve done with women so far has put you in the friends zone and you must reverse the effect it’s having on them.

Let’s look at a common example using “she”.

What do you do when “she” calls you up to talk about HER problems?

How do you feel while you’re trying to listen to her every word almost memorizing it so you can be or appear better than the other guys she tends to date?

Part of you wants to be the better man. You know the guy that’s always there for her.

Part of you is angry because once again, it’s all about her!

And you know it’s just putting you in deeper into the friends zone.

Part of you feels helpless because you like her so much you WANT to make HER happy.

You know for a fact many of her problems would disappear if she would just BE WITH YOU!

Makes you want to pull your hair out doesn’t it?  

Tell me about it because I know.

I bet a part of you is depressed too because it seems unfair.

Your choices don’t feel like choices because none of them produce the results you want.

So what do you do or how do you handle it all?

Do you listen intently and risk going deeper in the friends zone?

Do you tell her to stop treating you like a friend because you want more and risk losing the friendship?

Do you listen intently hoping the advice you give her will manipulate the situation in your favor?

Do you stop listening all together and do what everyone is telling you to do and that’s avoid seeing her so much?

Do you start being a jerk by getting angry with her hoping to reverse the friendship effect?

Remember what I said in the beginning about the hard parts…

  • The hard part is always going to be making the right choice when it comes to interacting with her.
  • The gift I’m asking you to give women is nothing more than the best man you can be at any given time.

Now what do you feel is the right choice to make in the situation I just brought up about her once again calling you to air out her problems?

I bet it feels that “being the best man you can be” or “the gift” is being there for her because she needs you.

But it’s not.

Unless she has deep emotional problems that need a therapist or to be locked away…and this is a biggie so never forget it about her or 99.999999% of the women you interact with…

She doesn’t need you!

Ouch that stings, doesn’t it? BUT… maybe not.

She’s CHOOSING to talk to you about her problems because you listen.

She does NOT want you to solve her problems because you will steal her independence and suddenly she’ll begin to feel like she has no choice anymore.

She just wants you to listen.

Keep in mind we want women to believe they are making the right choice for them because it feels right.

Steal their ability to make their own decision and you’re taking away what they feel is them making their own choices.

Confused yet?

So how do you solve this dilemma, make the right choice, and create attraction all at the same time?

By being the best man YOU can possibly be at any given time.

Whatever choice you choose to make is entirely up to you.

I also know how you decide will depend on what you learn from me so I’m going to help you out….

Do you listen intently and risk going deeper in the friends zone?

Women rarely enter a relationship with a guy she’s not friendly with.

If you’ve distracted yourself enough and are not always there like you’ve been in the past, and she’s starting to not rely on you as her go to guy to bitch about life – then be a friend when you can.

Just don’t suddenly drop everything for her – and keep yourself busy.

Do you tell her to stop treating you like a friend because you want more and risk losing the friendship?

This IS an option but doesn’t usually have good results.

If you reveal your feelings too early, before her, or make it seem like you’re not giving her choice – chances are, she will pull back and not consider you a friend anymore.

This will ONLY have a chance of working if the attraction has always been there and it must be said in a way which avoids putting pressure on her like,

“I can not believe how great it feels to have become so close to you – It’s feel like there should be more to us.”

Do you listen intently hoping the advice you give her will manipulate the situation in your favor?

If you choose to manipulate then in the end you will probably fail even if you manage to get her.

Refrain from giving any advice at all because unless you’re sure it’s even the right thing to say, you will either only go deeper in the friends zone OR create a future drama which will ultimately destroy the relationship.

Do you stop listening all together and do what everyone is telling you to do and that’s avoid seeing her so much?

The “Distraction” step is there for a reason and if you’re asking this then you haven’t fully focused on that step.

Go back and make sure you’re NOT available so much because you’re dating other women AND your a “busy guy” who is enjoy his life – regardless of your attachment to this friend.

Do you start being a jerk by getting angry with her, hoping to reverse the friendship effect?

It’s possible a woman might start feeling something for a guy who starts pissing her off BUT it’s not recommended.

It’s a player move AND it’s not as easy as it sounds to pull it off.

I’m not saying it won’t work but there are other factors which must be in place for it to work in your favor and setting up those “factors” is NOT in my ebook.

Click here for the next page – Your Nice Guy Voice

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