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He Stares and Flirts at Work But The Next Day, Won’t Say A Word – Is He Interested?

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Flirting at work can be a risky fun thing but does it mean he really likes you?

I am confused about a guy. He stares at me, then talks sweetly to me, then the next week he flirts with me. He blushes when he talks to me then the next day he does not talk to me at all. What does this mean? This has been going on for a month and is driving me crazy. Is he interested or just playing around? How do I respond? Why the disinterest the following day? All this is going on at work.

I absolutely LOVE this question. It sounds like he is having a sordid love affair with you – INSIDE HIS HEAD. 🙂

And I would not have known that so confidently if I had not been there myself… More than once.

There’s an easy way to get a man to “show” you his hand.

Introduce, stimulate, or trigger attraction.

The fact that he is blushing means he IS feeling highly attracted to you but probably lacks the necessary experience in this area or at work. This means he knows what to do but he can not get himself to do it. Perhaps it’s a fear of rejection, a little failure, and the curse of public rejection.

Can I tell you a little secret?

When I began to learn all this stuff I would flirt with a girl a little but then felt compelled to stay away from her. In the past I would have hung around like a playful little puppy and since that NEVER worked I needed to do something different.

I wanted her to miss me.

I wanted to show her I could give her space.

I wanted her to believe I had a life outside of her and women in general.

I also wanted to play it “cool” in every way possible.

So if you have yourself a “freshmen” who is still learning all this fun stuff, then like me, he could be doing it on purpose. That I will NEVER deny.

However…

The fact he is blushing and then pulling back tells me he feels guilty for flirting with you. Like maybe he crossed a line with you because you’re at work. Some guys even feel guilty crossing that proverbial line outside work so keep your eyes out for them.

But most of all… and this is something almost every guy does:

He’s kicking himself in the ass for not following through with the flirting by asking you out.

This is where knowing what to do next comes in handy but this is also where so many guys like your co-worker fail to act. Once it’s done once or twice the pressure builds and builds along with the fear beginning to grow, making it impossible for him to finally step up and just ask you out.

Your man has done this for about a month now and since you’re left wondering and confused of his intentions, he’s more than likely afraid his intentions will be less than “honorable” or at the same time he is even more curious about how you feel about him.

Many men think this way…

Okay I’m talking with her and I flirted. I think she flirted back. That MUST mean she likes me. But I’m just not sure!!! I know. I’ll test her with the only way I know how. If she comes to me the next day she must like me.

If you don’t come to him after (like the next day) and start flirting with him he becomes more confused because he figures now – if you liked it, you’d have to come back for more.

Yet, he can not help himself. He NEEDS to come back for more or your “goodness”. Just in case you changed your mind. Men will often find every reason to believe there is always hope.

What this type of guy is really doing is waiting for YOU to take that next step. There are several reasons why which goes beyond attraction. For example – in a workplace environment us guys can get ourselves in trouble asking women out because of sexual harassment BUT if she asks then we know she’s cool with the whole situation.

Now…

Is he interested in you?

There a 99% chance he is interested in you. 😀 ( This does not mean he will instantly say yes to your advancement. There’s much more going on in most circumstances. )

Is he playing around with you?

I can tell you “players” are good at what they do. If he’s playing you, a date would have already happened unless he’s that deep of a player. Remember, players know the steps to seducing a woman and they know how to do it well.

How do you respond?

That depends on what you want.

If you’re looking for a man who knows and understands the steps of “courtship” and is able to take action then don’t respond at all. Slip him DiaLTeG TM with a helpful wink and a very cute smile.

If you feel strongly about him and you’re willing to risk a date with him because he’s got so many other things going on for him, then you’ll have to either go to him directly on the day he ignores, and demand he take you someplace where you both can forget about work and swap some interesting stories. You’ll want to build to that moment by doing what works for both of you.

Put bluntly – you’re going to have to take the lead and hope he follows. If he doesn’t, please don’t take it personal.

There are too many reasons why men turn down dates at work. There’s a lot more at risk than just rejection.

For more information on guys please visit my absolutely free and “for women only”  Why Do Guys…?  I believe you’ll find it extremely helpful on understanding men and I answer lots of question directly on subject similar to this and more.

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51 comments… add one
  • CJ

    Something like this happened to me. Except I knew he was married because my friend knows his wife professionally. He didn’t know this. He still doesn’t know.

    He flirted intensely…made prolonged and deep eye contact all the time. He came up to me to flirt, which I stamped out tactfully. Still the man kept persisting and became more bold and obvious in his behavior.

    I happened to find another guy cute, and we interacted a lot. But Mr. Flirty would insist in being a part of the interaction or breaking it.

    I didn’t mind the flirting thing. But it eventually just became weird than a flirty interaction every time we were in the same room. He would park his car strategically so he would be near my car or he would park so he would be in my line of vision.

    He would ask me, what I thought were random and unconnected questions and statements, which were more puzzling than enticing.

    “Do you have a headache?”

    I nodded my head.

    “Is it me?”

    Puzzled, I look at him. Then I shake my head to say “no.”

    “You know, you’re the first person that has told me it isn’t me.”

    Choosing to remain silent, I ask myself, why are you telling me this?

    The more I don’t react towards him the more persistent he became to the point where he started to rib the other guy I was talking to. And when that didn’t appear to work, he started befriending us.

    He would start inserting himself in our conversations. He liked what we liked.

    He tried to humnly brag about himself.

    So, at the end of that, I got tired and thought, “Okay, what IS this man’s deal?”

    I gave him mh number and told him to say what you need to say.

    He slowed down his roll, and just gives me that intense blue-eyed stare that he has. I shrugged and walk off.

    He hasn’t called. The guy is married. He has a thing for big, dark eyed women with pouty lips…spanish/oriental looking woman, which is a complete opposite of what his wife looks like.

    My guess is he is Mr. Flirt. He needs acceptance. He likes to flirt and chase. Maybe he has cheated on his wife a few times. Who knows who cares. The guy just needed something.

    It was fun, but weird. Back to our lives.

  • melanie

    I work with this guy who is quite attractive. He seems to be showing all the signs of flirting with me i.e raising eyes. smiling. staring when were talking touching my hands. hugging. high fives trys touching me when ever he can teases me gets excited when we have things in common like not sleeping well. Iv never had a guy be like this with me b4 and i don’t know what to do. I don’t have confidence to ask him out right but we have spoken before about relationships and flirting as people use to say he’s really flirty but he says he’s not a flirt. Im just confused what should i do i like him an we do get on. Please help x

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