We’re men, right? No… we’re nice men. So let’s nicely break down the logic order of dating attractive women.
- You meet her.
- You ask for her phone number.
- If she gives it you, call her and set up the date. Then proceed to step 5.
- If she refuses you, meet another girl and repeat steps 1 and 2.
- You have the date and it moves along nicely, proceed to step 7.
- You have the date and she doesn’t seem to be into you. Go back and repeat steps 1 and 2.
- You set up another meeting.
- If the second date goes well and she seems interested in you, go to step 10.
- If she doesn’t seems too interested in you, go back and repeat steps 1 and 2.
- The second date went well, now it’s time for sex, right?
You might laugh a little at those 10 steps in dating but only the last part, about the sex is not true. I hear and read so much advice on how guys are to get dates that it makes me shake my head in disbelief. I say that because honestly, and no real man will argue this point. It is just that easy to get a date.
And why is this?
Because many good looking single women do in fact struggle finding nice men that they are attracted to.
But single women do go out on dates. They do give out their phone numbers. They do start and end relationships, and yes, some do have casual sex.
I know from experience that although it seems simple and easy for any man to get dates, if you’re a nice guy constantly finding yourself as just a woman’s friend, you think like this.
“I could get more dates, but why bother, women are not attracted to me anyways. I go out with her once or twice and we either end up friends, or eventually I never hear from her again.”
Here are some interesting facts pertaining to the above quote:
- Any man who firmly believes he will be stuck dating women he feels little for will always have to date women to find a girlfriend.
- Any man who believes the opposite may never have to go out on another date to find a girlfriend or have casual sex with them.
This is because men that understand themselves and how to become a man women want to date, and can still keep his nice guy traits, and understand it’s not about the date. It’s about the experience you have together and how you make her feel. That’s it. If your mind gets stuck on, “I need to find more dates”, you’re setting yourself up for failure. You don’t need more dates, you need to create experiences at any event and leave having her feel attracted towards you.
I gathered some great attraction and dating resources and I want you to go through every one of them. I guarantee when you are done reading them you won’t even bother worrying about dating anymore. You should feel compelled to follow the advice given. As you progress on your journey out of the friend’s zone, dating more women will become so natural for you. You will then, and only then fully realize how easy it is to get more dates.
I have put them in an order which should naturally progress from one to the next. Click on the first. Read it. Save it or bookmark it then hit the back button to read what I have to say then go to the next one. Sure it could take an hour but again by the time you’re done you will have a deeper understanding of how women feel attraction. Go out and start putting everything in practice and in no time, your dates, now I will call experiences you create, will increase. If it doesn’t let me know and tell me why you think you failed.
Dating Tips For Men: “How Do I Get Girls to Notice Me?”
Obviously it isn’t one of his best articles written but his advice is always solid. Believe it or not, you can’t get more dates if women don’t notice you. Just be careful about how you get noticed. Being loud and obnoxious is a not how do it. You do it subtlety. You make sure your appearance is not eliminating you from across the room. We’re not saying you have to be great looking. We merely implying that details are important. Details get noticed. If you want to date more attractive women taking care of those little details men often miss, can make a huge difference.
You may not need a complete makeover like I did but a little extra care about your appearance is worth it.
The advice I can give you that you probably never hear is this:
Let’s say you’re going out shopping for food. You don’t look your best. After all you’re not going out to a club, or a high class restaurant. But women will still notice. They will notice and realize you are in a super market. You’re not expected to be dressed up. But when you get close to a woman, or a potential date, she will notice how you have taken care of those little hairs in your nose. She will notice your shoes or sneakers are not ten years old. She will notice that even though your hair may not be perfect because you rushed out of your house, but she will see potential.You won’t rule you out instantly and it makes starting a conversation with much easier.
How to Make Women Laugh and Feel Attracted to You
Short and simple but direct. I know it’s not too deep into the actual how to make a women laugh but I included it because it explains why should make her laugh. Humor makes people feel good, especially women. But just making them laugh will not create attraction so you must learn to use your humor correctly or all your efforts on getting noticed and having more dates will be wasted.
Imagine you are in a mall. You are looking close to your best. You head into a gift shop searching for something unique to give to a close friend. You see this hot girl and walk past her. She looks in your eyes, and slightly smiles. Following the flirt master’s advice above you don’t want to act like a clown, but making her laugh and teasing her immediately breaks down her guard. It establishes you are not afraid to be yourself. This is a very casual encounter so you’ve got about 3 to 5 minutes to create an experience she will remember. If you can make her laugh the right way, embarrass or tease her a little, make her feel comfortable by your slow calculated body language, and lead her every step of the way, she will want to see you again. Which, if you haven’t guessed it yet, implies a potential date.
How to Get a Girl to Like You – 4 Easy Ways to Make it Happen
“Men who desperately pursue women appear as though they’re not comfortable in their natural state, and in the end, they get rejected. So stop agreeing with everything she says, and lay off the flattery…”
I hope by now you can see the direction all this going. When you are constantly searching for more dates you can in fact appear desperate. When you constantly pursue women they are more than likely going to run.
That is why I mentioned above about how getting more dates is easy because it means less searching. Just by changing yourself, your beliefs, and overcoming your fears to be a more confident man will open up more opportunities.
With all that above established you should be beginning to understand how attraction is created. You also can now see that dating more women is a side effect of creating attraction. It’s not the other way around. You don’t succeed in dating by getting more dates and trying to make her feel something for you. You make sure from your first encounter with her, that she is already attracted to you.
Dating Tips For Men: How to Tell If a Woman is Interested in You
I have included this one because I myself have experienced when I first started finding the attractive man inside me I was wondering how to tell if what I was doing was working. I wanted to make sure that if I was failing that I just didn’t keep doing the same shit.
If you don’t walk away with a clearer understanding of how to get more dates after reading this one, something is seriously wrong with how you are thinking. Let me know and I will help you out.
Carlos explains in great detail the exact signs you should be looking for and how much you should be concerning yourself about it. That is why I support his work so much. No bullshit but lots of great advice which rarely offers instant fixes. He understands cultivating your personality and you inner self can take some time but he also makes it clear how much it is worth it.
I suggest you read this one several times until it is memorized. That way when you’re out you are not cluttering your mind up trying to remember all of what he says.
This article is essential for getting more dates because it will save you time and have you dating less women that feel nothing for you. It’s a time saver. Your time is valuable and when you are not wasting it you can set up more dates with women that do feel something for you.
Quality is always more important than quantity and better quality can lead to more dates because is builds you into a more attractive man. Which in turn, well you get the point by now.
Now what does Carlos have to say about having more dates and meeting more women?
So, I’ve Been Meeting a Lot of Women, But How Do I Get Them to Like Me?
“…will improve your success with women, and they’ll find you irresistible if you step back, demonstrate some confidence, and be a little different than the other guys out there.”
Remember those words I took directly from Carlos’s advice. They are very important and you can not get more dates if you don’t follow them. I’m sure if you have done any research on single guys looking for more dates, the word, confidence, was everywhere. There is a good reason for it. Confident men get more out of life and have no problem getting a date. It is a way of showing women, without a doubt that you feel strongly about your skills. It shows them a hint of indifference. And it shows anyone, that you are a strong person that can handle himself in tough situations. That is why good strong leaders have such confidence.
Carlos mentions being different and I want to clear a great misconception,
You are not being different just by trying to be original. Most of the time it doesn’t work. You be different by doing something that is unique to you, and you only. When you try to be original often you will lose sight of something important, yourself. Any deeper discussion on this subject may be written later so if you’re interested, jet let me know. Leave a comment, or write me, and I just might get back to you.
The third important element in his advice is stepping back. Giving a woman space is essential for more dates. It is undoubtedly a key element in getting a second or third date. I won’t go and tell you what I read everywhere else, how giving her space shows security and a lack of need. I believe that goes without saying. What I do want to explain is how giving a woman space can make her want a second date because she becomes curious and wants to know if you really do like her. She has a need to be liked by a guy that gives her room, and let’s her live her own life. I don’t care how many times a woman claims,
“I don’t need anyone and I don’t care if anyone likes me.”
Those women that feel they have to proclaim that are usually the ones that need it the most. So ignore her words. You can skim through Carlos’s advice a second time,
There are many indicators of a girl’s interest in you. You just have to know where to look. The primary three are these:
1 – Actions (What she does that indicates her interest obviously)
2 – Words (what she says to you)
3 – Body language (what she does that indicates her interest subtly)
He is saying that her actions mean more than her words. A woman that is clearly saying to everyone she does not care if people like her are usually acting out of a deeper need. Truly indifferent people, guy or girls, rarely, if ever, state their indifference. The act indifferent.
Time to bring this advice full circle…
Getting more dates as a nice guy is simply a matter of your ability or skill, in being more attractive. It’s not about just getting phone numbers. That is fairly easy with a little practice. If you train yourself to get any woman’s phone number within a reasonable amount of time, and learn when to call her for a date can get you more dates. But a date is a meeting, that’s it. It does not even imply a feeling for you.
Creating experiences women will remember and want to feel again is really how to get more dates. It is how to get second dates. It is how to have your choice when you make the decision that you want her to be your girlfriend. I’m going to ask you to throw away the word dating and substitute it with experience.
Say to yourself this instead,
“I want to get more dates!” becomes I must learn to create better experiences when I first meet a woman.”
“Why do I struggle in getting a second date?” should become,
“I must learn to create an experience for her that she will want to feel again.”
You see men who have their share of women don’t actually need to go on dates. The feelings he creates inside a woman is so much more important than an actual date. And through this manner the place becomes somewhat irrelevant.
The nice guy that’s tries to set up more dates and attempts to make it the perfect date often loses sight of the real purpose of the date. It is to meet someone you connect with and discover whether both of you have attractive personalities. Three different dates to a movie, a restaurant, or a club, in a week means nothing if she ends up walking away disappointed.
….Yet one experience of walking a dog filled with fun flirty conversations that is cut short just a little too early, is something women will remember and will ultimately associate positive feelings with.
