I met this wonderfully exciting woman one day through a close personal friend. Our first meeting was incredible. I flirted. She flirted back. We had a wonderful conversation and we were both amazed at how much we had in common. I distinctly remember the details of the two of us sitting on the couch. It was dark and we were in a second living room of this giant house. It was easy to have that one on one interactions with no interruptions. And in the cheesiest sense possible the sparks between us seemed to lighten up the room like a warm flickering candle. It was so romantic.
Quick jump to a decade later…
I saw her profile thrown up online. She was looking for dates. She was still single with no kids and still looked incredible!
So I wrote her with a funny story and updated her on the status of our mutual friend. She never wrote me back and I wasn’t surprised at all.
To our meeting ten years earlier…
Why didn’t we date?
How come she turned me down cold without hesitation that ?
She didn’t!!!!
I made a nice guy mistake. I didn’t step up to the challenge of an incredibly smart, funny, and good-looking woman. I left the interaction and never once did I ask for her phone number. I never asked her on a date. I let the moment pass and missed any opportunity to either advance our relationship, or kill it right there and move on to the next.
Remember how I mentioned she was single?
Do you want to know what her problem was or still is?
Of course you do.
It’s because she continually makes the one mistake so many single women do, and that mistake is…
She likes nice guys!
She likes nice guys just like me but too many nice guys never bother to risk rejection with her. When I think about what that woman has suffered in her dating life because of men like me. It really hurts. The helplessness she has felt inside for being nothing more than an attractive, smart, and funny woman just wanting to meet someone decent must feel like a terrible burden or an impossible feat.
If just one nice guy could step up to her challenge…
Millions of years of human nature in relationships tells us men lead, and women follow. It’s us men that are designed to do this and yet so many of us nice guys act like women. And worse yet, when she won’t take the lead, we cower away into our “cave” and build huge walls of insecurity around us.
I absolutely stand by Carlos Xuma’s core skill 4. Have a look at it below. If it doesn’t make you want to get up and show women that you are the man who is willing to step up to her challenge then maybe you should just stop reading these pages, right now!
CORE SKILL 4: Escalating & Closing
This is probably the one skill that most guys fear the most.
Why is this?
Well, it’s because we hate to risk ruining what we have. Even if it means that we stand to win a bunch more by risking. If we escalate things by asking for something from a woman, she could say NO. And that would be rejection. Have you ever been in a great conversation with a woman, and you didn’t want to risk asking her for her phone number or a date because you didn’t want her to say “No” and ruin everything for you? The fact is that if you DON’T ask her for her number, you lose by default.
In the words of Wayne Gretzky, the great hockey player: “I miss every shot I don’t take…”
Escalation & closing is the simple skill of guiding a woman to the next step in the chain of events of how to get a girlfriend. You escalate the seduction, and then make it real.
Don’t continue the make the same [intlink id="119" type="category"]mistakes[/intlink] over and over hoping you’ll get lucky. Chances are you won’t and honestly, when you rely on luck in the dating world the relationship you enter is almost doomed to fail or just be average.
And do you really want to settle for being average?
CORE SKILL 4: Escalating & Closing:
Your dating and relationships will depend on that one moment to close. Yet that same moment when you have to make any decision in your life happens often, and each are woven into who you are and what you become.
That fourth skill, escalating and closing, not only is an important step in getting a girlfriend, but it represents all choices in your life when you decide to make an important decision.
In this case it involves you, making the decision right now…
Will you continue to sample free advice?
Or will you invest more in yourself to get real long term results?
Remember this, when it comes to women dating you, they will push you aside rather than teach you what needs to be done to get her.
They know it is your responsibility to learn about her or any woman you wish to date. Don’t be scared about what women will think of your desire to become who you want. They might not help you for whatever their reasons are, but trust me, just you escalating and closing , will make you a more attractive person.
Sure woman will respond differently if they see a copy of some advanced dating techniques lying around your house. But I can guarantee if you leave her alone with it while you go to the bathroom she will already be half way through it by the time you come out. And she will be more than curious about your progress.
Because women love confidence and leadership. And a man who is confident enough to lead his life the way he wants is highly attractive.
If you want more out of your dating life, take that fourth step of escalating and closing and do something about it.
Be confident.
Be the leader of your own life first and you’ll notice women will follow. Then you will never have to answer the question,
“How come we never dated?”
with my old pathetic answer of,
“Because I never tried.”
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