I was talking to a very special woman a few weeks ago and we started talking about being happy. Unfortunately she was not feeling happy lately.
Do you feel beautiful on the inside but not on the outside. Or beautiful on the outside but not on the inside?
She said in her frustration she had decided to do something she had not done before.
(At least on purpose.)
It was just a small act where in the past, she might have blown off for not believing in it.
She tells me this,
“Pete. I’ve been miserable. So unhappy. I even feel like I’ve wasted the last twenty years of my life. But then I looked in the mirror and smiled. I didn’t smile because I liked what I say, you know I love what I see. I’m pretty hot. But I smiled because I wanted to see if it could make me feel better.
And you know what…it did!!!”
I smiled at her revelation. I knew exactly what she was talking about.
Our bodies are connected to our mind. Our mind controls some functions in our bodies consciously and other automatically.
This is no more than you would have learned in high school Biology. But what they never taught in Biology is that our bodies also controls our mind. I first saw and felt how it worked through Rob Brinded’s famous video, “Stinking Thinking.” It’s on my limited beliefs page. (you should scroll down to watch it)
He’s proven to me without a doubt then when you access certain muscles in your body consistently it triggers related emotions from our primitive past. Smiling is one of them, attraction is another one of them. We all agree the muscles used for smiling don’t have a brain themselves (theoretically speaking, I have listened to lectures that the cell alone is a mind.)
Yet when our minds exercise the ‘smiling‘ muscles it tricks our minds to believe we are happier. Thus we feel better. When we exercise our bodies and get in better shape it releases Endorphins which make us feel better.
Here’s the cool part if you’re here studying pure physical attraction.
When we exercise the muscles which are used to attract others our mind gets the message.
We are sexy. We are attractive. Our body relays the message to our minds. Our attitude and body movement is enhanced by our new feelings. And consequently other will feel it too. As it enters their minds it too also triggers their bodies to act as if they are attracted to us through their body language first and then their minds.
Remember the phrase, “Beauty is only skin deep.”
When the young man I grew up with, (myself,) first heard those words I don’t think I could have been more skeptical or pissed off when someone uttered those words because there I was…
The Nice Guy. The Good Guy. Everybody’s friend. I made people laugh. I made people smile. But I felt so ugly inside. I felt my looks kept me from getting the things in life I felt I deserved. I felt like my height was always going to be the deciding factor limiting my choices in women. I felt like I would always lose with women because I was below average in height and borderline skinny.
If beauty was only skin deep why didn’t women want me when I got to know them? If beauty was only skin deep why was I always alone? If in fact beauty is only skin deep, why did it seem like all the good-looking guys get the girls?
Obviously I could sit here and reassure you your looks have absolutely nothing to do with finding a girlfriend or a boyfriend but I feel that statement is not entirely true. Remember our mind and bodies are connected and they do influence each other. Sure how you look on the outside is not the overall determining factor but it does have its place.
Beauty is not skin deep because we are not separated from our bodies.
Again our bodies influences our minds and our mind influences our body. It’s a circle and only when interrupted by an unfortunate accident it will always be that way.
If you’re a beautiful person on the outside but you feel ugly on the inside some say you’ll only end up with others who can only attract people with low self-esteem.
If you’re beautiful on the inside but not on the outside some say you will only attract people who could care less about your looks, or you’ll only attract those who themselves feel ugly on the outside.
What do I say or what do I feel like we can all take away from this post…
When you focus on your look on the outside and forget about your mind you’re missing a piece of the big picture of what beauty really is.
When you focus on your mind and you forget about your body and your outside look you’re still missing a big picture of what beauty really is.
Balance is important because beauty is not skin deep. If you want to attract a healthy balance of others you too must represent a balanced unique individual.
Here are some related questions to think about:
When you feel ugly do you appear unattractive to others?
Can you just feel attractive and suddenly your body will become attractive?
What is beauty and how much of a role does it play in procreation?
Is there a distinct difference in your mind between being beautiful and being attractive?
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