Tall dark and handsome. That is what women want, right?
That’s what the media tells us. Ask a woman who plays the lead role inside their minds, in other words their perfect man and more than likely, she’ll say tall, dark, and handsome.
So what are you supposed to do as a shorter man, to succeed with women?
You could give up. You could wear lifts. Your could find a shorter woman but everyone knows shorter women only date extremely tall guys. You could build up your muscles and hope women won’t notice you’re short. Hell I bet if you look hard enough you can find women that have a short-man sexual fetish.
You can become rich and famous, a rock star, or even a great athlete. Admit it. Every solution I have mentioned are truly viable options. Sure they are extremely narrow-minded but there is a logic behind them.
Every one of those solutions are based on a limited belief system of our social upbringing. They are perpetuated from day one of our existence and us shorts guys are force-fed them constantly.
When the constant bombardment of our confidence and self-esteem are tied into each failure we endure, we can find ourselves relating these failures to our height.
After all if a woman turns us down and the next man we find her kissing, is five inches taller, it becomes way too easy to blame it on our height. It satisfies the logic of what we see or believe in our minds. We consequently “train” our minds to only notice what satisfies our logical process.
For example. If you are logically deducing women only want men who are slightly taller than them, you are far more likely to only notice those couples. And when you do see couple that goes against your beliefs, your brain tries to explain it another way.
He must be rich… or it’s his huge muscles…Ehhh he’s probably a jerk.
But when I see or meet an attractive taller women, my mind screams,
Now you would think a challenge would be good in this case. But it is not. Seeing her as a challenge I set myself to be the chaser. I’ve already made a clear connection in my mind between her height and her unwillingness to feel attracted to a shorter man like me.
You see how that works. It’s not always in plain view. Sometimes these connections we make often lie deep and nested. They are entwined in our everyday life. They set themselves up when our social surroundings, as stated earlier, bombard a weak confidence and self-esteem.
Tall women are challenging because taller women want tall men. If I can get a taller women I must be good at getting women. And since shorter women only date much taller men, and shorter women have more choices, why should I bother. That is too great of challenge. Tall women struggle finding taller men so I can get them to settle for me.
Now…Is your success with women really based on your height?
You must answer yes or no and nothing in between. If you say yes what is the reason you came up with. The first one that pops up in your mind. Is there any statement you can make that will unwind the connection and set it up as a positive reinforcement making you more attractive to women?
I recently found this great quote to show you exactly what I mean.
…who is now 6’5?, the world is a little place, full of cramped spaces in vehicles and uncomfortable closeness. You’re constantly moving away from people so you just have a bit of room to maneuver and not fall down, because your center of gravity is so high. When you talk to someone, the natural distance to stand away is maybe 3 feet or more.
I’m 5’6?. For me, the world is spacious and easy. A queen bed is a huge space where a girl my size and I can sprawl at will. Car and plane seats are comfortable and relaxing. My personal space is rarely impinged. I can stand six inches away from someone and they don’t feel threatened or weird.
Taken from LA Phil Be Short Get Laid, It’s a small blog listing which doesn’t cover much yet on being short and attracting women but you should be able to find some useful information there on pickup. I wouldn’t expect you’re going to get laid that easily by visiting but every little bit, no pun intended, helps. Keep in mind the blog was written as an added assortment to Brad P who offers products for sale such as Instant Attraction, Brad’s Fashion Bible, Planning the Perfect Date, How to Beat Approach Anxiety,ect… P
Do you see what LA Phil has done for us?
He has taken a taller man and showed us the attractive advantage of being short over him. The attractive part being making others feel comfortable and trust me guys, having tons of space on a bed with a woman can be like having sex in an arena. You both can fit anywhere, in any position, and still have room to spread out.
The connection that is unwound here is the connection of since you are short, the world is a huge place where taller people have the advantage. When in reality we can find it easier to get close to people because of our height.
You can also learn much more on these connection through Secret to Success Women for Shorter Men. Keep reading I’m going to tell you about that below.
That sort of exercise I asked you to do can be done by yourself and it won’t cost you anything. All it takes is a reworking of the way you think, and the ability to stand back, even for a few minutes a day, and objectify these connections between your success with women, and your height.
I have only covered a few examples here. I believe you can find some more on your own but if you’re going to find some are so deep you may need a little outer perspective to bring them up. I though I knew most of them especially because I think about this shit so often to write about it.
I was wrong.
I had no idea how to fully connect my height to how women perceive me and use it as an advantage. I learned about attraction, built my confidence and self-esteem and my height went away.
You can do what I’ve done. It works. But like my misconception, you’re going to miss an area which as a shorter man, can be actually used to your advantage in attracting women. Yes short men have can advantages in dating and attraction.
I went out and bought Secrets to Success with Women for Shorter Men. I felt it fit perfectly in my life being a 5’5″ man. Scot McKay was able to show me and teach me ideas that could work to my advantage as I mentioned above. Here are some of those:
- I told you how I was deterred from dating women shorter than me, well he showed me how to make a shorter woman feel secure around me.
- How to make those challenging taller women feel more attracted to me and got me to stop chasing them.
- That insecurity I told you on the side about women can cause a woman to rule out shorter men.
- Those same insecurities apply to even other men and your height so Scot came up with some clever ways to deal with them.
- Then he got into the signals short men put out that do not Attract women.
- He doesn’t get into the description of the “Napoleon Complex” but he explains fully, how to avoid it.
- If you’re like me and if you believe you can not make a woman feel more safe around you than a big guy, you’re wrong. He explains why.
- He also explains who and what women want to really be protected from and how to make her feel safe.
- Through this I learned what women need to feel secure around men.
- I learned how to separate my from 90% of all other men, despite my size.
- How to dress to maximize my attractiveness as a shorter man.
- Fashion mistakes shorter men make.
- If I should build more muscle to attract.
- How my masculinity is so important.
- Why are women attracted to a leader.
- Concrete examples of short men who have succeeded with women and found long-lasting relationships.
- What I should excel in as a short man to attract lots of women. and what I should avoid at attempting as a shorter man.
- How to deal with short jokes.
- That positive mentality the LA Phil quote depicts with many more examples.
- How to gain respect without asserting your authority on others.
- Great examples of building your character to gain respect.
- How to be the man who can build security inside taller women.
- Profile secrets specifically designed for shorter men.
I’ve gone over each section of the material several times. After putting into practice and experimenting with its concepts I listened to everything again and wrote down what I felt gave me the most beneficial information and useful advice. Some of the material I listed I already had a firm grasp on.
So whether you just want to increase your success with women because you’re already decent at it, or you’re just starting out down this road, you will walk away with an increased knowledge and understanding of how to succeed with women as a short guy.
This program WILL NOT teach everything about attraction. Try some of Scot’s discounts during your purchase for a complete course on that.
The bonuses offered have little to do with being short, except the report of how to date taller women.
Which is good. Not great but it has a little value to it. I feel it’s a little short to truly propel your ability to date taller women but couple with the examples above you will learn more than enough to date more women, despite your height.
He adds a Joseph Matthews interview on Real Seduction. This bonus can be bought separately for about seven dollars.
It wasn’t what I thought it was going to be about but it’s a quick twenty minute interview. I suggest you listen to it and you’ll learn a little more about the seduction community and what to avoid in the world of seduction. He talks about real seduction and how cheap tactics won’t get you anywhere.
There is also a six part interview from000Relationships. I laughed when I started listening to it. Honestly guys if you don’t laugh in the first thirty seconds you’re being way too serious with yourself.
I honestly thought the music was right a porno at first, except with better quality. And then the voices came in. Imagine this scenario, you pass out watching tv and awake to an infomercial. Except it’s on the radio. I actually imagined all this so I didn’t remember too much about the fist minute until I listened to it again.
Aside from the seemingly play acted flirting going on you will learn about attraction, dates, and what attract women by listening. Each part is designed to center your thoughts about the specific topic and you will find it also substantiates some of the great point Scot makes.
I’m almost positive those of you that have read this far in this admittedly long post are short guys, or really bored women, but also if you’ve read this far I hope you’re feeling that much stronger about getting your dating life a boost despite your height. This post was designed to be a complete guide for you but I feel through this page alone I have given you enough positive information and offered many different avenues for you to explore.
Please feel free to check out more from directly from Scot McKay – X&Y Communications. Sign up to a dedicated newsletter for shorter men called Not Too Short at - Secrets to Success with Women for Shorter Men.
- 5 Reasons Why Women Will Reject a Shorter Man Based on His Height
- A Limited Belief of Men: Being Short
Wow I’ve finally come to the end of this post.
Good luck guys, tall or short on all your success with women.
Please again post a comment if you have any questions or answers you would like to share with the readers who have done a wonderful job at supporting my pages.
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An interesting note here in understanding a woman’s life is her having to deal with the issue of her beauty. It’s no secret media portrays mostly beautiful women to sell its product. And for an average looking women from day one of her life she too has to learn to deal with the same pressure short guys do. Except in her case it is far more elaborate and deeply intertwined in our American society. When you see an attractive women standing next to an average looking women imagine how each of their lives are affected in the same way us short guys are affected. Understanding a womans (not always so obvious) self-esteem issue with her looks, regardless of her attractiveness, is essential to learn the way she feels attraction.)