Is our success with women “really” based on our height?
Ask a woman who plays the lead role inside her mind, in other words their “perfect man” and more than likely she’ll say…
Tall dark and handsome.
That is what women want… right?
So what are we supposed to do as a shorter man, to succeed with women?
Well we could just give up…
We could wear lifts.
We could find a shorter woman but “everyone” knows shorter women only date extremely tall guys, right?
We could build up our muscles and hope women won’t notice we’re short.
I bet if we look hard enough we can find women that have a short-man fetish. 😀
We can become rich and famous, an adorned or troubled rock star, or even a great athlete in the limited sports where height won’t matter of course.
We must admit that every solution proposed above are truly viable options.
Sure they are extremely narrow-minded but there is a logic behind them.
Every one of them are also based on a limited belief you and I may have carried since we first discovered women.
I know I have.
They are perpetuated from day one of our existence and us “shorter” guys are force-fed them constantly.
When the constant bombardment on our confidence and self-esteem are tied into each failure we have to endure we can all too easily find ourselves relating these failures to our height.
If a woman turns us down and the next man we see her kissing is five inches taller… it’s easy to blame it on our height.
It satisfies the logic of what we see AND believe.
That is when we “train” our minds to only notice what satisfies our prediction.
If we logically deduce women only want men who are slightly taller than them we are far more likely to only notice those couples.
So when we do see a couple that goes against it our brain tries to explain it another way or pass it off to some other reason we often don’t have like…
He must be rich… or it’s his huge muscles…Ehhh he’s probably a jerk.
Here are some more reasons I came up with in this sarcastic but hopefully helpful post for us “shorter” dudes –> 5 Reasons Why Women Will Reject A Shorter Man Based On His Height. You can read it later.
However these beliefs go much deeper and I want to prove it!
When I see or meet an attractive taller women, my mind screams… CHALLENGE!
Now you would think a challenge would be good in this case but it’s unfortunately not. Seeing her as a challenge I’m setting myself to chase her.
You see I’ve already made a clear connection between her height and her unwillingness to feel attracted to a shorter man like me.
These connections are not always easy to see. Like the last one.
They are often so deep and entwined in our everyday life they bombard our confidence and esteem quietly in the background making them much more harmful.
Here’s the reasoning behind it.
“Tall women are challenging because taller women want tall men. If I can get a taller women I must be good at getting women. Since shorter women only date much taller men, and shorter women have more choices, why should I bother. That is TOO great of challenge. Tall women struggle finding taller men so I can get them to settle for me.”
Sad as it sounds it’s how I thought.
I believed my success with women was mostly based on my height.
But… I now know…
There IS a way out of this “tiny” dilemma.
We need to objectify it all out and find those connections like I did AND THEN we must notice how our past thinking just doesn’t hold up so well in the “real” world.
From there we can also add some positive spins to our height like Brad P of Instant Attraction has done for us,
…who is now 6’5?, the world is a little place, full of cramped spaces in vehicles and uncomfortable closeness. You’re constantly moving away from people so you just have a bit of room to maneuver and not fall down, because your center of gravity is so high. When you talk to someone, the natural distance to stand away is maybe 3 feet or more.
I’m 5’6?. For me, the world is spacious and easy. A queen bed is a huge space where a girl my size and I can sprawl at will. Car and plane seats are comfortable and relaxing. My personal space is rarely impinged. I can stand six inches away from someone and they don’t feel threatened or weird.
Being Short is an Asset in Pickup Part 1
LA Phil has taken a taller man and showed us the “attractive” advantage of being short.
The world may seem like a huge place to us “shorter” guys and it might seem taller people have all the advantages but just through his one example it becomes clear that is far from the truth.
And with those advantages, a clearer perspective of how we let our height “bring us down” and of course some real examples of how attraction works…
Our success with women is NOT based on our height.
A woman’s success with us may be based on it.
Some women will turn their heads away from us because of our height.
But almost always that is HER self-esteem issue and has nothing to do with us at all… unless we let it affect us negatively.
Height does NOT have to be a SERIOUS issue for us in attraction.
If we think about it, we’re typically more shallow or superficial when it comes to looks than women are. 😀
But if it still is a problem for you, please read through what I’ve shared today, the few linked up articles highlighted above , and get on this list immediately–> Secret to Success Women for Shorter Men – Not Too Short. It was made just for us shorter guys by Scot McKay who just happens to be a short successful man.
Success with women has very little (if anything) to do with our height and I firmly believe being short CAN be an asset so…
Let’s not let a “little” thing like this get in our way ever again.