Is our success with women “really” based on our height?
Ask a woman who plays the lead role inside her mind, in other words their “perfect man” and more than likely, she’ll say…
Tall dark and handsome. That is what women want, right?
Well we could give up…
We could wear lifts.
We could find a shorter woman but “everyone” knows shorter women only date extremely tall guys, right?
We could build up our muscles and hope women won’t notice you’re short.
I bet if we look hard enough you can find women that have a short-man sexual fetish.
We can become rich and famous, an adorned or troubled rock star, or even a great athlete (In sports where height won’t matter.)
We must admit that every solution above are truly viable options. Sure they are extremely narrow-minded but there is a logic behind them.
Every one of them are also based on a limited belief you and I may have carried since we first discovered women. I know I have.
They are perpetuated from day one of our existence and us “shorter” guys are force-fed them constantly. ( Here is where I break down my old belief that being short stopped me from attracting women –> Reframing A Limitied Belief )
And when the constant bombardment of our confidence and self-esteem are tied into each failure we endure, we can find ourselves relating these failures to our height all too easily.
If a woman turns us down and the next man we see her kissing, is five inches taller, it’s easy to blame it on our height. It satisfies the logic of what we see AND believe. We then “train” our minds to only notice what satisfies this process.
If we logically deduce women only want men who are slightly taller than them, we are far more likely to only notice those couples. When we do see a couple that goes against it, our brain tries to explain it another way or pass it off to some other reason we often don’t have like…
He must be rich… or it’s his huge muscles…Ehhh he’s probably a jerk.
Here are some more reasons I came up with in this sarcastic but hopefully helpful post for us “shorter” dudes –> 5 Reasons Why Women Will Reject A Shorter Man Based On His Height
These beliefs go much deeper and I’ll prove it…
When I see or meet an attractive taller women, my mind screams… CHALLENGE!
Now you would think a challenge would be good in this case but it’s unfortunately not. Seeing her as a challenge I’m setting myself to chase her.
You see I’ve already made a clear connection between her height and her unwillingness to feel attracted to a shorter man like me.
These connections are not always easy to see. Like the last one. They often are deep and so entwined in our everyday life they bombard our confidence and esteem quietly in the background making much more harmful…
Here would be the reasoning:
“Tall women are challenging because taller women want tall men. If I can get a taller women I must be good at getting women. Since shorter women only date much taller men, and shorter women have more choices, why should I bother. That is TOO great of challenge. Tall women struggle finding taller men so I can get them to settle for me.”
Sad as it sounds it’s how I thought. I believed my success with women was based on my height.
But there is a way out of this “tiny” dilemma.
We need to objectify it all out and find those connections like I did AND then we must notice how our past thinking just doesn’t hold up in the world.
From there we can also add some positive spins to our height like Brad P of Instant Attraction has done,
…who is now 6’5?, the world is a little place, full of cramped spaces in vehicles and uncomfortable closeness. You’re constantly moving away from people so you just have a bit of room to maneuver and not fall down, because your center of gravity is so high. When you talk to someone, the natural distance to stand away is maybe 3 feet or more.
I’m 5’6?. For me, the world is spacious and easy. A queen bed is a huge space where a girl my size and I can sprawl at will. Car and plane seats are comfortable and relaxing. My personal space is rarely impinged. I can stand six inches away from someone and they don’t feel threatened or weird.
LA Phil has taken a taller man and showed us the “attractive” advantage of being short.
The world may seem like a huge place to us “shorter” guys and it might seem taller people have all the advantages but just through his one example it becomes clear that is far from the truth.
And with those advantages, a clearer perspective of how we let our height “bring us down” and of course some real examples of how attraction works…
Our success with women is NOT based on our height.
A woman’s success with us may be based on it. Some women will turn their heads away from us because of our height.
But almost always that is HER self-esteem issue and has nothing to do with us at all… unless we let it affect us negatively.
Height does NOT have to be a SERIOUS issue for us in attraction. If we think about it, we’re typically more shallow or superficial when it comes to looks than women are.
But if it still is for you, please read through what I’ve shared today, the few linked up articles, and get on this list made just for us shorter guys by Scot McKay –> Secret to Success Women for Shorter Men – Not Too Short
Scot McKay happens to be one successful shorter guy who I’ve always turned to for some great advice on this subject.
Success with women has very little (if anything) to do with our height. Being short can be an asset.