A Limited Belief of Men: Being Short

Excuses…excuses…excuses!

We all make them.  Some fewer than others but they are really are just Limited Beliefs.

My biggest one was, being short!

Let me tell you a quick story.

I was at a bar once that always featured live bands.  Being a musician I would always bring myself up close to see what chords they were playing. Check out their equipment and meet the members. The bar was also located closely to a college. The local patrons treated the basketball team as if they were stars so they got their fair share of attention.

There I was, listening to the feature act when the two top athletes on the basketball team came in. If you don’t know me I tend to take up a lot of space no matter where I am and I usually place myself in a high traffic area slightly to the side. It’s just a good spot to hang out and have women approach me.

So when these two guys came in the only way they could get close to the front, was by surrounding me. One stood to the left, the other on my right. And of course like clockwork this woman comes over to give the stars their fair share of ego boosts. It was hilarious!

This woman began saying how much she liked them and how she thought the team was awesome this year. She was so happy to finally meet them and she would go from one to the next. And each time she had to look up to them. After all, they were almost seven feet tall.

I noticed she was eyeing me and at every exchange her head was bobbing up and down.  First to the guy to the left, down to me, then up to the man on my right, and back again several times. Finally she stopped. Looked at me. Looked at each one of them. Then looked back at me uttering in that “talking to a child voice”,

“Oh Sweetie! You’re cute too”

At which time she decided to pinch my cheeks.

The two guys looked at me at first like I was going to steal their fame for the evening, but being cool, they eventually laughed with me.

It actually felt great because it was one of the biggest tests I ever had in my life. My height was not only put in the spotlight in a very public place, but more importantly having to deal with a woman who was obviously attracted to their fame and most importantly, their height.

And I handled it with dignity, respect, and laughed about it. I passed my own test.

So how do we overcome these limited beliefs?

Sometimes it’s just a matter of changing how we think by reversing our beliefs and spinning them in a new, positive way.

And it doesn’t take years of professional consultations or digging deep into our childhood.

I am by no means a psychiatrist, or even a practicing psychologist. What I am is just a guy, but I am not just any old ordinary guy. I have managed to transform myself into a man who no longer leaves my life up to other people. Sure I still have excuses. Sure I still occasionally struggle with a limited belief or a self-esteem issue now and then. But they are few and far between. They are now manageable and my dating life is now under my control.

Based on my experiences, failures, and successes,  positive thinking does work!

Re-framing your beliefs can affect your life in a positive way. It may take some time to develop yourself, but it is worth it.

I struggled with my height for years.

In case you don’t know I’m 5 foot 5 inches. Short by average man standards.

Here is some of what I have heard from women about me being short from the bad, to the funny to the downright pathetic and nasty:

• I don’t date short guys.
• I only like taller men.
• You’re too short for me.
• Short men always seem like they have something to prove.
• Tall men get further in life.
• Tall men make more money.
• Tall men get laid more.
• I wouldn’t want to be seen dating a shorter guy.
• I’m embarrassed kssing a guy shorter than me.
• I can not dance with a shorter guy.
• Big strong guys make me feel safe.

(Feel free to add your own by commenting below if you’re a shorter guy.)

I would get defensive when I heard those. I would get upset. I would actually believe that me being short had everything to do with not getting laid or finding a girlfriend.

But that was all bullshit.

The only way me being short had anything to do my failures was that I believed it and when I  believe in something enough, I make it come true. Yet the revers is true also. I believed I could change my negative beliefs about being short, and have them work in my favor.

BEING SHORT:

1. ) Have a comeback for any common insult or observation that is upfront and demands respect:

I don’t date shorter guys. - “I don’t blame you. Everyone wants someone they can look up to. Too bad you’ll never be one of those for me.”

I only like taller men. - “Haha! You mean I finally found someone more shallow than me.”

You’re too short for me. - “And you’re too narrow-minded for me.”

Short men always seem like they have something to prove. – “Proving you wrong on that statement is a waste of my time.”

Tall men get laid more. - “I suppose you’re now going to prove it to me by not sleeping with me. How mature.”

Sure I know those comebacks are kind of rude but think of it this way.

When an attractive woman is bringing up your height early on, assume she is testing you. She wants to know how strong you are for real. So don’t get angry at her, just respectively state your opinion about HER limited belief. If you piss her off, don’t worry about it. She will respect you more for it. As the old saying goes,

“I can not sleep with someone I don’t respect.”

2.) Have a comeback for any common insult or observation that is cocky and funny:

I did not like this one as much as a comeback that demands respect, but it does work and I have used it successfully many times.  An important point I realized when using the cocky and funny response is that I had to make it short, then move on quickly. When I didn’t do this the conversation seemed to get stuck on my height. The last thing I want to do when I’m with a woman is to talk about my height unless I have some funny stories to tell. Like the story I start you off with today.

I’m not going to include any here. Comment below and I will. You just have to ask guys.

3.)  Bring up the topic early and make fun of it to show no insecurity about being short and proving you’re confident and at ease with who you are.

I always make sure it is funny and I’ve found it works well with taller women who may have a limited belief of their own on dating a shorter man or being tall themselves. Often those women get confused when they find themselves attracted to a shorter man and don’t know how to deal with being attracted to someone they are not used to.

This also works great with shorter women. We all have seen petite women with extremely tall guys. There are many reasons for this. I always have had my own ideas of why this was, and I still feel I’m correct.

But until I bought Scot McKay’s Secrets To Success With Women For Shorter Men, I had only touched the surface. Whether you want to date a woman your height, or a taller woman, you can accelerate your success by first joining the free newsletter by Scot called Not So Short .

4) You can also learn to Reframe your beliefs on being short.

Please visit my page on Limited Beliefs when you get a chance. I have used being short as a great example to get you started.

5) Read these posts for a better understanding of everything contained within this post. They should give you some great insight into overcoming your beliefs.

These two are kind of short. They do have a great message though.

Too Ugly? Too Short? Here’s How To Turn Your Flaws Into Strengths or
How to Attract Girls Even if You’re Short

Here’s few Articles written by Scot McKay. These kick ass. You should really enjoy them.

Limiting Beliefs in Reverse – See Dating and Attraction From a Woman’s Perspective and Succeed
Put Your Limiting Beliefs Aside – How to Become Her Superman

I do hope this post has helped you short guys begin to overcome any fears or beliefs you have about your height.

Your height should never hold you back from getting the women you desire in your life.

And please guys stay from using common cliches such as,

“I’m not short. I’m vertically challenged.”

They won’t work and it often screams to a woman you’re covering up your insecurity of being short.

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