A Limited Belief of Men: Being Short

Excuses…excuses…excuses!

We all make them.  Some fewer than others and they are LIMITED BELIEFS

My biggest one was, being short!

Let me tell you a quick story. I was at a bar once that always featured live bands.  Being a musician I would always bring myself up close to see what chords they were playing. Check out their equipment and meet the members.

The bar was also located closely to a college. The local patrons treated the basketball team as if they were stars so they got their fair share of attention.

So there I was, listening to the feature act when the two top athletes on the basketball came in. If you don’t me I tend to take up a lot of space no matter where I am and I usually place myself in a high traffic area slightly to the side. It’s just a good spot to hang out and have women approach me.

So when these two guys came in the only way they could get close to the front, was by surrounding me. One stood to the left, the other on my right. And of course like clockwork this woman comes over to give the stars their fair share of ego boosts. It was hilarious!

This woman began saying how much she liked them and how she thought the team was awesome this year. She was so happy to finally meet them and she would go from one to the next. And each time she had to look up to them. After all they were almost seven feet tall.

I noticed she was eyeing me and at every exchange her head was bobbing up and down.  First to the guy to the left, down to me, then up to the man on my right, and back again several times. Finally she stopped. Looked at me. Looked at each one of them. Then looked back at me in which she uttered in that “talking to a child voice”,

“Oh Sweetie! You’re cute too”

At which time she decided to pinch my cheeks.

The two guys looked at me at first like I was going to steal their fame for the evening, but being cool, they eventually  laughed with me.

It actually felt great because it was one of the biggest tests I ever had in my life. My height was not only put in the spotlight in a very public place, but more importantly having to deal with a woman obviously was attracted to their fame and height.

And I handled it with dignity, respect, and laughed about it. I passed.

So how do we overcome this limited belief?

Is just a matter of changing how I thought  by reversing our beliefs and spinning them in a new, positive way.

And it didn’t take years of consulting digging deep into my childhood?

Well I am by no means a psychiatrist, or even a practicing psychologist?

What I am is just a guy, by no means am I an ordinary man. I have managed to transform myself into a man who no longer leaves my life up to other people.

Sure I still have excuses. Sure I still occasionally struggle with a limited belief or a self-esteem issue now and then. But they are few and far between. They are now manageable and my dating life is now under my control.

And I can tell you this, Positive thinking does work!

Re-framing your beliefs can affect your life.

I have read many dating experts or attraction artists and a common theme among them all is to have a well constructed plan, and a common thing to say when dealing with your deepest issues.

And you know what…it’s work!

It takes time to develop yourself but it is worth it. Trust me on that.

I struggled with my height for years. In case you don’t know I’m 5 foot 5 inches. Short by average man standards.

There are ways I have learned, with the help of the people listed here. In other words invest in their products because there is no way I  could have done all this without them.

Here is some of what I have heard from women, and any common thoughts about being short from the bad to the funny to the downright nasty:

I don’t date short guys.

I only like taller men.

You’re too short for me.

Short men always seem like they have something t0 prove.

Tall men get further in life.

Tall men make more money.

Tall men get laid more.

Feel free to add your own by commenting below if you’re a shorter guy. Or add any limited belief you may have.

I would get defensive when I heard those. I would get upset. I would actually believe that me being short had everything to do with not getting laid or finding a girlfriend.

But that was all bullshit. The only way me being short had anything to do my failures was, because I believed it. And I’ve noticed something about my life…when I  believe in something enough, I made it come true.

The wonderful aspect I learned about believing is that I could change or reverse my beliefs for the better.

There are some proven techniques I have learned to overcome many of my limited beliefs and I’m going to break down one of my biggest…

BEING SHORT.

1) Have a comeback for any common insult or observation that is upfront and demands respect:

I don’t date shorter guys.

“I don’t blame you. Everyone wants someone they can look up to. Too bad you’ll never be one of those for me.”

I only like taller men.

“You mean I finally found someone more shallow than I am.”

You’re too short for me.

“And you’re too narrow-minded for me.”

Short men always seem like they have something to prove.

“Proving you wrong on that statement is a waste of my time.”

Tall men get laid more.

“I suppose you’re now going to prove it to me by not sleeping with me. How mature.”

Sure I know those comebacks are kind of rude but think of it this way.

When an attractive woman is bringing up your height early on, assume she is testing you. She wants to know how strong you are for real. So don’t get angry at her, just respectively state your opinion about HER limited belief. If you piss her off, don’t worry about it. She will respect you more for it. As the old saying goes, “I can not sleep with someone I don’t respect.”

2) Have a comeback for any common insult or observation that is slightly cocky and funny:

I did not like this one as much as a comeback that demands respect, but it does work. An important point I realized when using the cocky and funny response is that I had to make it short, then move on quickly. When I didn’t do this the conversation seemed to get stuck on my height when I wanted to show interest in her. This meant I kept getting stuck on building attraction, which I already did. And a good rule I follow that works well in most circumstances is to step to showing a little interest in her and building rapport.

In case you are new to this cocky and funny techniques I first heard about it when I purchased David DeAngelo’s material. Simply put, you take a cocky statement, and make it funny. It works well in moderation. But it also has  pitfalls, careful using it.

3) Bring up the topic early and make fun of it to show no insecurity about being short and proving you’re confident and at ease with who you are.

I always make sure it is funny and I’ve found it works well with taller women who may have a limited belief of their own on dating a short man. Often those women get confused when they find themselves attracted to a shorter man.

4) You can also Reframe the belief to give a positive outlook.

Please take a look at my Limited Beliefs page where I go deeper into re-framing for a shorter man such as myself.

5) Read these for a better understanding of everything contained within this post.

Check out John Alexander’s Articles,

• Too Ugly? Too Short? Here’s How To Turn Your Flaws Into Strengths or

• How to Attract Girls Even if You’re Short

Brought to you from my new site at Attraction Transformation, A Resource for Relationships and Dating, which is full of easy to find information.

You should also check out this incredible program designed specifically for shorter men wanting to date taller women. Hell I think Scot McKay is actually shorter than I am.

• Secrets To Success With Women For Shorter Men — by Scot McKay

It is the only program I have found specifically designed for shorter men. I put a good deal of trust in Scot McKay and all his programs designed by him and his wife.

Here’s few Articles written by Scot McKay:

• Limiting Beliefs in Reverse – See Dating and Attraction From a Woman’s Perspective and Succeed

• Put Your Limiting Beliefs Aside – How to Become Her Superman

I do hope this post has helped you short guys begin to overcome any fears or beliefs you have about being short holding you back from getting the women you desire into your life.

I did not go into too much depth on every the five points and that is simply because I mainly use the first one. I sprinkle in some of the others as I see fit because it is so dependent on the situation.

I will ask you to steer away from the common cliches you hear people say like,

“I’m not short. I’m vertically challenged.”

I just don’t believe in that kind of negative reinforcement.

Let’s face it. I’m short! That’s it. It has little to do with anything but how my genetics predisposed me. My mother’s short. My brother is short. My father is short. And so. You get the picture.

Now leave some comments. I am dying to hear some of those cocky funny statements you guys can come up with or your experiences you have lived through which finally made you believe that being short did not limit your dating life any more.

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