As a nice guy, learning how to respond to a woman’s test, or knowing how to increase your attraction in her eyes is essential for staying out of the friend’s zone.

In a recent test I’ve given to men I asked them how they would respond to

How would you respond to this woman's test?

How would you respond to this woman's test?

the actions or words of a woman in a particular situation. I constructed it to figure out if he is a,

“Man or a Wussy?”

Wussy is a term David DeAngelo has coined and it’s simplest meaning is related to these pages,

…A nice guy that ends up in the friend’s zone consistently because he acts like a wimp around women that he finds attractive…

or as found on wikipedia,

…The Inner Wuss: a character trait of men developed through time that causes them to become submissive around women in order to get their approval…

And most likely acts similar in all aspects of his life. An average looking man with an attractive personality has either learned or naturally understands, how to react to a woman’s tests, actions, sexual advances, or her attitude during any event or interaction.

Read the test question selections below and think of how you would respond. The answers were chosen to grade on a scale. So there is no right answer.

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1.) When you are on a date and she says, “Ewww!” as a response to what you are ordering. How do you respond?

A.  Give her a dirty look.
B . Reply, “You don’t like that? Good. Then you won’t be picking at my plate.”
C.  Ask her why she doesn’t like it.
D.  Order something different so you don’t offend her.

Now let’s look at the answers more closely and grade your answer from 0 to 10. Ten being the best option.

Okay so you can give her dirty look but it’s technically not a  nice thing to do. It might keep you out of the friend’s zone so you get a 5.

You can ask her why she doesn’t like it but it might lead to some boring conversation so you only get a 3.

Ordering something different so you don’t offend her is without a doubt a nice guy stuck in the friend’s zone response. You’re worrying too much about what she thinks of you and your habits. No points can be rewarded for this response because you failed to fully apply law #2. You were trying to be nice and being nice has little or nothing to do with attraction.

Obviously the best answer would be B. Replying with a funny comment in a cocky way.

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2.)You start talking to a woman you just met and she starts to ask questions like, “What do you do for a living?”, “Where do you live?”, “What is your name?”…etc.

A.   Nervously answer and hope she will like your answers
B.   Answer her, and then ask the same questions
C.   Answer her questions politely.
D.   Respond with something like, “What is this, a job interview? Are you trying to hire me to clean your home? You should know, I get paid a lot and I won’t wear a maid’s outfit.”

If you chose A you’re more than likely consistently in the friend’s zone. I’m sure you understand why but i will elaborate a little. The nervousness and hoping is a sign to her that you lack in confidence and you are coming off as a needy person. Both high attraction killers for women. No Points can be rewarded.

Selecting B is that bad but technically it is boring. Sure you are having a conversation with her and showing her you are interested in who she is but if you’re a nice guy answering questions like this will surely put you in the “Sure, he’s nice. But I just don’t feel anything for him.” Only 3 points for having the ability to talk with her though. It’s a step in the right direction.

C is again is bad for appealing to her emotions. If you consistently appeal to just her mind and not her emotions she will more than likely not feel anything for you. Politely answering is a nice thing to do but…well you’re getting the picture by now. Being nice has little or nothing to do with attraction of how to make a woman feel something for you. 3 points though for getting yourself into a situation by meeting a women.

If you chose D, congratulations.  Any time you are interacting with a woman initially there is no need to tell her your life story. Keeping things funny and leaving her to guess is much more attractive.

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3.) You’re out to dinner and she starts to pout or whine, because her food is not cooked to her liking. She then asks you to make the waiter send it back.

A.   Console her.
B.    Call the waiter over and explain the situation.
C.    Look at her with a raised eyebrow and say sarcastically, “Excuse me. Are you going to need me to cut your meat for you too?”
D.    Offer to trade meals with her.

Any nice guy that wants to guarantee he ends up in the friend’s zone would surely be to console her. A. Since she didn’t suffer any real loss consoling does two things. It proves to her you will bend to her every whim and it lowers your status in her eyes. Two major killers of attraction. No points.

Now calling the waiter over, is choosing B maybe a little better than consoling because you are proving to her you know how to take charge and you’re not scared to let others know when there is a problem. But again you fell for her wussy test so you only get 1 point.

Responding to her childish ways by being sarcastic is definitely the way to go. It shows her that she does not control you and since you are doing it in a funny way it says, I’m confident, strong and funny. Three very attractive traits. 10 points.

Choosing letter D may be a kind act of chivalry and you do get 2 points for being slightly creative and you took charge, but that’s it. Any time, and I mean ANY time you give in to a woman who is acting in way that is not consistent with the event you are failing her tests. Real losses include losing a family member, losing a friend, getting hurt. These are real and consoling is a good thing to do. Especially since you are a nice guy. But remember the law above. Being nice has little or nothing to do with attraction. You can be nice and seen as just a friend. Or you can be nice but still have her respect you. Which can lead to attraction.

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4.) You are out with your friends and happen to meet an attractive woman with a dynamite personality. After five minutes of talking with her your friends gesture for you to get back with them. What do you do?

A.   Stay with the girl and see where it leads.
B.   You’re out with your friends having a good time so you tell her it’s been nice talking to but you have to go.
C.   Get angry with your friend for interrupting or “blocking” you.
D.   You’re out with your friends having a good time so you tell her it’s been nice talking to her but you have to go. Then you casually ask for her number as you walk away.

Staying with her, or choosing A may seem like a good idea but it is not. It’s what most guys do that end up on the bad end of begin nice, being just friends.  Think of it this way. If you’re out specifically to hang with your friends and you blow them off for someone you just met what does that say to her. It says to me you’re willing to give up something you’ve invested your life in, finding good friends, for someone who is attractive. Don’t get me wrong if she puts her tongue down your throat and offers to have sex you and you’re looking for that, perhaps you should go for it. But otherwise hanging around a great woman you just met for too long and not giving her space is a small sign of readiness. She will see that as it is. However walking away at the peak of your interaction will drive her crazy for you. She will be left wondering and you present yourself as having the confidence to not care about the outcome. You’re there to have a good time.If you answered A you get 3 points for having a great conversation but not enough because you didn’t build anticipation or attraction.

Therefore answering B will get you 8 points. She will see you as a confident independent man that is indifferent and a challenge. Most guys would stick around to see how far they can get with her. Or to revel in the moment for an extended period. And to her says you are in need of that. Choosing B says to her, I’m a challenge. I know how to build anticipation, or be a tease, and you’re confident enough to walk away.

Letter C is obviously a bad choice and it says to me, or her, that you lack self esteem. You acted like a child by not handling the situation properly. While women may enjoy seeing you get angry I would never suggest you date a woman like that. A great woman with a strong personality will be turned off by your outrage. You will be seen as too much work and she’ll assume you act like that all the time. Which you probably do. I know. Long ago I would’ve acted that way so I feel for you but I’ve learned to overcome any rage I have experienced in the past.

Letter D is a great move. You slacked in anticipation or mystery you might have created by selecting B but the balls you show, and the initiate to get things done, by requesting her number will be seen as a confident, smart move. After all the next time you talk to her you can start to build more attraction and it will be easier because by now, she will already be interested in you. So she will be more open to you. 8 Points again.

Here is a test for yourself. See if you can come up with an answer here that you feel would get you ten points and leave them on the comment page.

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5.)  You’re out with an attractive women and every guy in the place starts hitting on her. How do you respond?

A.   Get angry and jealous.
B.   You’re exploring your bisexuality so you inquire to her about a threesome.
C.   You don’t say a word, ignoring it. Hoping it will go away but inside you’re definitely a little upset.
D.   You give her space. Talk to others. Occasionally looking to catch her eye just to smirk at what the guys are doing?

Obviously A is a low self  esteem move. Most women will see it for what. If a woman is attracted to you because she can make you jealous or angry easily she is struggling of problems all her own. Remember you’re a nice guy so why wouldn’t you want a nice woman. No points.

Selecting B is interesting and since it requires you to man up for an experience you want, you get 7 points. When dealing with women on a sexual level being open and honest is more than likely your best bet. As long as you’re not pushy or demanding just telling a what you think and asking how she feels is considered great communication.

Selecting C is a pure wussy move. It will most likely develop a habit which you do not want to have. Who knows how it could manifest itself after years of pushing that down inside you. It’s okay to have feeling of jealousy occasionally but how you act on them is entirely something else. Handling any feelings you have in a mature way is sign of a cool mature man. No Points for this choice at all.

D is by far your best in assuring your nice guy way are seen as attractive therefore will steer you away from the dreaded friend’s zone. Giving a woman space, letting her see you are okay with her talking or even flirting with other men is a strong characteristic of a real man.  More than likely she will come back over to see how you’re doing. So let her be. Let her understand that you don’t need to be all over her every second of being with her. Leaving her for a while and interacting with others and then smirking occasionally at her is a flirty move. She’ll love it. And she’ll find you more attractive for doing so. 10 points.

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48 points is the maximum you can receive for these five questions. If you landed them all you don’t belong on this page or perhaps you belong contributing to my page. Congratulations. I could probably learn something from you.

If you did not manage any points I hope you learned something from this. I will be releasing more questions and answer similar to this so check back soon for them.

Anywhere from 10 to 20 point is good because it means you are getting yourself out there and you’re trying. But you struggle with knowing what to do that makes a woman more attracted to you.  You probably end up in the friend’s zone quite often but you are on the right track. Keeping reading my pages. Check out some of the dating coaches or experts on my side panel and keep it up. You never know when all this will hit you and the next thing you know the only question you have about being friends is,” Is she worth being my friend?”

Receiving above 20 points but below 40 (21-39) is very good. Congratulations. You are obviously passing most of the tests and by reading this you will begin to see what areas you struggle with and need to work on. After all that is what this is all about. Learning the skills you need to be a nice guy and still get laid, or have plenty of dates, finding a girlfriend, or entering a long term relationship.

The only was you could have received 40 points or above and still not reach the maximum of 48 is to excel at certain parts and be average on other parts. I know because I’ve been there myself. It is where I respond so well to certain women’s test but at other times she will hit me so hard my response was better than before. Just not good enough to have some incredible attractive women with their lives in good control fall for you. Although she will be interested in you and most likely won’t push you entirely to the friend’s zone but, and I hate to use ratings for women, getting a ten will require so more work on your part. They are much more experienced in all types of men and have learned themselves to test men as far as they can. Not only is a good time saver for them it’s a good time saver for you. If you’re not ready to date a ten there’s no sense in wasting your time worrying about it or getting stuck on one woman alone. It’s just not worth it.

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