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True story. I know a woman. She wants a nice guy and a great long-lasting relationship, but she is attracted to jerks. For my own personal reasons let’s call this Olivia.

Olivia is attractive but guys also want her for several other reasons. She is cool. Has a great sense of humor. She is outgoing and loves to flirt. Her body is small. She’s a short girl with awesome ass and a perky set of boobs.

Let’s not build up Olivia’s ego too much. She might read this and I probably have to explain to her why I haven’t slept with her yet.

So believe me guys I know this woman extremely well. She loves what I do and totally gets off on my dissection of the social circumstances we find ourselves in and tells me everything.

Olivia is the classic example why a woman who finds herself with the jerks and just can’t take all the bullshit. She wants a real relationship with a nice guy but just can’t help herself from falling for the losers.

I don’t want get into the whole story of this recent meeting she has had with a guy but I will say this, it wasn’t accidental. He showed up in a public place she works. Didn’t say more than a few words. Stayed for a while with his eyes glued on his phone and checking her out once in a while, then left. But on the way out he touched her lightly on the back and said,

“Hey. Later!”

Of course she looked at me and was curious to what I was thinking. And I laughed. She comes back with,

“Oh God. I know what you’re thinking.”

I replied,

“Actually you don’t. The only thing I was thinking when he left was how he touched you on the back, or the back of the arm while he was leaving. You see, guys, sexual guys, won’t touch a woman that way unless he wants to fuck her.”

The evening went by and we discussed a little about the man and how he ended up there. It was sketchy at the least and we both knew it. She says with a sly but disappointed smile,

“But you see. That’s the type of guys that I end up with.”

I thought for a few seconds and emphatically stated to her while looking right in her eyes,

“You know, Olivia. There are guys out there, nice guys,  that can do that to you, or know how to do that to you, without being a jerk. And it’s a very good chance you never going to meet him here.”

I’m pretty sure I got a look back from her that was a little sad, a little confused, but still totally convinced that I was right. Because I feel and I believe that I am right so I will say it again with the added keywords to polish it off.

for ladies…

There are men out there, nice guys, that are mysterious, alluring, indifferent, aloof, confident, and tempts the bay boy line inadvertently …

And he knows how to do that without being a jerk. If you haven’t met him yet then you are not looking in the right place, or have the right skills to attract him.

for men…

Learn to become that guy who is mysterious, alluring, indifferent, aloof, confident, and tempts the bad boy line inadvertently…

Because  good, no great women are desperate and in need of falling for the that man. Find a way and learn to become  that guy and you will get laid more often.  Learn to become that guy and how to become the coolest guy she has ever met, and you will have longer lasting relationships. Learn to become that guy and how to have incredibly sexual experiences where both of you come away satisfied, and you will have more fulfilling and longer lasting relationships.

I know I am making it sound simple. But that’s because it is. Often the simplest answer is the most elegant and most beautifully written solutions. I’m going off a little beaten path as a sort of analogy but this man I met had a problem once. All he had to do was hang a bar which would allow a ton of weight to hold it up. All the tools he had were old  and misshapen. He also had a limited inventory of what he could use. Now how did this man solve the problem?

He didn’t! He kept claiming to me that there was no way of doing it so his frustration showed through. He told me what a boss of his said to do and he tried it, but it didn’t work. So what did he do. Kept trying it again and again. His response, was

“Fuck it! I’m leaving soon and if this is what they want, I’m just going to keep doing until I leave. Because I keep telling them it won’t work and they just won’t listen.”

I couldn’t take it anymore so after the man left, I fixed it up. And it still stands. How did I do it? I wasn’t negative. I tried something different. And I got it done. Simple as that. I found the strongest of the material. Doubled it up. Banged it into place with a steel bar because there was no hammer, and finished the job.

The connection being,

  • I tried something different.
  • I got it done.
  • I didn’t complain that there was no way.
  • I didn’t use the excuse of what someone told me to do. that wasn’t working.

for ladies…

Stop being negative about how you always end up with the jerk. It obviously does not work. There may come a time in your life where you will have to constantly tell yourself, to choose.

The Nice Guy or The Jerk?

And stick by yourself. I’m not saying to force yourself into relationships with men who don’t turn you on. I’m saying to find out where those guys are. And meet them there.

In other words….do something different. go ahead and ask me where to meet these guys. I will most likely answer and you just may get some good advice.

You have to make it happen and for each of you it will be a different path and only you can completely discover that. Don’t complain about your actions. Change them! Which means no excuses of getting bad advice, or making the wrong decisions in the past. Have courage in your choices now and know fully, even if they are bad, you will learn from it and never use it as an excuse. That is true bravery. And bravery and courage has this strange but wonderful side effect of making you stronger and stronger.

for men…

Negativity is unattractive. Only terrible women fall for a negative man. Being positive without diluting yourself of the real circumstance affects every part of your masculinity. Think about this. How many physically strong men have you met that were weak men, and how many women flocked to him? Now how many physically weak guys have you met that were strong and for some reason, women adored them?

Listen, if what you have done up until this point of your has not worked, why is going to start now? Are you going to wait around for the whole female population to change? Do something different. Even if your “tools are misshaped”,  I believe any good decent man has the blueprint inside of him to get this shit handled. The human race would not be around otherwise. We would be extinct or still stuck in the “cave man” era.

There is no way our human race could have grown this much if woman only mated with the physically strong, the very good-looking, or the typical jerks or asshole. Therefor men over time, have learned to tap into this powerful masculine man inside them. He, or them, have figured out a way to get it done, and did it. I also highly doubt these men got it right the first time but it didn’t matter. They learned from it, became stronger, and moved on.

Whether you are the nice guy, the jerk, or the good woman making bad choices, or the bad woman making bad decisions, what you choose to become is entirely up to you. So which is it,

What do you Choose?

What will she choose?

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