Nice Guys escape the Friend's Zone.
Nice Guy Friends Zone Law Number 2
Being nice has little or nothing to do with attraction.
Listen to what women say but respond to what makes them feel.
You can be a nice dude with lots of great friends. Some of them men. Some of them women. You can be the greatest guy in the world that people love to be around and yet, still not find the woman of your dreams. And That one gorgeous girl that catches your eye, passes you by for somebody else.
You can be a jerk. An asshole. Someone that nobody wants to be around . You can be that guy that people just learn to deal with. You can be the rudest man a woman has ever met, and still not date anyone or even get laid.
You can be shabby dressed, unshaven, t-shirt wearing, humble guy with a great attitude and just an overall cool guy. And you might not never run out of dates. In fact you might have to drive them away by avoiding their phone calls because you just don’t have the time.
You can be an overly confident, loud mouth jerk, aka the classic sexist pig and still find yourself surrounded by woman. While the nerdy nice guy in the corner dreams of being as cool as you.
With that said…
Being nice has little or nothing to do with whether a woman, or the occasional man, finds you irresistibly attractive.
Think about it for a minute. I’ll wait. Tap…tap… tap. What were you thinking about? Maybe you were thinking about what all the men that you’ve seen with incredibly hot chics looked like. I believe in your mind you are going to see what you want anyways. If you want to see only great looking guys get laid, then you will see that. If you want to see how mostly jerks who claim to be cool guys at least get more girlfriends than you, then that is what you will see. The reality you create inside your head is in essence, the reality in which you live. My reality tells me that being nice has little or nothing to do with attraction. And in turn, that is the world I live in. Change your perception, change your beliefs, and you change the world around you. Because it is what you will see. If you don’t believe me check out this article on attraction and come back when you’re done. I’m telling you to take my words for granted though especially if you’re not here looking for a deep discussion of how the mind perceives it surroundings.
Changing your beliefs about what women find attractive, better yet, what makes a women feel attraction towards you is essential to learn for any nice guy that is having trouble with getting dates, or starting relationships with the girls YOU want. Joseph Matthews has made some of the most profound statements I have heard when it comes to women and here is a snippet from the page listed below.
Don’t try and change their minds… change their EMOTIONS.
When a girl tells you about a specific thing she finds attractive, you got to understand that’s not a LOGICAL attraction trigger she’s sharing with you.
No, sir.
When a girl tells you something like “I like to date tall guys,” she’s not telling you she’s attracted to guys who are tall.
She’s telling you she’s attracted to the way tall guys make her FEEL.
Normally, if you ask a girl why she likes tall guys, she will share with you that maybe she “feels safer” with tall men.
So in that case, she’s looking to feel secure with the guy she’s dating.
Guess what? You don’t have to be tall to make a woman FEEL secure! you just need to know how to trigger that emotion inside her.
So let’s say you want to get a woman attracted to you – no matter what you look like.
Do you know how to make a woman feel that kind of attraction?
The key is making her feel FUN when she’s around you. If you can make a woman feel fun, chances are she’ll feel attracted.
Why?
Because attraction is all about feeling good! And if you can create some good old fashioned sexual tension in there – guess what?
She’s going to be SEXUALLY attracted to you!
Understanding that statement above is directly related t o the nice guy friend’s zone law #2 because they don’t make women feel much at all. And when they do make them feel something it’s usually comes out as, “oh he’s so sweet. I wish he could find a good woman.” Her reality is being nice, to nice guys. She’s not going to tell you that you don’t know to make a woman feel attraction. She might not even know herself where her emotions are coming from. If you make an advance at a girl (friend) of yours she will say what she is thinking. Not that she is not feeling attracted towards you. She will say she does not want to ruin your friendship. She will tell you you’re nice but she just wants to be friends. She will also say that she don’t see you in that kind of way.
If you are determined to stay out of that friend’s zone I want you to do something for me. Send me pictures of all the hot women you know. No. Well maybe…
I want you to think hard about every time you heard a woman say what she is attracted to and figure out why she would feel that way. It’s tough at first but I know you can do it. If you seriously struggle with it, keep reading, check out some people listed on these pages, and it will slowly but surely come to you. I don’t want to do it all for you because it has to come from you. That way you will begin to change your reality around you. Because your beliefs will change. You can share some on this page and I will try to help you with it. Just leave a comment below and I do my best to get to it. Keep in mind when doing this that you will come up with some very few feelings but that is a good thing. It means you are on the right track. For example:
I like guys that are strong with big muscles.
Why would she feel that way? Again as listed above it could mean security and protection or as related to sex, she likes a dominant man.
Related articles by Peter White
- How Bad Do You Want To Get Laid? (dialteg.com)
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- Do you always end up in the friend’s zone? (dialteg.com)
- 10 Questions About Being Cool Ending With Are You Cool? (dialteg.com)
- Decoding The Secret Language of Women (Joseph Matthews)
- A Few Tips from a Man, to Help Women Get Out Of the Friend’s Zone (dialteg.com)
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