I remember going to pubic places like concerts sporting events Walking through campus. Shopping at the mall . There was always a thought in the back of my head a woman was waiting for me there. Tonight, or today, was going to be it. I’m going to meet some hot chic magically, she’ll adore me and I will finally begin to get that part of my life handled.
It didn’t matter where I was hanging out because the outcome was always the same. I see a few. They see me. I catch a few of their eyes. We check each other out. I wait around for the perfect time to appear out of thin air…but not one thought in my head of what to say. Not one thought in my head about something she was doing to start the conversation My thoughts were always filled with future events causing my mind to wander well off the beaten path, and down that shitty road of loneliness. My stubbornness refusing to settle for anything less. It was the one girl I selected that day, or nothing.
Well that magical event never happened. I was waiting for something instead of getting off my ass and making it happen. Granted, I probably would have screwed up the encounter terribly but rejection, when embraced, and dealt with as a man, can yield so much more power for your inner self. And that lasts much longer than the brief feeling that comes from a failure.
Because having courage, being brave and fearless can instantly increase your sexual communication with women.
One particular evening sticks out in my mind. I was at a semi-pro baseball game. I peered over a friend’s shoulder and there she was glowing like some angelic goddess. She looked right back at me. I was afraid she would think I was some sort of freak so I turned away. A scared nice guy move that just proves instantly to her that I do not have enough confidence. We went back and forth about four times that evening. I would get up for a drink hoping she would be watching. Waiting to make her move on me as if I was her prey.
Thinking about it now I find myself thinking what that poor woman felt. First, those boyish stares of mine could have easily been seen as creepy, annoying, or worse yet, a stalker. Secondly what if she was genuinely attracted to me and I made her feel even worse, by not having the balls to approach. She might have gone home thinking how unattractive she was. Her self-esteem lowered unwittingly by a gentlemen she found physically appealing in some way.
Courage, bravery, putting your balls or ass on the line regardless of the outcome is the one thing a nice guy can do to have his sexual communication with women instantly increase. Sexually communication with women doesn’t always need a broad list of attributes for the man. Being a sexy man requires you to live in the moment. Imagine you’re that woman for a moment. Maybe you can tuck up your balls a bit between your legs if that helps but if you start putting on lipstick, this may not be your type of blog…
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[WOMAN] You glance over at this seemingly decent looking guy. For some reason you find his face warm and inviting. You notice him smiling out of the corner of your eye so you give a soft glaze and he looks back. Your heart flutters a little and you start thinking,
“It’s so hard to find a great guy these days and who knows, he may the one. He really could be it. I wonder what he does. I wonder what his name is. Shit! He looked away. Is there something on my face. Is he with someone? Damn! Why did I leave the house tonight with my hair looking like this. What was I to do? I was in a hurry and it is only a baseball game. ” (Incidentally a woman thinking like this is already feeling curious and wondering. The mystery of him increases her feeling of attraction.)
[some time passes]
“Oh wow. Let me take another look at him. I just can’t help myself. Who is he? Wow, he’s looking back again. Damn! He looked away again. What is with this guy? Doesn’t he see me? Is he looking at someone else? Is there a scoreboard or some beer vendor behind me I’m missing?”
Notice the mirrored thoughts between me and her. I was thinking like a woman. A wussy. Not a man. A man raised by his mother and this wonderfully nice guy, but without any courage around the opposite sex.
How would that event changed if I showed even the slightest bit of courage?
My stare held strongly by her gaze back at me. I stare right back at her while thinking clearly in my head, “She’s hot. I should go meet her.” And then not looking away until she does. That’s instant sexual communication. It says I’m a strong man who acknowledges his masculine urge of attraction towards someone else. Looking slightly curious at her and not just “eyeing” her. Just noticing casually her wonderful beauty.
How could it have ended up if I showed a little more courage….
I wait a little and showing some tact I see her checking me out again. So I do the same. Maybe even give a hint of a smile towards her, until she again looks away. She looks down with her eyes for a brief second. I’m not going to get into all the body language woman will project to show interest but looking slightly down with her eyes right after, is usually a good sign. Imagine if she were to widen her eyes and look ahead. There’s a totally different feeling.
So where does this courage take me?
Do I get up that instant and walk to her. That could be tough at a baseball park. The seats are crammed together. She’s not in an aisle seat. She’s with her friends. Do I interrupt and blast her with a pickup line? Of course not. The subject today is courage. But this courage demands I do something. So I reach down for my phone and hold it up to her while she is looking the second time, or third time and point to it. Then I point the phone towards her, mouthing,
‘You should call me?”
and start a little flirting that way with a smile. She’ll respond by mouthing herself,
“I don’t have your number”.
That interaction can develop in many directions. Maybe she’ll accept and call. When she does get up, instantly start walking over to her. You probably won’t be able to hear her anyways. You can also demand her number. There are many possibilities here. They courage you showed to her by initiating conversation across a crowd and then by getting up will instantly start communicating to her your confidence and fearless attitude. Women find real man who step up and take the lead, very sexual.
I’ve found most nice guys have a ton of excuses. I know them all because I have used them. If you exist now as I once did, and you struggle with talking to a woman or if you are just having difficulty in proving to her your sexuality, don’t try to prove anything at all to anyone man or woman,
Just stand up, be courageous, and you will instantly add another level to your masculinity. If your attempt fails, learn from it, then move on and do something different next time until you get it right.
I have included some great articles you can check out to go along with this post. If you want more I suggest investing in a great program by David Wygant, What’s Your Excuse? It’s in a down-loadable format so you can start right away. No waiting. And you will spend less money than the wasted night I had at that baseball game, that’s for sure.
Here’s to your new found way sexually communicate to women with courage,
Pete
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