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Nice Guy: I’m Tired of Being a Loser With Women

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The nice guy stops hoping he’ll he won’t be a loser with woman anymore.

Another evening goes by, The nice guy trudges his ass home, alone, tired, and frustrated. He watched yet another jerk steal the girl he had HIS eyes on!

He talked to her but nothing came from it. He didn’t get her number number.

He failed to make her feel attraction.

He believes she must only like jerks. His thoughts centered around why she would put up with his shit when he would always be there for her. He could show her what it felt like to be treated like a princess if she would only give him a chance, but she never does.

He goes home alone again feeling like a loser with women. Helpless, and clueless.

He went out again feeling good that this would be his lucky night. Finally he would meet that special women who actually liked nice guys.

He stood tall when he left but lost two inches and hunched over as he walked up the steps alone. Staring at the floor where he hoped a woman would soon walk.

But the steps felt nothing but the weight of his own despair. The steps heard nothing but his two feet and the echo rang through the hallway through the silence. No laughter from a woman. No sweet conversations about what a good time she had. No smacking of the lips in the dark night.

His imagination planned the entire night. He would be rushing to get the keys in the door followed by a magical evening of sex. The beautiful girl locked in his eyes as they begin to kiss….

Those sad events above may not be every nice guy’s typical night out but I know I have been there enough times. I would go out with a false set of confidence tucked between my legs, the condom stuffed in my wallet, and hope. Yes, all the hope I found a way to muster up every long day.

But you know where hope gets you in the world….

NOWHERE!!!!!

Sometimes I hope my bills will disappear bit they never do until I get off my ass and pay them.

Sometimes I hope that hot girl will talk to me but she doesn’t, until I approach her and say something.

And sometimes I wonder and hope the future will turn out better than the past, but it doesn’t until I create the future I want for myself.

As Scot McKay claims in his series Deserve What You Want:

“…END the game of “waiting for someone to come along” and or for the right woman to “fall into your lap”. Learn why this POISONOUS mindset is not only a TIME WASTER but DANGEROUS to your long-term HAPPINESS.”

Waiting for someone to come along and cure your happiness is no different than hoping and again, hope gets you…

NOWHERE!

The cure to your loneliness is NOT going to be found unless you make a decision to go get what you deserve!

I know from years of experience and research women have a definite pattern to what they attracts them.

It’s not a secret kept from every nice guy and it’s not some stamped out copied version of what the experts will teach you. It is what I personally have developed for myself related to my experiences in the lonely world of a nice guy. And it is what I developed for myself after practicing what these experts have taught me.

It’s my own because I made it that way.

I believe that is what you have to do to cure or eliminate this pattern of hope and despair.

When you go through your very first ebook or full out package of creating this new man who gets what he desires, you too must develop your own style which is very unique to you.

Your unique self will allow you stand out above every other stamped out version of men because women want to feel every man in their life is a one of a kind and that he is hers and no other woman can have him.

In my two posts, Being Cool and Four Steps To Being Cool Starting with Confidence I outline this theory:

Confidence –> Self Esteem –> Indifference –> Fearless === Being Cool.

It’s a road map to my success to cure my loneliness. Nope, it did not happen overnight. It’s not a quick fix.

It’s a long term investment and when you learn to enjoy the process of discovering yourself through every step, your life WILL change. Just like every road map the more detailed, the more clearer, the more intertwined each path meets with the others the easier it becomes to get where you’re going or get what you deserve.

As you work on your confidence connect it to your self esteem by understanding what triggers a woman attraction towards you.

As you work on being fearless join that path with indifference by learning how to talk to any woman, anytime, anywhere.

And as you work towards being cool, calm, and unaffected to her subconscious tests that lonely “tired of being a loser nice guy” will be just a distant memory.

I bet one day you’ll even be able to teach what you learned to a future son of yours what women are really all about and how you managed to meet that incredible woman he calls mom.

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3 comments… add one

  • Dave Hare

    Im a real loser with women also. No matter how hard I try to look nice and be nice no woman on this earth would want me. Ive been skinny to fat, Muscular to wealthy. I can have lots of money ect. No woman see’s me attractive enough for them. I hope I die.

    • Dave, women are looking for something more than any of what you mentioned. That’s probably why you haven’t had much luck with them. I won’t lie, sure some of things can matter to some women, but I feel the majority are looking for a feeling. Whether the trust their intuition or not to go with those feelings is of course mainly left to your lead and a little more based on where she is.

      The feeling of attraction women normally feel has little to do with the items you mentioned above. Besides, before you lose all hope…

      Stop trying to look nice for women and start looking “good,” because how comfortable and confident you feel with what you are wearing.

      Stop trying to be so nice to women. If you’re a genuinely good person and people respect you, never feel like you have to prove your niceness to anyone, especially women you find attractive. It’s not necessary. Women are not the “decision maker” of how nice you are or not.

      Take care of your body the best you can because, again, how good it feels to be in shape and have lots of energy to enjoy life to the fullest. Women are not the goal in weight control.

      If you want lots of money, go for it. But if you don’t and are only doing it hoping money will clear your “loser” status with women, it will only have the opposite effect. As you have already experienced. Women are not your financial advisers. (Unless you’re married, having kids with her, or are in some kind of legal agreement.)

      In others words start making women an amazing side effect in your life and not the ultimate goal to your existence. That’s what rally works. And when you want to step through the process of attraction, dating, and relationships more often focus on what I’ve mentioned above as a new optimistic perspective.

      Then you can start adding on the rest of the personality traits women are highly attracted to. Like confidence, great humor, vocal inflections, passion, desire, drive, charisma, etc…

      What do you say Dave. You up for this new challenge?

    • Bill

      Dave, when I was 30 I gave up on ever having a wife or even a girlfriend. I had a secure, well paying job and my own townhouse in a clean, safe area. I couldn’t buy a date for a million bucks while ex-cons and guys who could not hold any job had all the women they wanted. After I totally gave up , women got interested in me and I started getting dates. . I did not display confidence but rather total indifference and it wasn’t an act. If a woman expressed an interest I would ask her out. I didn’t care if she said yes or no. When I honestly cared about women they couldn’t run away fast enough. I am married now and that’s all behind me. Another thing..I used to agonize over asking women out, fearing rejection After age 30, I didn’t care what she said. I realized that if she rejected me, she wasn’t turning me down to go out with a brain surgeon..rather she was turning me down to go out with a dirtbag. Take a close look at who these women go out with (losers by any standard) and you won’t put them on a pedestal anymore. I am not saying that immediately after you give up women will be pounding on your door. But the immediate effect is that you will feel more relaxed. You don’t have to display “confidence” because you are not chasing women anymore. You don’t have to worry about what any particular women thinks of you because you know she’s fixated on some other guy. You will feel at peace because you have given up a pointless struggle where you can never win. Even if you want to get back into the game at a later date, a break is an excellent idea. By the way, I know of 2 girls who rejected me..today they are divorced and alone and still working while I am happily and comfortably retired while my wife and I are enjoying life. These girls who reject decent guys with good jobs to date scumbags…I have NEVER seen one of them do well. Hope this helps

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