It’s a Nice Guy New Year!

For those that have found yourself reading my pages consistently you may have noticed that I have been on a break for the last week and a half. Honestly, part has been due to a small writers block. I have also wanted to spend time with my family and friends during the holidays. Some strange busy scheduling at my other job, and in the middle of that I just got out of a relationship with a wonderful woman. So my mind has been a little full lately and I hate producing any writings which does not give you my full attention.

So this page is mainly for me and you’re not allowed to read it.

Seriously though I’m not going to bore you with the typical New Year pep talk. I’m not going to sit here and write what all our goals should be for the next year. I’m also not going to tell you finally make the decision in your life to banish the friend’s zone from your life. However what I do want to share with you is the Nice Guy New Year concept I have rattling around in my brain and it goes like this.

First of all let me remind you of who I am. I’m the guy that spent year after year of my life stuck being only friends with women I was attracted to. And these were the biggest reasons why.

• I was a wussy.

• I put attractive women on a pedestal.

• I never made the first move.

• I wanted to become friends first.

• I didn’t have an exciting lifestyle.

• I had mid social status. In other words I lived in the safe zone.

• I Didn’t find myself attractive.

• I  felt I was too short.

• I Kept trying the same things over and over even though they didn’t work.

• I Kissed their ass way too much.

• I did them favors hoping they would like me.

• I did them favors hoping they would see above their current boyfriends.

• I Gave up my life for them.

• I didn’t ask for a date or a number quickly enough. The moment would pass. I was way too accommodating.

• I refused to flirt for fear of being seen as a player.

• I took rejection personally.

• I focused on my weaknesses too much.

• I was unsure of my sexual abilities so I was scared I wouldn’t perform.

• I didn’t understand relationships.

• I never liked friction with a woman.

• I couldn’t live in the moment.

• I lived inside my head.

• I always used the excuse that women just didn’t see me that way.

• I used friendship as an excuse.

• The longer my dry spell lasted, the more badly I felt.

• I thrived on the feeling of being lonely.

• I reveled in sad songs about relationships and connected with each and every one of them.

• I thought romance was a way to get a woman to like me.

• I didn’t feel like a sexual man.

• I felt I was better than a jerk because I was exceptionally good to women.

• I cared so much of what they thought of me that I often would give up pieces of me for approval.

• I worshiped them.

• I never forced myself to meet new people.

• I didn’t enjoy meeting new people and talking to them.

• I surrounded myself and buried myself into projects,  hobbies,  future money making possibilities.

• I was nice to women on the outside, and deeply angry with them inside.

• I was an angry person.

• I was mad at the world.

• I never really understood why certain men could just meet a girl and then end up being with her.

WOW!

What a list!

Can you relate to any or all of that list? If you can that I want to challenge you to write your own list down for yourself. It’s time to figure out how to change yourself into a man who doesn’t use all those excuse. A man who doesn’t allow those reasons to stop you from finding a great relationship. A man who is not afraid to walk up to any woman, at any time, and start a great conversation that you lead somewhere.

Okay so it is partly a pep talk. I lied.  But I don’t want you to feel overwhelmed like I did. I constantly put off changing my ways because, in part, was overwhelming to me. All it takes is small steps in the right direction to get your ass moving. And believe me, once you start seeing results you won’t turn back. Sure you will have setbacks. Sure you’re probably going to make mistakes. Sure you’re going to have days in which you just want to hide away and never leave your house. But it’s okay. Pick your self back up and keep going. Again…

Once you start seeing those first results your mindset will begin to change. It’s unavoidable.

Pick something from your list and objectify it. Work through it and move on. Go to the next one. My first item I chose was I didn’t feel attractive. I didn’t feel sexy so I went out and changed it. Once I did that and started noticing results my confidence went up. From there I was able to determine that if just that little boost in confidence could work that well, what would happen if I really went to work on my confidence. Check out the program below. For $17 it’s definitely worth it. You will support my pages and help yourself. We both win.

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