7. Never Feel Sorry for Yourself Because You Were Rejected.
How many times have you heard this?
“Don’t worry It will be okay. So you got turned down. There’s more fish in the sea.”
Blah! Blah Blah!
Here’s some real advice about rejection.
“Are you feeling rejected, when in reality you’ve been intimidating “average” women with your above average expectations? Have you ever stopped to think that were you to actually get those “average” women to go out with you, NEITHER of you would be happy?
But I’m Average,How Can I Possibly Deserve The Partner Of My Dreams?
Go ahead and feel like shit.
Rejection is not fun.
When you put yourself out there, it hurts. I know it does.
But you must always remember this about being rejected.
There’s a difference between feeling hurt, and feeling sorry for yourself.
A huge difference.
I’m not going to sit here and tell you there will be plenty of others. I’m not going to fill your head with a pile of overused phrases to make you feel better.
Because I can not make you feel anything.
I can tell you this though…
If you learn from your rejections or learn to objectify the experience, the lesson learned will last you forever.
“You can’t be a whole man until you learn how to live and be happy without a woman in your life. Period. How to Get Over an Ex Girlfriend – Recovering From a Break-up.
The feelings of inadequacy or failure, will go away.
However if you only learn to feel more sorry for yourself, blame others, or to sulk like a boy for extended periods of time, those feelings of failure, won’t just disappear, they will gor into an unattractive bitterness.
Here are a few quick facts about rejection:
- The deeper and longer the rejection lasts means you invested way too much into her.
- There is a good side to rejection. It implies you did something and not just sat on your ass. You showed some courage.
- Rejection is not always about you personally. Sure sometimes it means you need to work on “something” but don’t take it personally.
- Rejection, when viewed properly, can actually boost your confidence and strengthen your inner game.
So when that woman you felt attracted to decides you’re not the one for her, tell yourself it’s okay to feel a little hurt but it’s NOT okay to feel sorry for yourself, ever!
If you hate it as much as I do when others try to pity you?
Then why would you do it to yourself.
“There is no more security in having a girlfriend than there is in being a single, dynamic man with the ability to create the dating life HE wants. Being Single is Just as Good! Do You Need a Girlfriend To Be Happy?
Rejection happens and yes it does suck, but feeling sorry for yourself will NOT make those feelings go away.
Taking it personal will only prolong the agony and give them all the power you’re supposed have for yourself.
I’m not talking about “power” in a negative dominating role it’s often seen as – I’m taking about your personal confident power which is only yours – and only YOU can give that away…
If you let feeling sorry for yourself, or pity rule your next move.