Body Language IS Communication
“A Nice Guy must Understand How to Communicate Confidently With His Body Language and then How He Can Use that Same Communication to Create Attraction.“
I was out looking for apartments one day with an extremely hot girl, who happened to be a close friend. (haha! I ruled the friend’s zone). The real man in me was trapped inside a outwardly confidently but weak, timid, and fidgety body.My body language was that of a nice guy who just didn’t understand women. No matter what I tried, it wouldn’t work because women would see right past the exterior front that my personality offered.
Back to my hot friend…
We were being shown an apartment by a landlord. He led us room by room explaining a little and at the end of the tour, walked away to allow us a discussion in private. She liked it but I could tell she was worried the landlord would not allow us to rent from him. So instead of discussing how the apartment could serve us, she decided to mention how my legs were going to get us denied.
I looked at her in disbelief. I had no idea what she was talking about. She explained to me that my legs kept moving around while we were in front of him. She was concerned that if I appeared nervous he would assume we would not be reliable tenants.
I was definitely a little pissed at her but mainly for my ignorance of my body language. I thought “but I am a musician!” I tapped on everything. My legs always danced. I also thought women liked musicians and found them attractive. I figured any woman would soon find out who I was and then she would understand why I banged on everything like it was a drum.
But I was also a little high strung and mumbled. Whenever I was speaking to a beautiful woman, my words did anything but flow out of my mouth, they stumbled out nervously.
I had no clue that so many women were ruling me out as a potential date on my body language.
(Not Being Sexy – How Your Body Language Can Put You In Her Friend Zone is a recent post I wrote for you guys stuck in the friends zone. There are three tips with video links to a few famous musicians. These were men who I felt exhibit strong sexual body language that you can learn from as examples.)
I had no clue attraction could have something to do with my body. I thought it was about looks.
Good looking men walk proudly because they got laid.
Average looking jerks walked confidently because they too, got more women than even my dreams would allow me to experience.
Luckily, and because of years of work, I understand how my body language communicates “to” women and how it increases or decreases an attraction she might feel.
I want to share with you as much advice or tips I can find.
Keep reading and let’s get started because as the title suggests.
Body Language Is Communication.
Below I intend to show you:
- How your mind affects your body and how others feel this energy.
- What program is best at teaching your body to move naturally to attract more women.
- How your body, your inner game, your outer game are connected and focusing on just one will hinder success in creating strong body language.
- What product is the best at teaching you inner game and a link to the videos that explain it all.
- 16 links to posts I have personally picked so you can further your education on your body language, her body language, including scientific knowledge and quick tips to strengthen your body language with regards to attracting more women.
If you want to sexual communicate with women you must understand your mind and body are connected.
If you’re a nice guy struggling with women let me know if you can relate to the problems and reuslt listed below:
- The longer you don’t have sex. The more you want it.
- The more you want it, the more you begin to need it.
- The more you need it, the faster your body language changes to match how you are feeling about not getting it.
- If you’re not enjoying a healthy sex life your body communicates to women you may struggle in this area, or you’re not very good with women.
- If you are impatient or desperate, your body will soon follow and you will end up with your body communicating to women that you are a needy man.
This is a typical nice guy dilemma which affects your body language sometimes without you even knowing it. Let’s all admit the man who is walking around and has an amazing sex life, or is in a wonderful relationship with a girl, is obviously more likely to be walking around like he literally owns the world. He is displaying strong sexual body language.
The man who can not find a girlfriend, or has not enjoyed sex for too long is more likely to be walking around and looking unsure of his own masculinity.
This is exactly how I walked around. I could fake it a little but my body continually communicated my lack of experience and my lack of confidence with women. Again my mind affected my body and sure I could talk my body into moving confidently, but in the end the subconscious signals my body displayed affected women negatively.
This is why it is extremely important, in order to rid yourself of a negative body language, and to insure women do see you as a sexual man, you work on the mental skills of your inner game, which naturally strengthens your body language.
Your inner game, your masculinity, or having the beliefs and strength of an Alpha Male will slowly begin to change your body and the language it displays.
Watch the video below as Rob clearly demonstrates…
How Your Mind Communicates Through Your Body
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Homestudy Course - The Code Of The Natural -Turn Her On
Since your mind and body are connected and I’ve already shown you how your mind affects your body, it’s also equally important to strengthen your body.
When your body moves naturally…
When your body moves easily in all directions…
When your body language clearly demonstrates a strong alpha mind…
You will without a doubt communicate your strong sexual presence to women making it easier to build on the initial attraction she feels for you.
Rob’s The Code Of The Natural is the most effective program to develop your body, through simple exercises, to move naturally and display your new confident self. And Rob’s Turn Her On takes you to the next level so your body communicates strong masculinity which naturally attracts women.
There’s not one person you find on my pages who will not agree that these things can not be separated. I don’t want you to believe you can attract any women you want without -
- A strong confident inner game – affecting your body language positively and how others feel your strength and are more compelled to follow your lead. No one explains what inner game is and your confidence better than Carlos Xuma – This is a Free Video Presentation and if you want to know the real truth about inner game, and to reinforce my own beliefs how this is all connected – Watch it Please. Bulletproof Confidence and Emotional Control with Women. (If you wish to show support of my pages watch this Inner Game Master Class and sign up for the compete series.)
- A free and easy movement of your body with a strong sexual presence including vocal inflections and the ability to project your positive energy – affecting others to follow your energy and feel more positive, free, and in the case of women more natural attraction towards you. Based on Rob’s work which I bought long ago The Code Of The Natural.
- A capable outer game which includes your ability to display your attractive personality in many social settings – affecting other to want to listen to what you have to say, and feel connected enough to you to want to share with your their most intimate desires.
This is not some crazy thought or theory I came up with. This is factual information based on my own real experience of being a nice guy displaying no sexual energy to a man who displays confident body language communicating my strong presence in the social world I choose to live in. (While still being considered a nice guy.)
I learned this:
Changing your beliefs or how you think affects your body. Change the way you think and soon your body will follow.
Focus on your idiosyncrasies and attempt to remove them and your thinking will be clearer.
And when you think more clearly your body language will be more effective at getting your point across to women.
Body Language Resources and Quick Tips:
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“She wants a man who can take charge and confidently LEAD her to the place she wants to go.
This means that if you’re too hung up on reading body language and watching for signals, you’ll miss the real opportunity – which is to LEAD her with your own body language.”- Carlos Xuma
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“When you concentrate on and really listen to what someone is saying, your body language is going to reflect that interest to them.
The other person will know you are interested and intrigued by them.
When a woman sees you doing this, she will naturally start to loosen up her own body language. She will do this because she knows you’re listening to her and connecting with her.
Women are all about connecting with a man. A woman will also start to relax because you are relaxed.”
- David Wygant
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Adopt the Body of an Alpha Male
To differentiate between the body language of a beta male, here are some common displays of an alpha. The foundation for the following is a cool and collected state-of-mind:
*You display direct eye contact.
*You never look around the room.
*You own your space by leaning back and looking comfortable.
*You breathe by using your stomach, not your chest.Try these behaviors the next time you’re in public, and see how people respond. The results should amaze you.” – Steve Scott
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Body language – this is a massive topic and great body language can almost pick up a girl all by itself.
Fundamentals for the first few minutes include eye contact, shoulders back and relaxed, hands calm and
not in your pockets, standing up straight (don’t fidget), head straight (not tilted). Stand like you would if you owned the world. The techniques for having the right body language are explained in depth in the
Beyond Words – Body Language Home Study Course. (An expensive all inclusive course on body language)
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I didn’t see a broken man’s walk. I didn’t see the body language of a man who had just blown a million dollar tournament.
I saw a natural. I saw confidence despite failure. I saw the look of a man who was thinking,
“Yeah I blew it, but it was worth it and I will do it again because I am having fun.”
His walk made me think about The Code Of The Natural by Rob Brinded. As I watched Phil’s hips and totally relaxed body glide along I did not see the body language of a man who just banged out 72 holes only to blow it down the stretch. I did not see a tired man scraping his feet on the grass. I did not see a loser.
What I saw was pure attraction and the movements of a confident man. – Peter White
6.
She’s going to notice your eyes, face and smile consciously; but her subconscious mind is checking out your groin area, your hips, your butt, your walk, your posture, your movement, and (as Rob’s put it) your package! – Peter White
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Women on the other hand speak with their bodies.
Women are testers, analyzers and observers, which can be misunderstood, by men, as manipulating
or just plain crazy.This type of communication can be very confusing for men.
I am going to break it down for you so that the next time you encounter “female communication”
you can understand every word her body is saying. – Winggirl Secrets
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Body Language Is A Form Of Communication
Whether you realize it or not, your body sends unmistakable signals to people around you.
You DO communicate VOLUMES of information about yourself with your posture, face expression
and position of your arms and legs. You do it ALL THE TIME.In other words, before you even open your mouth, the people around you have already made a
certain opinion about you – and as you know, first impressions last. – Elena Solomon
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BREAKTHROUGH DISCOVERY: How To Understand Women’s Body Language And Show Confident Body Language…
This is a limited free offer from Carlos Xuma but I believe you will learn about your body language and hers by watching the presentation alone.
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Cheesy pick-up lines are out, and aggressive flirting body language is in. The fact is, your body language is more powerful than anything you might say to a woman. Here are some reasons why this seduction tool is so powerful.
First, you can flirt with a woman from across the room just by showing her you’re interested. Second, a woman will feel more comfortable talking to a guy who’s already showing signs of being interested (women hate rejection, too!).
So what flirting body language signals can you send out to women so they can tell at once that you’re a single guy who’s out to interact and have fun? Here are three examples. -Steve Scott
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This post will teach you the basics of your body language with a few easy to follow tips.
It will also support my ideas that your body language flows from the mind to the body and back again. If you’re looking to notice how ‘naturals‘ body moves and to learn from them, this post will give you the basics of how the alpha male’s body languages works and why it creates attraction.
-Written by John Alexander
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Right on! You have to read this. It’s similar to Elena’s article above but it will take you one step further. I wanted to also make note of my review on Scott’s article and paraphrase:
“Slow down your movements…even BLINKING and looking around. Relax your breathing.”
That proves the point I was making about blinking. I learned from it that being much too open with your body can be similar to having an overly cocky or confident attitude. It is usually seen as a compensation for something you feel you insecure about.
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Keyword driven article low in content but high in search words.
I’m including my review because I don’t agree with the advice given. Sure it is mildly informative but the four points listed are not on target with what I believe.
Here is my advice that we don’t agree on:
Don’t blink often and when you do, blink slowly. Blinking distracts people. I learned in acting class when you are acting, blink less. Watch any television show or news anchor and you will begin to notice how little they actually do blink.
- MY TIP: Watch any movie where the man playing the role is considered to be a hot guy and copy his effective facial mannerisms.
Romantic Body Language Which Attracts Women by Scott Patterson
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Not a very good article at all. In fact I was quite disappointed when I read it. I’ve included to keep the source intact but I included what you will learn from it. So if you decide to look at it keep in mind you will only walk away with this advice:
- What you don’t know about body language can hurt you.
- You should learn to use your body and voice to project attraction.
- Hold your gaze with a woman until she looks away.
The Body Language of Sexual Attraction in Women
by Scott Patterson
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Body language, and the reading of non-verbal communications and feelings, are in our genes. Were these factors not in our genes, we would not be here today.
Women tend to have better perception and interpretation of body language than men. This is perhaps a feature of evolutionary survival, since females needed good body language skills to reduce their physical vulnerability to males and the consequential threat to life, limb and offspring. Females might not be so physically vulnerable in modern times, but their body language capabilities generally continue typically to be stronger than the male of the species. Thus, women tend to be able to employ body language (for sending and interpreting signals) more effectively than men.
If you want to learn any and all details about body language this is the page to bookmark and study.
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First, to change your body language you must be aware of your body language.
Notice how you sit, how you stand, how you use you hands and legs, what you do while talking to someone.
18 Ways to Improve Your Body Language
Another incredibly informative article if you’re looking to improve your body language. Read it.
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