Nice Guys escape the Friend's Zone.
How Do Women Test Men?
It is a well known fact that women can, will, and and do test men at every level of dating and relationships. Below are some common questions and some typical nice guy answers.
What do you do for a living?
“I’m a graphic designer.”
What’s your name?
“Larry. What’s yours?”
How old are you?
“25. How old are you?”
Are you always this upfront?
“I’m just curious.”
Do you have a girlfriend?
“No. We broke up a month ago.”
Granted they are simple questions but how you respond to them are very important and answering in the typical nice guy way will land you in the friend’s zone quickly. The more attractive the woman, the quicker you fail. Let’s try this again but answered by the nice guy that understands women and testing.
What do you do for a living?
“I run an online dating service for little people.”
What’s your name?
“My birth certificate says Max Power, but I prefer sexy.”
How old are you?
“65. I know… I look great for my age.”
Are you always this upfront?
“Wow, hitting on me so soon.”
Do you have a girlfriend?
“Yeah, but don’t tell my wife she might get upset.”
Notice how the dynamics of the conversation change when you successfully respond to her tests. One important point to realize though is you are not lying to her, because that is wrong. What you want to do is to create fun, flirty, conversations that create mystery, humor, and confidence. All three are very attractive traits. They allow the interaction to build into a flirty conversation and by answering the right way, you can lead a woman where you want, and not where she wants. The longer you can keep it up, while still making her laugh, the more likely she will find herself into you.
Keep turning it up even if she gets upset because when she gets angry at your obviously absurd answers, she is taking her testing to a new level. If you break down and and try to negate her anger by consoling her, you will fail her test. There is nothing wrong with upsetting a woman slightly and often she will fake her anger to see how you respond. But she wants to know how strong you are and by bending to her you prove instantly that you are not the strong man she is looking for.
I can not emphasize enough that there must be humor or else you will just become the asshole or jerk you don’t want to be. The purpose of the site is to keep your nice guy qualities and use them to your advantage. It is not to make you into a demeaning person or to have you belittling women. That is not acceptable for me and I wouldn’t recommend it for you. But you must also keep in mind that if a woman is getting a little upset because you are not answering simple questions like the ones above, she has no real reason to be upset at you.
Women will test you at every level of your relationship from the initial meeting to casual dating. Your first defense is to learn to recognize the tests. Your second defense is to learn how to respond to them in a strong attractive way, and your third defense is to learn to beat her at her own tests and turn them onto her. In other words, you become offensive and make her live up to your testing.
Her next form of testing, when you pass the first, will often be more emotional or physical. This is how the typical nice guy, doomed to be in the friend’s zone responds:
Pouting.
Giving in to her demands.
Walking away and turning her head to see if you are checking her out.
Turning away quickly so she doesn’t catch you.
Leaning in for a kiss too early.
Diving into her lips.
Fake anger.
Apologizing for making her angry.
Hitting on your friend when you are on a date.
Getting angry at her.
Now this is how the nice guy should respond that is building attraction.
Pouting.
Saying with a smirk, “So…do all your guy friends actually fall for that?”
Walking away and turning her head to see if you are checking her out.
Keeping your eyes on hers and raising an eyebrow with a, “shame shame” look on your face.
Leaning in for a kiss way too early.
Saying, “Wow. Are you always this upfront”, then gently pushing her away.
Fake anger.
Stating, “Would you like to borrow my friend’s anger management tapes. They come in three different languages, whiny, pouty, and grumpy.”
Hitting on your friend when you are on a date.
Asking, “You two would make a great couple. Would you like to borrow her?”
The level of her tests will be consistent with how well versed she is with men. Sometimes that will have to do with how attractive she is, and sometimes it will have to do with how strong of a woman she is. There are highly attractive strong women, and there are beautiful women that do not have strong personalities. There are women who may be average looking but extremely good at testing. And there are average women that do not have strong personalities therefore have not perfected the art of testing. Recognizing the type of woman you are dealing with is very important to understanding her reactions. It is important to note this,
If you are interacting with an average looking woman with a great sense of humor, but low self esteem, you must not turn it up too high. The only thing you will accomplish is hurting her. However, highly attractive women with strong personalities and an extreme sense of humor, you must never let go of the slack. Except perhaps in the moment she is screaming you name during sex. Be a real man at that point. Be sensual. Be sexual. Tease her but wait until after a normal period of after-play before you continue to testing her.
Related article by Peter White
- 20 Nice Guy Laws for Staying Out of The Friend’s Zone (dialteg.com)
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