Nice Guy Law #4: Disqualifying Yourself to Women

4. Don’t ever tell a woman why you THINK she will turn you down.

The nice guy does this without even knowing it. Whether he wants to or not. Through his actions and his body language he conveys the message that he’s not good enough for her. Fuck that. If you work on who you are diligently, and respectably, you DO deserve any woman who is single. The complete  transformation of a person is a rare event and accomplishing this does mean you deserve what you seek.

Read my new Nice Guy Tip #4

[widget class = DfrAds_Widget group_id =6600295]

I use to do it myself all the time. I never walked up to a woman and said,

“Hey you know. You’re stunning. Too bad you won’t like me. I’m not as good as the guys you normally date.”

But that is exactly how I acted.

I should change the law to, Don’t ever act like a woman is going to turn you down.

When women are testing a man and attempting to disqualify him, she is often looking for clues that are not obvious. If you subconsciously give her every reason to disqualify you, the second chance of attraction does not seem very often.

You can still be nice to her and she can reciprocate those feeling by having a great conversation, but that is a one way street down to the friend’s zone. There won’t be any u-turns and in a split second, her mind focuses on being just friends. The attraction window closes quickly.

I don’t want to scare guys into thinking one fuck up is going to screw up everything. There is some damage control you can do but in the first few minutes of meeting a woman if you pile up too many of these disqualifications, it just makes it that much harder to repair.

Some ways that I’ve personally see men, and I’ve done myself,  tell a woman she won’t like him, or fail her tests are:

• Lack of good eye contact or looking down often when you talk to her.

• Staring at her mouth when she talks. I know this one is strange but I’ve done some experiments myself with this one and it seems to creep women out. Almost like you’re sizing her up for a kiss. she feels your need to please her.

• Asking too many random questions with no purpose to them. Talking to women is not like talking to men. You can’t just randomly go from one subject to the next. Especially in the first few minutes. Leading the conversation smoothly and finding out what she is really all about is so much more effective.

• Over complimenting with your words or your eyes. Yes your eyes can over compliment. Think about how it makes her feel when you check out each and every body part of hers. Again sizing up a woman is a needy move. Women sense it even when your are very subtle.

If you’re wondering how it feels to a woman, imagine the last time a you got the feeling someone was standing behind you and you turned to look, and there was someone there. It is that creepy feeling that caused you to turn around  and women feel this when you size her up.

• Invading her space at the cost of another. I absolutely hate when this happens to me. I will talking to a girl and there will be a guy, who’s highly attracted to her, so he jams himself in between me and her. Not so casually attempting to push me away. The girl I’m with then looks over his shoulder and gives me that “oh boy” look. And for some reason he never notices. It’s very important to understand when walking up to a group of two or more people you must acknowledge all.

If you are not sure which signs you are giving off that women are disqualifying you quickly I know it can difficult to correct them.

But learning the skills of avoidance – passing her tests and avoiding too many mistakes is a must for any man who desires being seen as more attractive.

This is the best article I’ve read so far on the mistakes men make with women, “The Ten Most Dangerous Mistakes YOU Probably Make With Women—  And What To Do About It…”.

It can become a great “checklist” to see if you’re disqualifying yourself.

I’m also going to recommend that you look at, What’s Your Excuse?  How You Secretly Sabotage Your Success With Women!($37), if you feel you are quickly disqualifying yourself. I am a unique blend of every dating or attraction coach here at Dialteg™. Without them it would have taken much too long to figure out all my excuses. Let David help you out and save yourself some time and frustration.

Go ahead and let me know the ways you think you are disqualifying yourself by commenting below. If we all contribute to this page we can learn that typically many of us have similar excuses.

Related articles by Zemanta

• Nice Guys Guide on How to Attract Women (dialteg.com)
• Intrigue Her The Minute You Walk In A Room (davidwygant.com)

Tagged as: Attraction, body language, conversation, know, like, nice, Woman, Women