Nice Guys Need Strong Assertive Advice on Attraction

I recently read a blog written by Nico Simon Princely as a response to a nice guy asking why women are not attracted to him.

A Nice Guy Asks “Why aren’t women attracted to me?”

His no bullshit upfront advice is refreshing and I can relate to so much of it. Nico writes,

“…you are a typical nice guy. How do I know? Because I used to be one and was never more miserable in my life.”

It never ceases to amaze me how all the great advice given to guys are written by men who actually have been there. Stuck in the friend’s zone because they just did not understand how to attract women. Yet every one of them has taken the time to search within themselves and learn how to be that attractive man they always wanted to be. I gave myself that proverbial smack in the face long ago and it was well worth it.

Nico then says,

“The fact that you have no understanding of what women respond to. You are listening to what they say they want or advice from other women like your mother or sister or female friends. NEVER listen to advice from women about what women want in a man. Why? Because what women are sexually attracted to is unconscious to them so they will tell you what they consciously want and not what they are unconsciously attracted to. Which is NOT what they respond to.”

Exactly. I was raised by a single mother who was a great woman but the overdone advice of just be yourself, put yourself out there, and don’t worry you’ll meet that special person soon, was totally useless. In fact my father had three families and at one point my step mom was just a few years older than me. And he was this shorter than me and funny looking. I’m sure he didn’t understand what it was that women saw in him but that didn’t matter. He had something I could not explain. I couldn’t even explain how I  got my first girlfriend. I was actually trying to go out with her best friend and for some reason the other one grew more and more attracted to me. So a little bit of luck and not caring worked in my favor without me even knowing it. The worst part about that was when we broke up, eight months later, I was no better off.  I found myself once again stuck in that friends zone hell.

It was not better off until I took the time to learn exactly what my limited beliefs were. I changed my thinking process and with the help of those people I mentioned earlier, re-framed my self into a man that knows how to attract women. I also learned to always look inside myself for the answers and seek others for knowledge. My blame put rightly so on me and not the world around me.

Nico also states this profound statemement,

“Change your beliefs about women, yourself and your ability to attract women and get sexual with them and then act accordingly.”

Not quite the strong assertive advice he gives at the beginning of his blog but very profound, simple and to the point. I mentioning this quite because in my day to day life I  am often asked question and feel obliged to answer general questions from men that are in a place in their I once was. Some current advice I gave was this,

“My advice for Todd would be to use it to your advantage. First develop yourself into a complete man and let women feel that in you. It’s exciting for most women to meet a younger man that his his life together. This is one reason why I find it easy to date younger women. Men at her age can be very immature and she wants a strong masculine presence in her life. Secondly, turn the tables around towards her. My girlfriend say things to me like SHE is robbing the cradle when the opposite is true. I say things like, “When I get older you’re going to love me more.” and we role play with it. It’s fun and flirty. Just please remember to never use someone else as comparison to build yourself.
When I get approached by an older woman asking my age I sometimes reply with something like, “I’m 17. I’m so glad my mother increased my curfew otherwise I wouldn’t have met you.”, but then again I’m a bust balls kind of person. When it comes down to having a great conversation with someone I am attracted to, our age difference is boring and overdone. So it’s not too difficult to not even mention it. If you are discussing things that excite you both, such as your common interests, the subject will come up on it’s own and usually by then it’s too late. She will already be so attracted to you, your age won’t matter much at all. Just make the connection with her first.”   –This is a comment trail followed from the original blog titled Profile Liars, written David Wygant.

Let’s looks at his response and see if my advice was taken for what exactly what I intended it to be.

“Peter I think you are right when you say that age difference is boring and overdone… when I meet an older women today and she didn’t know my age but I could tell she was interested in me however I couldn’t bring my self to ask her out on a date because I kept thinking what will she think if she finds out my age… you are right peter because they just forgot about my age and didn’t care how old I was but that they had a good time with me. But how do I bring my self to ask a women out who is older than me. Should I just ask her on a date and when the time comes to talk about my self tell her my age?”

I am most positive that the advice given, although taken kindly, was missed. It went like this.

First develop yourself into a complete man and let women feel that in you.

The wording  is not so eloquent as Nico’s but I feel it was quite clear. Yet he failed to see it and focused more on his outer game of when should I ask her on a date and when to tell her about his age. He even manages to make the point himself when he mentions how they forgot about his age and just had a good time with me. More proof that developing yourself and putting the focus on what is inside you and not what other people are thinking are the major keys to understanding women, getting your dating life under control, and becoming a nice guy that finishes first with women. I am going to suggest that Todd read my page on limited beliefs and go through that exercise fully. It only takes a small amount of time and compared to the amount of time spent worrying, it’s minimal. I remember myself wading around in my own misery instead of learning from all my experiences. I discovered exactly what my strengths and weaknesses were, and decided to not lett my mind get stuck in the whys or the what ifs. It wasn’t until then did I begin to experience my own masculine sexuality. It wasn’t until then did I finally found my way into women’s mind, and her body.

Again thank you Nico for,

“Change your beliefs about women, yourself and your ability to attract women and get sexual with them and then act accordingly.”

You can check out the blog he wrote here, A Nice Guy Asks “Why aren’t women attracted to me?” You can visit his pages here or purchase his unique products Greatlovers.com here. He also has another page Pickup Women Online so you can check out what he is all about. If you like his no bullshit attitude and down to earth matter of speaking you will find no less from his programs.

Related articles by Peter White

• Do you always end up in the friend’s zone? (dialteg.com)
• Nine Questions A Nice Guy Should Ask Himself about the Friend’s Zone (dialteg.com)
• Do Women Hide it When They are Attracted to You? (dialteg.com)

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