When the nice guy learns how to read sexual communication, and know hows to respond to it sexually,  without fear of rejection, the friend’s zone will be his choice not hers.

Rule #3

Don’t be afraid to make the first move when the situation arrives.

My first girlfriend wasn’t a major disaster but I do remember it clearly for one

I wasn’t aware of how deeply that would affect my life for many years. I can still see her in my head telling a close friend the reason and looking at me with those hateful eyes.

I felt so rejected and wondered for years why she would want to hurt me that way. After all, I was her boyfriend. Why would she want to embarrass me or demean in front of the class? It put a huge load on my mind. I was too young to understand sexual communication and too scared to make a move because of it.

I see the reasons now that I’m much wiser, and a very good kisser, that it was me, internalizing an external event.

When a woman rejected me or made to feel like shit, I would bury it to my unconscious mind while consciously reinforcing the negative feelings associated with it.

I believed everything a woman told me about myself and allowed it to dictate any future interaction.

From that point on I acted in ways that  insured I  would not have to make the first move. I would wait until she did. That way I could avoid the experience of rejection entirely.

Incidentally I realize now why she acted the way she did and why it never occurred to me back then, pisses me off. I made her feel ugly. I made her feel like she was not wanted. She acted out of anger for me hurting her ego. Simple as that.

Waiting around for a woman to make the first move caused me to miss many opportunities.

The nice guy that always ends up “just friends” because he is afraid to make a move on a woman, must take a serious look at where his fears are coming from and then objectify them. He must learn to overcome them. He must also and understand that when sexual communication is built up between a man and a woman, it is time to make a move. Rejection is not the end of the world. If you put your lips close to a woman and she doesn’t respond, it is okay. Perhaps you missed the signs. Maybe she is not ready at that particular time, or you didn’t build enough sexual anticipation. If that is the case then it is completely within you to learn to build sexual attraction.

Here is a small list to look for when you are wondering if her body language is telling you that she is interested. Keep in mind though that reading body language can be very difficult without proper training or effective practice.

  • She makes eye contact more than once and looks away when you hold your gaze with her.
  • She will casually show you parts of her body that are  sensual. Exposing her wrists. Pushing her hair to the side which shows off her neck. Tilting her hips accentuates her body. Glancing at you sideways also exposes her neck to you. Twisting her legs and point them at you.
  • She finds a way to touch you lightly. It could be a gentle smack on the arm while laughing at your joke or leaning in to whisper in your ear something that doesn’t even need to be said lightly.
  • Fondling an object in a sensual way. It could be a lighter, a glass, an earring, her wrist, her fingers, or better yet, your fingers. It could even be her hair.

Those are some of the signs that a woman is interested in you and at this point she will expect you to begin flirting with her or to approach her. So you must keep the process moving along. Don’t revert to any nice guy talk! Begin to build sexual tension through your personality and your body language. This is where being a great tease is an invaluable skill and women will adore you for learning it.

Carlos Xuma put the reactions a woman experiences while being teased in an amazing way,

“Have you ever watched a woman when she gets flustered and teased? Have you seen how she behaves? I’ll be honest, it’s almost embarrassingly primitive and childish.

First, the women gets excited. It even looks amazingly like anger, but it’s not. It’s a delicious cocktail of thrilling and emotional energy.

Then, the woman gets TURNED ON.

She doesn’t even realize it, but it’s there. You see, women have an entirely different reaction and outlet for their frustration, and it’s not like our male aggressive behavior. It’s a form of FEMALE aggression, called sexual excitement. She can’t get rid of the energy any other way.”


If you do not follow rule #3  you are guaranteeing failure with attracting women and finding an incredible girlfriend. Confident men don’t wait around for something to happen. They make it happen. You can learn to sexually communicate and women will be glad you did. I know you want to turn on a woman. There’s not many men out there that don’t derive pleasure from making a woman literally squirm in her pants with excitement. Just,

Don’t be afraid to make the first move when the situation arrives.

As you increase your ability to communicate sexually you will notice  more moments will naturally lead to you make  first move. It’s our human nature. If you let it pass by, chances are she will assume you are just good friend material. And nothing more.

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