Welcome To The Real Truth About Men From a Guy Who Understands Women
The Real Truth About Men
You’re going to get some great information on the inner working on the male mind, but we don’t have to be completely dry in our approach.
occasionally
You’re here to learn about men.
- What we are Thinking
- How we are Feeling
- What we find Attractive and,
- Why we do the wonderful things we do.
I’m hoping by getting a glimpse into a not so typical guy such as myself you’ll begin to understand all men better and this will increase your chances of finding and then knowing you have found the right guy for you. And if you do already have a man, you just might enjoy a happier and longer relationship with him.
(Oh and I’ll be extremely upset if I’m not invited to the wedding. )
QUICK FACT ABOUT MEN HERE:
Ever wonder why some guys tuck their shirt in too tight when it is not necessary?
Insecurity. Yep. I used to do it myself. I felt safer and less shy. Must be sort of related to a security blanket issue I had growing up. But it’s not just me. Look around to what you already see. The men who tuck in than tighter needed are usually the most shy and unfortunately scared around women.
Force him to take his shirt out and you’ll see him act more nervous and look very uncomfortable.
Here is how it’s going to work…
You send a question. I answer it as honestly as I can and I will do my best to keep it simple and to the point.
The rules are simple, there are no rules. Yeah I went there. Seriously you must promise to not use my information I give you as advice and consider it advisement. You must also promise to use my words in the most respectful way. I’m not here to create any “Miss Know It Alls” 
You also agree by signing up you are eighteen years of age or older. This way we can talk about sex and male body parts, or I guess his member.
You can respond or ask your questions by replying to my emails or leaving a comment here.
I won’t have the ability to answer all your questions. Sometimes you’ll have to show patience and sometimes you may feel let down. I can not do anything about that for I am not the perfect man you might believe me to be. Haha! Just don’t tell my girlfriend, she still thinks I’m perfect. 
As I stated above please don’t use my words as advice or believe it’s going to change your life. I don’t have control over that and I’m not a registered therapist. But…I’ll let you in on a little secret…shhhhh……
- If you learn how to objectify what I’m telling you…
- If you learn to look beyond men’s so-called secret code…
- If you learn how to use the information to guide you to better men…
- If you learn how to use the truth to attract higher quality men…
- If you learn to use it as humor to make men more comfortable approaching you…
- If you ask the right questions and expect only intelligent upfront answers…
- If you listen intently but always integrate into your own beliefs…
- If you use it as inspiration or to gain self-confidence, knowing you’ve got insider information on men…
- If you take advantage of my guys, (hey now don’t get all pushy in bed now,) by using them to learn more…
I’m positive the real truth help you gain a better understanding of how to create better relationships with men.
I Want the Real Truth
{ 2 comments… read them below or Attractive Comments Welcome }
Hi, I have read all you have posted on the original site and this one confirming emails. what I have going is that I am 37. New job. New boss. He is 51. I am either in love madly, or totally smitten. We flirt on and off all day and on emails after or before work. We are the only two there all day together. I work in his home. No one else is there. I want this man very much. I am not needy in financial ways because I don’t live beyond my means. But he flirts with me and then leaves me hanging. Won’t come around to say he wants me so I think its probably the job issue? I am at a loss of whether itell him or not. Life is too short for games. I am very good at flirting and so is he. I just want it to go somewhere because my heart is torn up. I either want to know if I have a chance with him, or should I move on elsewhere. I am turning down dates and saving myself for him. But if he won’t have me then ill be hurt but at least I will know! Should I finally ask him at the risk of my job? I’m about ready to!
Thanks for writing.
Please Jennifer. Do not turn down dates or save yourself for any man who is not committed to you. I understand you think it might make him feel more special, or how if he finds out he will like you that much more, but all it does is limit your ability to attract a man long enough to commit to you.
The real truth about men – they rarely come out and say anything. (Unless they are in the friends zone and are looking to get out.)
If he flirts with you and leaves you hanging, he probably wants YOU to chase him. He might want you to let him know it’s okay for him to follow through.
But let’s throw away all the common notions about “who chases who” but only because in a work place things work a little differently. I have found that men who have no problems attracting women and have self-control over their actions don’t always act the same way at work. There are boundaries in place and they are there with good reason. Most women do NOT want their boss “making a pass” on them.
Therefore I feel in this situation it might be up to you to clearly let him know it’s okay to progress. If you feel the job is the issue then it’s up to you to do something about that to reassure him you’re not going see it as harassment if “something” were to happen.
Next you have a few problems – One being the risk of the job becoming uncomfortable if things don’t work out. Well you’re already uncomfortable and I might add in more ways than one. This answer is yours and yours only. Only you can decide if it’s worth risking the job.
The second problem being you’re an employee of his. Is he willing to give up a good employee for something when neither one of you are sure how it’s going to work out. I suppose you could try being a terrible worker so he wouldn’t mind losing you after you start dating.
Either way understand he’s the only that can decide that for himself.
The third problem is “how to let him know it’s okay to advance without fear of legal workplace reprecussions.”
I’ll quickly explain how to do this based on my experience of being a man. I don’t want to turn this into a guide on how to attract a man.
There are a few areas men respond to:
Visually – Does he find you attractive? If you catch him “checking you out” smile back and make it clear you’re “checking him out” also. Make sure you finish at his mouth then back to his eyes. Most men miss these signals so to reinforce them lightly bite your upper lip while you’re doing it. If that does not do it then he might not be physically attracted to you enough to risk the employment agreement.
Aurally – Does your voice “do it” for him? Feel free to discuss issues which are not work related. Bring the conversations to places which might be a little “risky.” As your doing it draw him in closer by lowering your voice, not tone, but overall volume. You want him to lean in just a little to hear you. If he resuses to get closer and closer and all you’re getting is “what?” “Huh?” I can’t hear you?” “Speak up?” Then that’s a good sign he is either not willing to step over the work boundary or again is not feeling much attraction towards you.
Confidence – Does he believe you can “handle” the risk? Men in this situation might need almost a guaranteed reassurance that you’re not going to “freak out” when something may not work out between the two of you. One reason we are attracted to a confident woman is for that reason. We want to know we won’t have our “bunnies boiled” because we’re the only part of their life a woman likes.
I believe the next step is yours. I don’t want you sittting around waiting for him to make a move. I certainly don’t want you giving up on the rest of men entirely while waiting around for him to step up.
Make him step up and never be afraid of the outcome. That’s always more attractive than quietly hoping and waiting he wants more. You can try this, “You know I really do love this job and you’re so easy to work for, but I wonder how much fun we could have when we’re not stuck here.”
Then smile back at him.
Now I’m sure you’re looking for more of the real truth or my personal opinion on being a man.
I don’t believe in workplace romances. They are not for me. They typically cause more problems and if a breakup occurs the job becomes that much harder. BUT as I mentioned above if you’re willing to risk it and face any and all consequences – Good for you! Life is too short to let an opportunity pass you by.
I believe if you follow the little advice I gave you above you’ll get some clearer signs on whether he is also willing to risk the employment situation. If that doesn’t work then you’re going to be clearer yourself about what you’re looking for. Mind you, not clearer about your feelings towards him. Let him wonder a little. This basically means don’t say, “I think I love you…” or “I really like you…” What you want to do is offer an alternative to your daily grind. Again be clear on what you’re looking for and not what you’re feeling.
What you’re looking for is an opportunity to go somewhere, anywhere you both will enjoy, and get to know each other outside of the job. Don’t get too far ahead of yourself and don’t jump ahead to a relationship that is not there yet. Take it one step at a time. Sound good? Cool.
Hope that helps clear up any confusion you might be having about your boss. Let me know how it works out and as always feel free to write back and tell me how it’s going for you.
-Pete