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5 Reasons Why Women Will Reject A Shorter Man Based On His Height

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They’re both assumed to be short. If she rejecting him because of his height alone?

I have met and talked to many women in my short life and I can roughly name two that actually said they liked or preferred short men…

My mom and some drunk woman who was trying to get in my pants.

Of course my Mom’s now married to a taller guy and the drunk chic did NOT get in my pants.

So much for her preferences.

I believe she meant to say, “I have never rejected a guy because of his height.”

The drunk girl was either wearing beer goggles or setting her goals low in better hopes to achieve them.

The word “tall” always seems to start a woman’s shopping list when it comes to what she is looking for in a guy.

After all, tall dark and handsome didn’t become cliché overnight.

It’s been ingrained and publicized for as long as I can remember and the media have and always will perpetuate what they perceive women to want.

But will any particular woman ever reject a guy, no matter what, under any conditions, just because of his height?


Of course.

Maybe she has a height issue.

Maybe she cares too much of what others think.

Maybe there’s something more going on which is ingrained into our instinctual need to survive and deliver offspring with a better chance of survival and success themselves.


Take note of the sarcasm in this post because I’m not holding back and it’s here to prove a point…

I aim to dispel the myths us “shorter” guys have been told and to explore the absurdity that women turn down men just because we’re short.

1.) Short men are weaker than tall men.

We are all here to keep our species alive, procreate, and being short can be perceived as being weak. Obviously it’s a common misconception because we all know short men that are very strong, physically and mentally. We also know tall men that are weak, mentally or physically.

I grew up with some pretty tall cousins and of course we would screw around and a real fight would eventually break out. One cousin was weak. He couldn’t take a punch. I could always find a way to win. The other couldn’t feel pain at all. There was nothing I could do to win. All I could do was try my best to walk away unharmed and end it with some dignity.

And both were taller than average AND large. Yet one was a wussy and one was a bull.

But alas since shorter guys are ALWAYS weaker why wouldn’t she reject the shorter guy when her goal is to conceive offspring which are strong.

However reason 1 states short guys are weaker than tall guys and since this is obviously not the case if we’re rejected and we assume it’s because we’re small, there must be another reason she turned us down.

Like how about…

2.) Having children with a shorter man practically guarantees the kids are going to be short too.

Tell me if you’ve seen these couples.

She’s 5 foot. His 6’3″.

Pisses off a lot of people, doesn’t it?

All the taller women 5’10” and above are cringing because they can not find a man taller. They’re stuck looking for much taller men and since they are rare it makes it difficult for her to find him.

All the shorter guys under 5’5″ are pissed because they struggle with taller women and since everyone knows shorter women go for those “way too tall for them guys.” they’re left to find a woman who falls between 5’3″ and 5’3″ and one half.

I “theorized” once that according to the survival of the fittest, it makes sense. I came to the conclusion that shorter women will instinctively want to mate with a much taller man to insure her children are at least average.

With all that it’s easy to see why women “deny the small” because they’re afraid of having short children, they prefer to look up to their man, and of course, short people are weaker than taller ones.

However since men of six feet tall are above average in height AND women 5 feet tall or less are below average in height…

This can NOT possibly be the norm but the exception.

3.) Shorter men will lower a taller woman’s status if they are seen dating.

Tall Woman. Short Men.

Tall Woman Shorter Man Photo: Tallwomen.org

Status DOES play a major role in a woman’s selection or attraction to a guy. ( Although some argue younger women care more about this than older women. I’m not entirely convinced yet.)

A woman with a very low belief in herself, being taller than average, would not be able to handle the lower status she will feel on a date with a much shorter guy as in the picture.

This was a major excuse for me, “She just doesn’t want to be seen with me. Her friend will think she’s nits because she’s with a shorter guy. She’ll think people are staring…”

The truth is there.

If she has low self-esteem she’s going to worry about what people think.

If she puts he friends value higher than hers, she’s going to avoid a shorter man because her friends would NEVER date one.

If she builds her self-image by who she is with (sexually or not) then of course she’ll reject a guy because of his height.

Where does that leave us and this truthful myth?


Women who have status and will not give it away because of what others think (for the most part) AND who value themselves with high self-esteem will rare if ever reject a guy because of his stature.

And the kicker:

We must not base our on status on how big or small we are or we will give her every excuse or reason to reject us!

4.) Shorter men are harder to tame.

Imagine three people standing side to side with a woman around 5’5″ in the middle all of equal pay and outstanding citizens.

The men are 5’2″ and 6’3″.

Looking up she might assume he’s got by in life though his height which in turn may make him less intelligent.

Looking down she might assume he’s had to work harder for it. It might make her a little nerdy. It might make him appear clever or smarter than the taller guy.

Which one will gain more of her respect?

Now… Here’s the wonderful part of a sarcastic post.

I can combine two clichés and come to this conclusion:

1. Women prefer tall, dark, and handsome.
2. Women feel more attracted to men they want to change and it often overrides her better judgement.

Between the two guys listed it’s easy to see who is easier to change?

The smart cat-like man because yes all of us short guys are naturally gifted in climbing, why else would we want taller girls or the big dumb beautiful oaf because of course the over-sized happy dumb dog reinforcing the belief ignorance is bliss?

Being more clever, more respected, seen as smarter because we appear nerdier, she find us shorter guys not only harder to tame but finds no reason to change us – we’re already perfect.

However since a preference is NOT the same as attraction AND why would she want to change a taller guy she already has power over of in many ways this becomes a tall-tale assuming women don’t want a real challenge.

5.) Shorter men find it more difficult to succeed in business and therefore are inferior providers to taller men.

Most CEOs are tall.

90% of Fortune 500 CEOs are of above average height. Some 30% – compared with only about 4% in the general population – are 6’2” or taller. [Since…..] the only explanation is that tallness conveys qualities that are seen as “executive material” even when the tall person might lack those qualities or be merely humdrum. By extension, shorter-than-average people with incredible leadership skills might be passed over in exchange for less-stunning but taller candidates.

What to do about it:

This is even tougher than appearance issues, since there’s no good way to increase your height (you can wear lifts, I suppose, but will always risk exposure). Again, confidence is key, and the handful of shorter-than-average CEOs out there (less that 3%) are distinguished by their confidence. Study the behavior of shorter CEOs like Jack Welch or Barry Diller. Think “tall” – be seen, make yourself heard. Shorter CEOs also tend to be those that work their way up in a company, so commit for the long haul; taller CEOs.

10 Things in Life That Aren’t Fair – and What to Do About Them (Part 1 of 2)

There you have it: Facts!

Facts to back up the belief that shorter men find it difficult succeeding in the business world thus making the less of a provider than his taller counterpart.

If a woman assumes or reads fact like that then of course she turn her head away from the less providing shorter man and reject his tiny ass.


If those facts are entirely true (and they probably are) who is to say women ONLY date CEO’s or more successful businessmen or the only way to be great providers is to be one of them?

And what about this long list of short guys who have succeeded in many fields –> List of Famous Short Men

Also being a more than a credible provider may come down to some finances but if we’re to believe it’s ALL about money then we might as well assume only fathers with cash are good. Which I’m sure if you have ever paid any attention in the world – proves itself wrong on many occasions with divorce and the troubled children of rich guys.

Again, assuming the exception is the rule rarely ever proves a point.

Especially when that is point is that since taller men are better providers she has no choice but to reject us lowly poor and terrible fathers small guys.

The beliefs we hold, when broken down and scrutinized can be changed. They can be seen in a new light of absurdity with the help of a clever and sarcastic attitude towards certain perceived norms…

The “norm” might feel like we’re being rejected because of our height alone but then we must assume so much more to back up those beliefs:

  • Women want taller men because ALL shorter men are weaker.
  • They have short genes and will ALWAYS produce shorter weaker kids who are less likely to succeed.
  • ALL women have low self-esteem and worry more about how others see them.
  • Her delicately fragile Ego can NOT handle being judged by others as a couple.
  • ALL women aim for high status and tall men equals higher status.
  • Short guys ALWAYS suffer from the “Napoleon Complex” and feel like they have something to prove making them impossible to change or tame.
  • Tall guys are given everything whereas shorter guys have to work for it making the shorter guy smarter and clever and more nimble-like.
  • They (shorter dudes) don’t make as much money so they can not be great providers.
  • Better financial providers ALWAYS are better fathers.
  • The only way to make money (or succeed) is to be better businessmen and possible a CEO of a large company.

There are many more “myths” or assumed “norms” in the world centered around our height and if we choose to believe them or think they hold us back from attracting women we’re only reinforcing something so much more destructive:

Women will reject us based on our height alone therefore ALL women are superficial!

You can read the destructive force which happens to attraction when we assume her superficiality in this post I wrote –> Are All Women Superficial? Do They Only Choose Guys Who Are Taller?

Dispelling these myths or changing our beliefs can happen as I’ve managed to do it because I’m a short nimbly-like cat person of higher intelligence but an empty wallet. 😀

Hopefully I changed your beliefs a little.

How about we go a little further so every less-then-tall guy can truly change their perception about the world and begin to see things such as rejection and attraction more positively.

First, if you’re thinking about heightening, think again –> I Don’t Care How Short You Are, You DO NOT Need Lifts To Attract Women

Is your success with women REALLY based on your height? Is Your Success With Women Based On Your Height?

Maybe we assume taller guys are better looking than us. Some are of course but as Scot Mckay so eloquently wrote –> Do Only Good Looking Guys Get Women?

While being short can not be changed, our attitudes about it and how it affects attraction CAN be changed:

The whole rejection thing often comes from a limited belief system based on our experiences and they too also CAN be changed.

Here’s what I’ve come up with to help us out –> Limited Belief – Women are not attracted to me because I am too short

Still not convinced about rejection and your height? Secrets To Success With Women For Shorter Men or better known as “Not Too Short” changed my beliefs on my height with regards to attracting women and I believe you’ll find it extremely helpful too.

Okay so yes… some women DO prefer tall or taller men.

But if you believe women are rejecting us based solely on our height than I do hope by reading this today I’ve at least begun to change your mind AND have given you many opportunities to dispel this myth once and for all.

Keep looking up shorty! 😀


Peter White. Intelligent ideas with a simple goal… Turn you into a more attractive man with my Nice Guys Approach to Attraction. You can also visit The Approach… Dedicated to Meeting and Approaching the opposite sex. Please visit my Facebook “Fan” Page. Lastly… Introducing for women only, Why Do Guys…?. Thank you for everything and the best of luck to you.


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16 comments… add one

  • Caius

    All your suppositions are a bunch of bullocks.

    Most tall women will not mind and most often LOVE dating shorter men.

    Shorter men are more ambitious. A large majority of them will acquire more wealth and status.
    ASK A FEW TALL WOMEN – instead of puking out your own fears.

    • Caius,

      You may want to take the time to read the post before you leave a comment. You may have overlooked the obvious sarcasm,

      “I’m not going to hold back the sarcasm on this post. You’re in for a ride. Have fun. :)”

      And the absurdity of the post…

      They can be seen in a new light of absurdity with help from a sarcastic attitude.

      Aside from the obvious sarcasm, which may have “gone over your head” I have backed up my old limited beliefs with facts.

      Your “suppositions” however offer little more than statements without facts designed to make you feel better. Which if that is what you need I see nothing wrong with it. I prefer to take the road of people are people. tall or short, and the fact that women do PREFER to date taller men makes no difference in my dating world anymore.

      Honestly I couldn’t care less what women prefer, when my girlfriend looks down at me with her sultry eyes I know what it’s really about. Not my wealth, which I have none. My status, well that I do have. It’s about how I make her feel. And I know without a doubt if all my ambitions were to leave me tomorrow it would not change the way she feels about her short ass man. (Unless I start puking out my fears on her foot.)

  • Luke

    Good article! We need more like this one. Unfortunately, it will not change people’s mind on the subject: short men will agree, women with 6′ 4″ boyfriends will protest ans say height doesn’ t matter and tall guys will laught at it.
    It’s a social fact, not an opinion. My best friend is 6′ 5″ and I’m 5’7″. He was always successful with girls while I was almost always rejected, yet…I was more good looking than him and had Sly’s body. He was fat and losing his hair. I could beat him up with one hand.
    But in naive twenties, I never thought girls were so superficial and automatically selecting the taller guy!
    Women often complain that men are only attracted by their physical attributes. What a crap! Yes, men do look at a woman’s body but they don’t automatically reject her because she is only 34a…but women will often reject a guy under 6′.
    My conclusion: women are extraordinarily superficial and they will do anything to hide it.

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  • Joe Trammel

    All these propagana about height is nonsense.All’s it takes for short men to get woman is by being funny,confident in yourself,beliving in myself,being creative,having a good personality and being kind.I’m 5’4 1/2 but I won’t let that stop me from having fun.

    • peter white

      Great points Joe. Let’s not forget if any woman rejects a guy solely by his height alone, then what does that say about her?

      I assume most women won’t reject him based on his height alone, they’re all just not that shallow. Therefore there must be something else missing and a few of them on most definitely on the list you wrote.

      Thanks Joe,


  • ilham

    It’s good they reject us. Saves us a lot of time and money. And the fact that they don’t want kids from us is even more brilliant. Out of all the fish out there we get little pyussy but those few are real, they love us to death and don’t just wanna use us to reproduce and live well on our account. My tall friend never knows wether they love him or his status, hight, and money.

  • Clinton

    Talk about an inferiority complex; taller men are less intelligent than shorter ones? Never has this been proven (the opposite has actually been proven through research) and is obviously only based on your narrow logic. Shouldn’t shorter men be dumber? As you said, (apparently) nothing is given to them so wouldn’t they be more motivated to always look for the easiest short-cut, the easiest assignment or cheat to maximize their lower chances at success? This would make them lazy, stupid and more inclined to obsess with over-compensating by the imaginary consolation that taller people are big, dumb and ignorant. Absolutely nothing, in terms of academic pursuits, is given to taller people do you even realize the bullshit that spews through your logic?

    • Did you read the article Clinton or just skim through the title and highlighted points?

      Let me quote for you something you missed,

      “I aim to dispel the myths us “shorter” guys have been told and to explore the absurdity that women turn down men just because we’re short.”

    • John

      Some of you tall men are full of bull shit. Havn’t you realised that short men will have to work twice as hard to prove themselves, while for many tall men it is quite the opposite? This therefore explains that while many tall men will be able to attract more women than short men, longevity is often a questionable issue in their relationships. Additionally, many short men are able to build a better character and personality. Having almost everything handed to you as a tall man is not sustainable over the long run.

  • Ali usman.m

    This generation are not consider a taller men or shorter men, their after money nomatter how. pl’ s keep up.

  • Kyle

    This article wouldn’t exist if the things you were trying to dispel weren’t real. Tall men are superior to short men, simple fact. Take a look at same weight class fighters with greatly varying heights. Height is an evolutionary advantage for seeing predators over obstacles, longer reach for spearing said predator, and reaching higher when foraging. Plus many other things I’m sure. Honestly women should stop having children with short men so they slowly fade away.

    • Alex

      My dear friend, “short genes” would be passed on by short women and even by tall men and women. It’s nearly impossible to prevent short height from appearing from time to time in human beings. Besides we may want to define “short height”, which level does it start at? Again it’s non-sense to give an answer to this question because short and tall height is relative not absolute: it varies according to population, history, family… if a tall person can more easily see a predator shorter ones can hide themselves better. Fighting in real life implied the use of techniques and tools of any type which is obviously forbidden in modern sport, you may look at street fights rather then wrestling. By the way if you were to consider martial arts you may end up questioning your own convictions about a supposed “superiority” of tall men.
      For these very reasons your arguments are not sustainable and I personally find them morally appalling. The truth is we are all different and prejudice is always wrong

  • Sean

    Short men don’t have it as hard as it’s portrayed to be here. If you’re short, be confident, and don’t just give off the napolean complex vibe and everything will be okay, take care of your body, be in shape and stuff like that. I’m 6’1″ and I don’t really think my height has really made any difference to my life.

    • Bob

      You’re not really short. I’m 5’4, and this is like playing a videogame on “Impossible’ difficulty.

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