Do Women Sexual Test Men with Verbal Foreplay?

Let me dispel a myth about women:

The funny thing is that these same guys don't know how right they are that CONVERSATION is their most POWERFUL asset when creating Attraction and Rapport with women - or just forming bonds with other guys. Our verbal and nonverbal skills, along with with our perception of the subcommunication going on in these conversations, are what give us true influence and persuasive ability with other people.

Women think about sex. They think about it often and they think about it in great detail. Yet women don’t always have to act on their desires. A woman can walk around horny all day and still not have the desire to just jump in bed with someone. They just don’t work that way. Granted if you are involved with a woman and she comes home feeling “wet”  there is a great chance you are going to have amazing sex that evening. As long as you intensify her desires.

But that is completely different from meeting a woman who early on tests you with what I call verbal foreplay. She is testing you on one level and she is having fun too. If it’s done right it will be enjoyable for the both of you.What I mean by verbal foreplay is she always seems to be wanting it to lead somewhere. It almost appears she is trying to get in your pants. It can be naughty texting back and forth. It can also be a conversation about a past sexual experience she has had.

The point is, it’s just foreplay and how you react to these tests will leave no doubt in her mind that you are either a man who is different and exciting, or just a another sex crazed man who she can meet anywhere.

Here is some great advice I have learned in dealing with these situations and believe me I have been on both sides of reaction.

I was once that nervous man afraid to talk about sex. Afraid she would recognize my lack of experience. I was also the men that would let it go too far. I would assume she wanted me and then I would start acting differently, but in a bad way. It went like this. She brings up sex, I get excited, she pulls back, and then I’m hooked. I found myself falling again for some woman who just wanted to make sure I was who I was. And she was right. When I began to quickly escalate our relationship out of comfort before assuring there was chemistry and attraction, she would lump me in the friends zone with every other guy. I failed her test.

So how do I react differently now that passes her little sex tests?

First of all:

By not being too nervous when talking to a woman about sex. Especially when she brings it up first. I wish I could pinpoint exactly how I managed it but it’s not that easy. I believe it was a mixture of my increasing confidence and masculinity. I also learned to develop this little twinkle in my eye that says to a woman,

“You want me. I know you do. Haha!”

Which I understand is a completely different mindset than just thinking,

“Oh my god. She’s bringing up sex. I wonder if she likes. I think she does. I should do something more.”

This cocky look at a woman directly speaks with her as a woman. You don’t even have to say anything. She will get it.

Next:

Teasing her back. Playing along a little but making sure of one thing….

I am leading and not her.

When she begins to lead and you follow, she will eventually pull back. And at this time you better pull back further.
You see a woman wants to know if you are a man who can control yourself. And if you push things too far, she will run away faster than Forest Gump on steroids.

A great way to put the lead back on you is to accuse her, in funny way, that she must not be getting much lately. This works great when done properly and bringing back the lead to you will show her your masculinity and that you are a leader. Of course if you want a dominant woman who likes to tie up guys and spank them, then by all means, let her lead you and see what happens.

I also found it very effective when dealing with high-caliber women to not dive into the act of verbal sex too quickly. This is more of an advice to talking online or when texting back and forth. I can not tell you how many women have told me that they enjoy talking with me because I don’t blatantly say,

“Hey baby. I’m fucking you now. How does my cock feel?”

My verbal foreplay turns her on slowly. Just like it would in during real sex. I know she wants me to prove to her that I understand foreplay, and how to create sexual tension. Which means holding back from discussing the act, or the moment of sexual gratification. It mean using your words to turn her on by creating a visual environment in her mind that makes her feel like she is engaging with you in a sexual moment.Grab a romance novel and read it. You will see exactly what I mean.

And this goes for phone sex, sexting, or sexual online chatting. Here’s a small example of what I would write to a woman.

“I will lean a little closer, our eyes locked on each other. Reach in with my warm hand and push away your soft hair behind your left ear. Move in a little closer until our lips are almost touching. Tug back on your hair again until your neck is exposed and then run my cheek against yours; until my lips reach your awaiting skin just below your ear lobe. Soft wet kisses up to your ear, and then down your neck running a wet trail to your collar-bone and then up to your chin. Goosebumps will rise slowly along your arms, legs, inner thighs, and up your back as your eyes slowly shut and your lips grow warmer and warmer…”

If you want to learn how to speak sexually, whether it be online, texting, or in person I would suggest you check out Phone Sex Revealed. It’s a great program David Wygant developed teaching men to successfully create sexual tension, and maybe further through phone sex. From online to the phone. If you just don’t seem to get this stuff I can not see how it won’t help. Years ago I wouldn’t have bothered with something like that but after going through the experiences I have had it just makes sense to learn to have great phone sex, sexually tease a woman through texting or chatting online. As far as I’m concerned it can never replace the real thing but it can allow your mind to absorb exactly how to turn on a woman. I thought Dave was full of it when I heard some of the stories he told about how quickly he went from online to the phone to making a woman have an incredible orgasm in such little time, until I was able to do it myself.

Back to the sexual testing….

When a woman begins testing you by talking sexually don’t allow her to lead. If you do she will cut you off and you will be left with nothing but a hard on and a woman who feels she can control you sexually.

You’re a man and as far as I’m concerned, you are in charge of creating and building sexual chemistry. Women want men that know how to do this, but they also want a man who knows when, enough is enough. She also wants a man to make her feel like it is just happening. Whether or not it is. It is key to making a women feel an experience she will not soon forget. It can and will separate you from many other guys out there.

Believe this. Women know that if you pass every other test of hers but she’s still not sure about you, she will bring out the sex card. It is where most men fail miserably. Pass that test and you just might find yourself naturally smirking at her with those, you want me, I know you do eyes.

Have a great day,

Pete

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