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How I Escaped the Friends Zone
Jan 28th
I was a prisoner doing a life sentence. The jury that handed me the verdict consisted of only women.
“Guilty,” They read aloud.
“On all counts.”
The judge peered at me with a disgusted look on his face. The reading glasses he wore were sliding off the tip of his nose reflecting a blinding light on me. I squinted back up at him hoping for compassion but I never got it. He demanded I make reparations and that I, Peter White, be deemed to live out my life as number 674893123. A prisoner of the friend’s zone.
27. Do you feel you understand the opposite sex?
Jan 2nd
Well if you’re like most people you haphazardly throw your pissed off hand underneath the bed. You begin to poke and feel but you just can not seem to find it. So you lean over a little for that extra reach and, hey, there it is. You separate your thumb and finger hoping to pull it in and by doing so, you push it away even further from you.
You’re so comfortable and warm. You just don’t want to get up. So you try again but this time there’s no way to get it. It’s gone. Lost in the darkness and far from your view. You have two choices now. Get up, turn on a light, and skilfully acquire the ring. Or you can just roll over and wait until morning.
Which do you choose?
21. Do you feel attractive?
Dec 20th
I know when I was in the friend’s zone constantly I never felt attractive. Women called me cute, and nice. Far from attractive. The clear reason for them choosing these adjectives was the lack of deep feelings associated with me. Granted cute is emotional when you’re pinching a kid’s cheek, but calling a full-grown adult, cute or nice, is far from an attractive compliment.
It goes like this:
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MAN:
(leans in for a kiss and she pulls back)
What’s the matter? Don’t you find me attractive?
WOMAN:
(trying to be nice)
No that’s not it all. I think you’re cute, and so nice. But I just don’t like you that way.
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WOMAN:
(trying to figure out if he like her)
Do you think I’m good looking?
MAN:
(trying to be nice)
Of course I do. I’m just not ready to start a relationship with someone right now.
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38. Do you feel that you are better than most attractive people you encounter, that are constantly in some sort of a relationship?
Dec 19th
This question is classic. You start thinking to yourself. I’m better than him. Or what does she have that I don’t. He kisses her ass and I can not see why. I don’t get it.
This sort of thinking often leads us down a road of negativity. It is very unhealthy and cause us to shut ourselves off from the rest of the world. It becomes obvious to those around us and will certainly land you in the friend’s zone frequently because no one enjoys dating someone whose confidence is false. True confident people don’t use others to boost themselves up. In fact they often do the opposite. They use their abilities to help others. They use their confidence to offer leadership. And good leaders rarely find it hard to attract someone sexually.
22. Do you dress, or purchase certain clothes because you feel you do not give a shit about what others think of you?
Dec 17th
This question is also about determining where you think you are on that indifference scale. The odd part of this scale is when you are on one extreme side, it’s easy to tell where you are. But most of us are not there. We lie somewhere along the scale and just one small step to the left or right, can make all the difference on the world.
Here is the scale.