The nice guys that finish first in dating and attracting women, have learned to transform the qualities of a jerk and integrate them into who they are.
They have developed their personalities by not altering what makes them a nice guy…but by changing their attitudes about what women do see in a bad boy.
A ll preferences aside, what turns you on? Men, literally, what gets you hard? Women, what gets you the wettest? I’m not talking about sexual fantasies, I’m talking about those instant reactions you feel when you see someone you are extremely attracted to.
I want your shallowest thoughts. Don’t hold back at all.
(pick your shallowest thought and leave it below in the comment area)
For me. It’s a woman butt. The shape of her body. The way she walks. Her lips. Her hair. Her attitude.
Honestly, I never thought this question would be so difficult but when I say it out loud,
“What do I find attractive?”
This question is classic. You start thinking to yourself. I’m better than him. Or what does she have that I don’t. He kisses her ass and I can not see why. I don’t get it.
This sort of thinking often leads us down a road of negativity. It is very unhealthy and cause us to shut ourselves off from the rest of the world. It becomes obvious to those around us and will certainly land you in the friend’s zone frequently because no one enjoys dating someone whose confidence is false. True confident people don’t use others to boost themselves up. In fact they often do the opposite. They use their abilities to help others. They use their confidence to offer leadership. And good leaders rarely find it hard to attract someone sexually.
An approval seeking man. Haha! That’s not what we’re here for.
We’re here for, we create our own approval.
We go out and forge our own path. We cut our own trail through this life. And that’s what it is to be a man.
And that goes right against the grain of what it is to be a man, by seeking approval of all the other people out there. It’s just not good.
Blame is absolutely useless and it doesn’t nothing for our growth as humans. The whole “cause and it’s effect on the outcome” is merely just an event leading up to another event.
You can’t blame yourself for just acting accordingly to who YOU ARE.
We all make them. Some fewer than others and they are LIMITED BELIEFS
My biggest one was, being short!
Let me tell you a quick story. I was at a bar once that always featured live bands. Being a musician I would always bring myself up close to see what chords they were playing. Check out their equipment and meet the players after.
Those fears often stem from our wants or needs to fulfill something in our lives that we are missing. Often I read how it is not good to be needy. Which is true but I rarely hear how our wanting something can be just as bad, or even worse….
It’s unfortunate the nice guy label given to men have them always stuck in the friend’s zone. Trying to escape or get out for good with any future interactions. They don’t typically have many girlfriends and struggle getting the women they really want, to be attracted to them.
This guide is meant for those men.
I woke up today and spent over four hours going through my web search engine. I fed it the words, “online dating advice”. I didn’t even attempt to use the word free in there. Who knows what that would have brought up. The list it spewed back at me was awful, and this is coming from a guy that believes in Google, thinks Bing should take a walk, and poor poor Yahoo, I’m pulling for you man.
You might laugh a little at the construction of those 10 steps in dating but only the last part, about the sex is not true. I hear and read so much advice on how guys are to get dates that it makes me shake my head in disbelief. I say that because honestly, and no real man will argue this point. it is just that easy to get a date.
And why is this?
Any attractive women that has tons of dating options presented to her each day must learn how to be a challenge. She must learn how to test a man to prove through his real inner game that he is worth dating. Her challenging tests rule out any man who does one of those two actions listed above.
1. Being nice has little or nothing to do with Attraction.
2. Just because a woman is flirting with you doesn’t mean you’ve found your next girlfriend.
3. Don’t be afraid to make the first move when the situation arrives.
I realize now why she acted the way she did and why it never occurred to me back then pisses me off. I made her feel ugly. I made her feel like she was not wanted. She acted out of anger for hurting her ego.
A good man does not have to wait around for you to finally put down your barrier. I’m not talking about the barriers in which your subconscious creates but the one your conscious mind puts up. I’m not talking about instinctual testing either. Those are there to protect you and allow you to decide who would be a better mate. I’m talking about the ones that seem to exclude you from being with the guy that only wants to be friends with you.
An average or good looking nice guy with a highly attractive personality has learned or naturally understands, how to react to a woman’s tests, actions, sexual advances, or her attitude during any event or interaction.
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