When the constant bombardment of our confidence and self-esteem are tied into each failure we endure, we can find ourselves relating these failures to our height. After all if a woman turns us down and the next man we find her kissing, is five inches taller, it becomes way too easy to blame it on our height. It satisfies the logic of what we see or believe our minds finds it to be true. We in turn train our minds to only notice what satisfies our logical reasoning. For example. If you are logically deducing women only want men who are slightly taller than them, you will only seem to take notice of those couples. And when you do see couple that goes against your beliefs, your brain tries to explain it another way. He must be rich. Or it’s his huge muscles. Or he must be a jerk.
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Here is a quote I stole from an anonymous woman’s profile.
I always wondered how pretty girls end up with ugly boys
and pretty boys with ugly girls.
(Like how my cute boyfriend wants some fugly chick like me)
I think love is stupid. But im crazy about him.
What does she really mean or what do I think she means?
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Oh that dry feeling between my legs seeped into every part of my life. It made me angry. It made me short tempered. It made me put so much emphasis on just getting some, I found it difficult just looking at a woman without undressing her and imagining doing it with her.
I couldn’t rationalize away my sexual desires. No matter how times we masturbate it just can never feel as good as it is when you are with a partner who’s wants to share that experience with you,
And the huge mistake on my part was exactly this,
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Was I cool? Am I cool now? Am I one of those men that some most people just think, he’s such a cool person.
I’m really cracking myself up writing about this now. But who cares. What really matters to me is what I think is cool. Right? Sometimes I will stare at a gorgeous moon on a clear night and say to myself, that is so cool. Sometimes I will watch a friend screw something up and make a fool of herself. She will walk over to me and we both laugh, “That was so cool!”
Put in another context the word cool takes on a different meaning. There are groups of people in every generation that are deemed to not be cool. They can include parents, teachers, retired people, and yes, politicians. (remind me to never mention politicians on this site) We’re all most likely going to find ourselves not cool to another group at one point in our life. It’s inevitable.
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This question is classic. You start thinking to yourself. I’m better than him. Or what does she have that I don’t. He kisses her ass and I can not see why. I don’t get it.
This sort of thinking often leads us down a road of negativity. It is very unhealthy and cause us to shut ourselves off from the rest of the world. It becomes obvious to those around us and will certainly land you in the friend’s zone frequently because no one enjoys dating someone whose confidence is false. True confident people don’t use others to boost themselves up. In fact they often do the opposite. They use their abilities to help others. They use their confidence to offer leadership. And good leaders rarely find it hard to attract someone sexually.
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Being single again is always tough.
Our relationships often encompass our lives and intertwine themselves into our everyday existence.
We begin to rely on that comfort.
We rely on that feelings of special phone calls and special moments. The ones we share with our partner that only are known to us.
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I use to see women as perfect. At least I use to see those particular women where my attraction controlled me, as perfect.
And as the old saying goes “I would put them up on a pedestal”, and attempt to climb into their hearts by, being so nice it was sickening.
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We all make them. Some fewer than others and they are LIMITED BELIEFS
My biggest one was, being short!
Let me tell you a quick story. I was at a bar once that always featured live bands. Being a musician I would always bring myself up close to see what chords they were playing. Check out their equipment and meet the players after.
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It’s unfortunate the nice guy label given to men have them always stuck in the friend’s zone. Trying to escape or get out for good with any future interactions. They don’t typically have many girlfriends and struggle getting the women they really want, to be attracted to them.
This guide is meant for those men.
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An outgoing man wants a woman by his side, to enhance him. She is willing to get off the couch and have fun with him, socially. Or else he will eventually stray and find someone willing to experience the social life he prefers.
So what is it then, what type of man are you looking for?
A real man definition off the top of my head.
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With so much material on how a guy can get out of the friends zone with a woman. I thought it was about time for tips on helping a woman get out of the “Let’s just be friends.” category with a man.
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Being cool is not just a matter of who your friends are or what kind of social life you lead. It’s actually a culmination of everything you are starting with confidence.
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Talking to women is one thing, but talking to a woman you are attracted to, can cause so many problems for men.
The first is disqualifying yourself to her quickly, because of how you act differently around her and when you’re with your friends.
The second is blatant nervousness and an inability to speak to her as a masculine man.
Strong confident men do not give into social pressures of any kind. Their high self esteem and control over their responses to a woman’s test are consistent.
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