The nice guys that finish first in dating and attracting women, have learned to transform the qualities of a jerk and integrate them into who they are.
They have developed their personalities by not altering what makes them a nice guy…but by changing their attitudes about what women do see in a bad boy.
“Women must not think I’m attractive enough to even notice me. They are afraid to approach me for fear I would get the wrong impression. I don’t have what he has. I don’t drive a fancy car or have hot women draped all over me. Yeah that must be it.”
It was around dusk and me and two friends were walking the strip scoping out the chic of course. Nothing seemed to out of the ordinary until this woman screamed over at us,
“Nice Ass!!!”
10. Always give in to her demands because of how she looks on the outside.
This is what used to go on inside my mind. Rotting it with the disease of needy thinking or approval seeking.
“Holy shit this chic is hot. I would love to fuck her. I would do anything for her. If I could just prove to her I’m not like any other guy she has met.”
When the constant bombardment of our confidence and self-esteem are tied into each failure we endure, we can find ourselves relating these failures to our height. After all if a woman turns us down and the next man we find her kissing, is five inches taller, it becomes way too easy to blame it on our height. It satisfies the logic of what we see or believe our minds finds it to be true. We in turn train our minds to only notice what satisfies our logical reasoning. For example. If you are logically deducing women only want men who are slightly taller than them, you will only seem to take notice of those couples. And when you do see couple that goes against your beliefs, your brain tries to explain it another way. He must be rich. Or it’s his huge muscles. Or he must be a jerk.
All of a sudden it hit me how I was able to do that when it came to attracting women. I did allow myself to see that sexy guy, how I would act around women, how they would be drawn to me how I would flirt with them, how I could get and have better sex, how I could be with the women my high standards set so long ago.
This is why I believe that self-affirmations may not make you more attractive. Sure they can drive you along and anytime you are having a positive conversation with yourself you are doing good. And anytime you speak negatively about yourself you are doing bad for yourself.
Women, even the strongest women like myself, LOVES a take charge type of guy. Oh sure alot of us are capable of taking care of ourselves, but the one thing every women needs, wants, and desires is to feel secure. Yes we love you to fight for our honor and protect us from harms way and all that bullshit. But what’s more important and really makes our thighs moist, is when we know we have a take the bull by the horns type of man.
A man who can speak for himself.
A man who is always 10 steps ahead of the game.
A man who shouldn’t have to ask you shit, cause he already knows.
A man who knows when shit is about to hit the fan, he is an act first ask questions later type of guy.
A man who will do it with or with out you, it don’t matter to him. He just gets the job done.
A man who will always tell us the truth about ourselves, not what they think we want to hear.
You hear everyone talk about approaching women. How to do it. What you should say. How you should say it. But really guys, wouldn’t it be easier just to get women to notice you first, and allow them to approach you? Wouldn’t it be simpler to have them open up eager to make your conversation start with a spark? Wouldn’t it just be smarter to have those women feel your energy from across the room so when you walk by you can catch them checking you out?
Of course!
Alright guys you know what that means. This guy is teaching women and he’s giving an example of what a woman feels. It can show us the steps needed to really turn her on.
1.) Let her feel more attracted to you.
2.) Raise the attraction each time you see her just a little and she will develop a deep emotional attachment.
On top of all his concerns, good looking women kind of scare them. He just does not seem to feel good enough for them. He calls them perfect. He says what if she has a boyfriend. He worries about what to say to them, and how to act around them. Honestly though…I’m not sure if he even cares how attractive she is. He wasn’t clear on that at all.
But I did “not so casually” mention to him one word. One word that can changes your entire dating life. One word that without you will never have consistent success with a beautiful women. In fact you will probably not have much long term success with any woman, no matter how attractive you or I might find her.
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But there’s a huge catch to this. There’s a steep cliff on the end of that statement just waiting to grab your emotional ass and dangle you off the edge. You must be careful enough not to get too close to it. You see when you lean over the edge and peer down into abyss of “we’re just friends.”, it can suck you in quickly. Before you even know it you’re looking back up at the sky falling and failing to her every whim.
The few women I used to let in my life were women that wanted to be just friends with , but I always wanted more. If you have one or more of those women in your life right now,
Get over her and get more women in your life.
It’s the single best thing you can do for yourself to break away from this nice guy label.
Well the other day I had to take a different path. There were people everywhere and instead of dodging the cars parked in the no-parking zone, I went straight across and then cut quickly to the left. My eyes and head turned to avoid any oncoming traffic and instead of seeing a ton of metal coming my way, I noticed this extremely hot blond with pink sweatpants and a white tank top. She looked incredible. A rare event showing for my supermarket to say the least. She was moving with the typical hot girl pace. You know the pace I’m sure. They tend to move a little quicker than most. Obviously to avoid the constant stares and to ultimately avoid making too much eye contact. After all it’s a time saver. One false move and suddenly every guy will attempt to slow her down.
The word Super always seems to remind me of the man of steel and Christopher Reeves. Not at all, as I saw him at least, a super ladies man. He was stuck on one woman and she was just a friend. Clark was this nice guy who couldn’t be further in personality from his confident alter ego.
Natural. Organic. Straight from the earth. Natural Selection and the stronger survive. Each object, plant or animal has a success rate typically coinciding with the food chain. The higher up you are the easier to succeed. Otherwise it’s time to mass reproduce and hope for the best.
Here’s the situation. You’re talking to a woman when all of a sudden she mentions she has a boyfriend. You didn’t ask her if she was seeing someone. You didn’t ask her out on a date. You didn’t ask her for her phone number.
In fact, as far as you know, you didn’t even show any interest in dating at all.
But some reason she decided to throw out,
“Me and my boyfriend…”
“When my boyfriend does that…”
“My boyfriend loves that song…”
“My boyfriend has that same problem..”
A friend of mine just texted me telling me she had been baking in the sun all day. Stuck in the middle of nowhere in a broken down truck. She also didn’t fail to mention how great of a person she is, yeah she’s a bit cocky, but this time it was because she hasn’t bitched at all. All day!
She explains to me it was because she really likes this guy and doesn’t care whether the truck gets fixed or not. It’s allowing them to spend all this time together and she can’t get enough of him.
As I just mentioned, dating doesn’t have to be an extravagant event. You can easily create a fun date by calling her up one day and inviting her out to go shopping. A date like this is a great way to build “assumed familiarity” and get her to know you on a personal level. Furthermore, shopping is great for avoiding the traditional date where you risk awkward “interview-like” questions.
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