Let’s take two guys and one woman. And no I’m not talking about a threesome. The first guy is nice, accommodating, and generally lacks any real potential girlfriends in his life.  The second guy is also nice, but very busy, and has many potential girlfriends in his life. Who’s more of a challenge?

Obviously the second guy is. I’m sure it doesn’t take a genius to realize this. Look around and you see it all over but…

How can you be that challenge when you don’t have a black book filled of girlfriends to compete over you?

How can you be a challenge when you really like a girl and want to let her know, but everyone tells you that when a woman knows you like her too early on, she will lose interest?

When is it safe to let a woman know you like her without scaring her away?

When should you let a  woman know you like her before she loses interest?

and finally…

How can you be that challenge without playing games?

I would say those were the biggest questions I asked myself and for so long didn’t have the answers. I became too available, too accommodating, and never teased because I thought there were player tactics. I was just too nice to use manipulative ways. I tried to separate myself from the typical jerk having his way with women by doing the opposite.

AND IT NEVER WORKED!

All it accomplished was manipulation from the far left of the masculinity scale, the “too nice” side. The effect of this on any woman I interacted with was being labeled as anything but a challenge. I was the typical nice guy man-whore so to speak but I wasn’t getting laid. I was just that easy.

Now I’m not going to lie to you and tell you the answers to those questions above are easily understood then put in practice. I’m not going to tell you that there is a solid black and white line dividing the right answer from the wrong answer. That just wouldn’t be fair to you at all. But I did want to talk a little about the what I feel are the answers and we’ll see where that leads us.

When is it safe to let a woman know you like her without scaring her away?

The words in this question of “letting a woman know” are very misleading. You should show interest in her without directly making it clear you like her. Save the “I like You!” for the kids in school. I realize that you hear women all the time saying,

“I wish men would just let me know they like me. Why do they have to play games.”

I’m blatantly telling you to ignore it and don’t let it affect your actions. The only time you should tell her instead of showing interest is when you are in a committed stable relationship. And even then do it sparingly.

One of the best dating coaches out there for men and women actually gives this advice to women.

Women always want men to express their feelings.  One of the biggest complaints I hear from my women clients is:

“Why can’t he just say he loves me?” or “I wish he would just compliment me more.”

What you need to pay attention to and realize, though, is that men do tell you they love you and compliment you … they just do it USING THEIR OWN LANGUAGE.

Actually, here’s something most experts never tell you about men: MEN SOMETIMES DON’T USE WORDS AT ALL WHEN THEY ARE COMMUNICATING WITH YOU.

Accepting this truism about men will help you to better understand men’s verbal and non-verbal language.

Sometimes it’s not what men say, but it’s their actions that are significant.  It is necessary for women to learn to interpret men’s very roundabout way of communicating with them.

Break New Relationship Man Code – David Wygant

You see I do firmly believe when in a long-term relationship you should verbally express your feelings occasionally. Particularly when your girlfriend or wife is under real extreme mental or physical stress such as death in her family. I only believe this because I feel it can be unfair at times, to expect a woman to  spend extra energy figuring you out.

With all that said. Here are the,

Top Ten Ways to Challenge Women to be Attracted to You!


1.) You show interest by enjoying your own life and challenging her to join you.


How can you be that challenge when you don’t have a black book filled of girlfriends to compete over you?


Let’s say you’re just starting out increasing your dating skills because this is where it’s toughest. Really, how can you not put too much interest in one particular woman when she is the only potential date you have. Of course over time this will change but in the meantime this requires control on your part. You exert control over your actions by stepping back from this woman and not smothering her, or being needy.

2). Give her just enough space to wonder what you’re doing.

You must be strong for this. No excuses. Limit your failures but it is a must to be that challenge. I used a little inspiration on myself everyday by writing down words like this and reading them out loud everyday.

“The stronger I am to resist acting on that needy feeling inside me the more powerful my masculine energy becomes.”

And women can feel this in you. It becomes part of you, naturally and there’s no manipulation in that.


3.) Tell funny stories about you and your friends, that are women.

Yes. Go ahead and do it. But you must learn to refrain from giving unimportant information and information that does not directly relate to the stories.

“My good friend Lisa and I were shopping and we…”

becomes

“This woman I know, Lisa. fun girl, went shopping…”

See the difference. It wasn’t important to the story that Lisa was your friend. What was more important that you know this fun girl and had a humorous experience with her. Which actually is better story telling anyways.

Ahhhhh Haaaaaaa!

If she has a little interest in you she will begin to wonder or even ask your relation to Lisa. Which leads to:

4) Avoid answering every question she asks about you too directly.

This is a dangerous one. Too much won’t work. Too little is not challenging. I know must will call this the cocky/funny response because it is. But I have found there is little room for error which is dangerous for a someone just starting out. This is because every woman, every situation seems to have that perfect required balance. And each man’s level seems to affect the curve in which you can be cocky/funny.

Incidentally David DeAngelo taught me that. I theorized from going through over half his products personally that,

The more confident you become, the more skilled you become, the less cocky you should be in your humor. Use it rarely. You see just being funny isn’t enough to challenge a woman. So there needs to be that cockiness to attract her. But the more confident you become the more naturally your humor will challenge her.


When should you let a woman know you like her before she loses interest?


Again the words “let a woman know” confused the issue in my thinking. Everything seemed to center around the need of letting her know so I don’t lose her. So I had to switch those words around to find the answer.

5.) Show just enough interest to give her the opportunity to miss you.

She won’t really lose interest if she misses you and that takes care of the impossible timing of when to let her know.

That’s really what I did in the story for Law #3. I balanced just enough mystery about what I was doing when Alicia wasn’t there, with just enough BEING THERE for her to get that girl to like me more than any other guy she knew.

The standard Pickup logic may not support this, but I’m here to tell you that if a person is exposed to your presence regularly enough (but not to extremes),they will start to miss you when you’re not around, and they will feel a burning attraction begin to build for you.

Again, this has to be done with the right method and in the right intensity, otherwise it will fizzle out into “friendship” territory.

How to Get a Girl to Like You – The 3 Laws of Attracting Women

Carlos Xuma

This naturally leads itself a little deeper, similar but deeper to:

6.) A mystery challenges the mind to want to know more.

Being mysterious is yes similar but separates itself by challenging her to figure you out. Tell yourself it’s okay to not feel the need to tell her everything about you. It’s just not necessary to blatantly a woman, or anyone for that fact, every bit of information about you.

Have you ever watched a movie where the lead character refuses to tell someone his secret even though it would make his life easier? Have you ever sat at the end of your chair screaming at this individual, “JUST SAY SOMETHING!”  But it was in the character’s best interest to hold certain things about himself, to himself. They were his secrets.

How can you be a challenge when you really like a girl and want to let her know, but everyone tells you that when a woman knows you like her too early on, she will lose interest?

7.) Tease her!

Yes tease her. There is no rule that says because you can do something with a woman that you have to. Walk away once in a while.

How can you be that challenge without playing games?

Teasing her by walking away once in a while does not have to a game that you are playing. But when you think about it, teasing is a game. It’s a fun game that creates anticipation. This anticipation creates a sexually challenging experiences for her. Prove to her that you have the strength to say no. It’s very powerful and when done properly and ethically will create much more exciting experiences for both of you.

8.) Compete over something.

Go play game with her. Challenge her through sports, quiet board games, trivia, and anything you are not too passionate about. The whole purpose here is to have a friendly competition that invokes a challenging experience. Just don’t be a dick when you win. And be a good loser but don’t be afraid to raise the stakes once in while when you do lose. Challenge her some more. Just know when to step back and stop being competitive. It’s not good for relationships, generally speaking to be competitive.  Just a few competitive experiences like a snow ball fight can set you up as a fun challenge.

9.) Be creative.Be Murhpy’s Law and challenge yourself.

Yeah I know. Be creative. What could that possibly mean? It means to challenge her in a way lots of men can’t. Scot McKay put it best in this quote.

When it comes to getting what you want when others want it also, the fact is that someone is going to get what he or she wants. Someone is going to–if even by default–act as the “enforcer” of Murphy’s Law while the others suffer under its iron fist. That someone may as well be you.

Here’s your challenge.  From now on, be Murphy’s Law.

When you see that great woman online, envision all the other guys out there puzzling over what to write her. You may even visualize all the other “Mr. Nice Guy” or “Mr. Creepy Guy” emails flooding her inbox.

Then, without hesitation, read that woman’s profile, find what catches your eye about it, challenge her with a creative first e-mail…and expect results. Be the guy who enthralls her enough to make her want to hide her profile for now–even as other guys are yet in mid-sentence typing to her.

How to Succeed With Women – BE Murphy’s Law Scot McKay

and finally

10.) Don’t be afraid to reject women the right way.

Yes. Rejection is a big part of being a challenge. When a woman realizes that you do have high standards and are not afraid to skillfully reject those you don’t want, you challenge her to be better than the girl you just rejected.

  • How to Reject Her


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There you have it. Top tens ways to challenge practically any women to be attracted to you. Have a great day everyone,

Pete

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