Let’s take two guys and one woman. And no I’m not talking about a threesome. The first guy is nice, accommodating, and generally lacks any real potential girlfriends in his life. The second guy is also nice, but very busy, and has many potential girlfriends in his life.
Who’s more of a challenge?
Obviously the second guy is more of a challenge. But…
- How can you be that challenge when you don’t have a black book filled of girlfriends to compete over you?
- How can you be a challenge when you really like a girl and want to let her know, but everyone tells you that when a woman knows you like her too early on, she will lose interest?
- When is it really safe to let a woman know you like her without scaring her away?
- When should you let a woman know you like her before she loses interest?
- How can you be that challenge without playing games?
You’re in luck. In this post you will not only discover ten ways to challenge a woman but also answers to the questions above.
Below is the “short list” to start us out.
Top Ten Ways to Challenge Women
- You show interest by enjoying your own life and challenging her to join you.
- Give her just enough space to wonder what you’re doing.
- Tell funny stories about you and your friends, that are women.
- Avoid answering every question she asks about you too directly.
- Show just enough interest to give her the opportunity to miss you.
- A mystery challenges the mind to want to know more.
- Tease her!
- Compete over something.
- Be creative. Be Murhpy’s Law and challenge yourself.
- Don’t be afraid to reject women the right way.
Personally, I use to fail at being a challenge because I was too available, too accommodating, and never ever teased. Among many other “nice guy” tactics you could say I was a typical nice guy “man-whore” but I wasn’t getting laid. I was just that easy.
Now I’m not going to lie to you and tell you the answers to those questions above are easily understood then put in practice. I’m not going to tell you that there is a solid black and white line dividing the right answer from the wrong answer. That just wouldn’t be fair to you at all. But I did want to talk a little about them and see where that leads us.
- When is it safe to let a woman know you like her without scaring her away?
The words in this question of “letting a woman know” are very misleading. You should show interest in her without directly making it clear you like her. Save the “I like You!” for the kids in school. I realize you hear women all the time saying,
“I wish men would just let me know they like me. Why do they have to play games.”
I’m blatantly telling you not to listen and don’t let it affect your actions. The only time you should tell her instead of showing interest is when you are in a committed stable relationship. And even then do it sparingly.
One of my favorite dating coaches, David Wygant once wrote,
Women always want men to express their feelings. One of the biggest complaints I hear from my women clients is:
“Why can’t he just say he loves me?” or “I wish he would just compliment me more.”
What you need to pay attention to and realize, though, is that men do tell you they love you and compliment you … they just do it USING THEIR OWN LANGUAGE.
Actually, here’s something most experts never tell you about men: MEN SOMETIMES DON’T USE WORDS AT ALL WHEN THEY ARE COMMUNICATING WITH YOU.
(…) Sometimes it’s not what men say, but it’s their actions that are significant.
You see I firmly believe when in a long-term relationship you should verbally express your feelings occasionally. Particularly when your girlfriend or wife is under real extreme mental or physical stress such as death in her family. I only believe this because I feel it can be unfair at times to expect a woman to spend extra energy figuring you out.
Okay moving on…
Top Ten Ways to Challenge Women to Feel Attracted to You…
1.) You show interest by enjoying your own life and challenging her to join you.
QUESTION: So how can you be that challenge when you don’t have a black book filled of girlfriends to compete over you?
Let’s say you’re just starting out increasing your dating skills because this is where it’s toughest. Really, how can you not put too much interest in one particular woman when she is the only potential date you have. You exert control over your actions by stepping back from any one woman. Never smother or be needy.
And that’s much easier to do when you’re enjoying your life as best as you can.
2). Give her just enough space to wonder what you’re doing.
You must be strong for this. No excuses. Limit your failures but it is a must to be that challenge. I used a little inspiration on myself everyday by writing down stuff and reading them out everyday.
“The stronger I am to resist acting on that needy feeling inside me the more powerful my masculine energy becomes.”
And women can feel this in you. It becomes part of you naturally over time and it works!
3.) Tell funny stories about you and your friends who just happen to be women.
Yes. Go ahead and do it. But you must learn to refrain from giving unimportant junk or information that does not directly relate to the stories.
NOT GOOD- “My good friend Lisa and I were shopping and we…”
MUCH BETTER “This woman I know, Lisa. fun girl, we went shopping…”
The difference is what was not important to the story was that Lisa was your friend. What is important is that you know this fun girl and had a humorous experience with her. Which actually is better story telling anyways.
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Now if you’re talking about other women AND she has a little interest in you she will ask who these women are. Which leads to:
4) Avoid answering every question she asks about you too directly.
Be careful because too much kind of kills the mood and too little is not challenging at all.
What works great is the classic “cocky/funny” response I learned directly from David DeAngelo. He told me to do it right you take a cocky statement and spin a little humor into it.
It takes a little practice but you’ll be more pleasantly surprised how well it works. Keep in mind every situation has a different balance that works great.
I say the more high up she claims to be – be more cocky and definitely sarcastic.
If she’s down to earth then blend a little more lighthearted humor into it.
The more confident you become, the more skilled you become, then the less cocky you should be in your humor. Use it rarely. You see just being funny isn’t enough to challenge a woman. So there needs to be that cockiness to attract her. Also, the more confident you become the more naturally your humor will challenge her.
It’s pretty cool the way all that works.
One more thing – if her questions do not seem to give you an opportunity, like they only require yes or no statements, immediately call her out on it in a funny cock way.
5.) Show just enough interest to give her the opportunity to miss you.
She won’t really lose interest if she is missing you AND you’ll peak her curiosity in you even more. This challenges her to step up to “reserving” time with you.
Here is the best example I’ve found:
I balanced just enough mystery about what I was doing when Alicia wasn’t there, with just enough BEING THERE for her to get that girl to like me more than any other guy she knew.
The standard Pickup logic may not support this, but I’m here to tell you that if a person is exposed to your presence regularly enough (but not to extremes),they will start to miss you when you’re not around, and they will feel a burning attraction begin to build for you.
Again, this has to be done with the right method and in the right intensity, otherwise it will fizzle out into “friendship” territory.
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This naturally leads to challenge number 6:
6.) A mystery challenges the mind to want to know more.
Huh? What does that freaking mean?
I’ll explain from a more recent post:
He IS the ultimate challenge. Physically. Mentally. Emotionally.
…Women are generally considered “nurturers.” And when you don’t ask to be nurtured or present an overly need to be “taken care of” you “trigger” her need to find a way to take care of you without damaging your modest “ego.”
This challenge to her becomes more than just a want – it becomes a desire to figure you out which often leads to her frustration which often leads her to a sexual emotion. These triggers, when lined up, stirs her attraction in such a way, many women can not resist but to get “trapped” in the emotional high it creates.
The absolute way to achieve this challenge is of course to be stable and completely free of approval, but for now just keep some secrets about yourself. Don’t feel the need to give too much information.
Leave just enough room in your conversations to force her to fill in the blanks herself.
Challenge her to figure you out.
Have you ever watched a movie where the lead character refuses to tell someone his secret even though it would make his life easier? Have you ever sat at the end of your chair screaming at this individual, “JUST SAY SOMETHING!”
Well you can be that guy and if you do it well with little things you’ll certainly become an ultimate challenge to her.
QUESTION: How can you be a challenge when you really like a girl and want to let her know, but everyone tells you that when a woman knows you like her too early on, she will lose interest?
The answer is simple:
7.) Tease her!
Yes tease her. There is no rule that says because you can do something with a woman that you have to. Walk away once in a while.
How can you be that challenge without playing games?
Teasing her by walking away once in a while does not have to be a game that you are playing. But when you think about it, teasing is a game. But it’s a fun game that creates anticipation. This anticipation creates a sexually challenging experiences for her.
Prove to her that you have the strength to say no.
It’s very powerful and create much more exciting experiences for both of you.
You can tease her in so many ways but for the sake of this post – tease her in a way which challenges her wit. You’ll be that challenge and she’ll see how smart you are. And of course how much fun and in control of yourself you are.
Here’s some great info to really start teasing women attractively. Tease Her to Please Her 2 ” Teasing is all about raising the stakes of challenge to her, and letting her know that you don’t get all mushy inside when you get near a …”
8.) Compete over something.
Go play game with her.
Challenge her through sports, quiet board games, trivia, and anything you are not too passionate about. Meaning relax and don’t make it a brawl or be the guy that hates to lose or doesn’t know how to beat a woman because he feels bad if he does.
Your purpose is to have a friendly competition that invokes a challenging fun and exciting experience. Just don’t be a dick when you win. Be a good loser and raise the stakes when you do lose.
Just a few competitive experiences like a snow ball fight can set you up as a fun challenge.
No only that but it’s a great way to escalate into a physical experience.
9.) Be creative. Be Murhpy’s Law and challenge yourself.
This means to challenge her in a way lots of men can’t.
Scot McKay put it best in this quote:
When it comes to getting what you want when others want it also, the fact is that someone is going to get what he or she wants. Someone is going to–if even by default–act as the “enforcer” of Murphy’s Law while the others suffer under its iron fist. That someone may as well be you.
Here’s your challenge. From now on, be Murphy’s Law.
When you see that great woman online, envision all the other guys out there puzzling over what to write her. You may even visualize all the other “Mr. Nice Guy” or “Mr. Creepy Guy” emails flooding her inbox.
Then, without hesitation, read that woman’s profile, find what catches your eye about it, challenge her with a creative first e-mail…and expect results. Be the guy who enthralls her enough to make her want to hide her profile for now–even as other guys are yet in mid-sentence typing to her.
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10.) Don’t be afraid to reject women the right way.
Knowing how to reject is a big part of being a challenge.
When a woman realizes that you do have high standards and are not afraid to nicely reject those you don’t want, you challenge her to step up her game around you.
Men with more choices attract more women – and men who hold themselves up high enough not to bend to every woman’s advancement displays:
- Solid decision making skills.
- Clear goals.
- Strength and character.
All four are traits which some women will spend their entire lives looking for just one guy who has them. And if that’s you – you’re doing better than most!
There you have it- 10 ways to challenge women to increase their attraction to you.
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Bonus – 11.) Learn to add some “edge” to your nice guy ways.
I’m not saying to be a dick or play women. Just throw a little edge into your personality.
Bad boys are notorious for challenging women.
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