My Thoughts on How Being Cool Makes you More Attractive

I was talking to a good friend of mine the other day and we were discussing what people seemed to search for but that there was a lack of good material. I looked over at him and said,

“The words how to be cool, what is cool …”

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He laughed in his usual snicker at my revelation but allowed me to continue . I began to tell him I should post more on being a cool guy, and how it would be great subject material. Then I looked at him and said, “But what the hell do I know about being cool, I know I’m a great guy but cool?”

My friend then threw up his arms and exclaimed,

“Yeah right dude. Like you’re not cool. Asshole!”

I thought about it for a minute and I realized that I never sat around thinking if I was cool or not. I did whatever I wanted.  I did follow the usual fads as a child and certain trends for whatever the reason but…

Was I cool? Am I cool now? Am I one of those men that some most people just think, he’s such a cool person.

I’m really cracking myself up writing about this now.  But who cares. What really matters to me is what I think is cool. Right? Sometimes I will stare at a gorgeous moon on a clear night and say to myself, that is so cool. Sometimes I will watch a friend screw something up and make a fool of herself. She will walk over to me and we both laugh, “That was so cool!”

Put in another context the word cool takes on a different meaning. There are groups of people in every generation that are deemed to not be cool. They can include parents, teachers, retired people, and yes, politicians. (remind me to never mention politicians on this site) We’re all most likely going to find ourselves not cool to another group at one point in our life. It’s inevitable.

This is all nice and wonderful but does have to do with me, as a nice guy, understanding women and getting more dates?

That’s an easy one…

Emotions are catchy. People react to each others subtle body language and react in the same way. All this unconscious talking between people is very well documented. The cool guy or woman will undoubtedly affect the people around him in a positive way.

• Women feel comfortable and challenged around a cool man.

• Men everywhere want a cool girl. They will, when given the choice, choose the slightly attractive cool woman over a hot woman who isn’t. And they do this because of the way she makes him feel.

• Let’s not forget the cool couple. Always fun to hang around with. They never out stay their welcome. And they always have interesting stories to tell. They are two cool people who found each other. They bring the party with them so when you stay close to them, you’re always going to have a good time.

Those are just some of the emotions cool people invoke from others around them and the biggest reasons why if a man learns how to be cool, I have no doubt he can get more dates.

Do you think you are cool? Would I think you were cool if I met you?

Do you have measurable real confidence?

Is your self-esteem strong enough to live consciously?

Are you indifferent enough to not always be living in the future.

Are you fearless enough to not worry all the time about what should happen next?

I believe if you can answer those questions with nothing but a yes, then you are a cool person and…

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Cool people attract others because they are in essence free to laugh and have a good time. Their minds are in a state of mind where anxiousness does not exist. This energy is felt by those around them. They make people feel comfortable, happy, and believe it or not, safe. Whether you are a man or a woman if you invoke those feelings in others you will be seen as highly attractive. And that attraction created is strong enough to break down many social barriers.

One example.

A young freshman in college finds herself falling for the, not so nerdy forty-year old professor. He’s not enough that good-looking. He doesn’t even know how to dress. So why does this young girl find herself feeling so attracted to him that she is willing to ignore all social standards and date him. Sure you can go the father figure way and I’m sure in a way it is there, but also think of this. How many hot young women do you see falling for the not so cool professor. It just doesn’t happen.

The attraction she feels which compels her to act, comes from:

His confidence in what he teaches. His high self-esteem allows him to teach other successfully. But his indifference says he doesn’t care whether anyone passes his class or not. And lastly his fearless attitude is proven day after day when, speaking in public. He’s just that cool professor.

If you want women more attracted to you and to have more options in your dating life, look closely at those traits I have listed and study each one separately. As you progress through each one you will begin to notice changes around you. You will notice by changing yourself, your surrounding begins to change around you. Because your perception is shifting.

You will begin to notice that…

• When you are truly confident you can lead others competently and others will suddenly want to follow you.

• When you have high self-esteem you can help others more effectively and others will want to learn what you now.

• When you are indifferent to outcomes you will be less anxious, more free, generally a more fun guy to be around, and others will smile with you.

• When you are fearless others will feel safe around you.

And women are magnetically drawn to a man who has learned to live that way. She can’t resist that social leader.

One last thing. If you are one of those nice guys that believes being cool has something to do with following current fads or the clothes you where, or if you’re one of those guys that refuses to give in to the current social scenes because you don’t want to be like everyone else, I’m here to tell you this, being cool means you dictate the trends. You make the clothes you wear. And you become the leader, not the follower. Being cool is a state of mind, it’s a way of life, and it’s a method of living your life consciously. And when learned properly, is a proven ability to have women literally begging to be your girl.

If you are seriously interested on learning about being cool, read my review of a great program, The Guide To Being Cooler. It might just be exactly what you are looking for.

See you around guys,

Pete

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